... put up with this G*WNO for?
OK... So I was dating a Polish woman, who (surprise surprise) told me she'd never let me go, loved me, wanted to see me every day, phoned me every day, etc etc.
But (and there's always a "but", isn't there).
Every day included some sort of put-down, criticism, insult or verbal abuse.
My hair, my clothes, my job, the money I earn (new job pays over £35K p.a., not bad in a recession), my car... everything about me is "wrong" and quite clearly unacceptable, and I'm simply not good enough. But after 2 or 3 days apart, it's all “moj kochany misiu” again.
Told me in front of her son that "she doesn't want my children", when she knew that I want a child, then claimed that I misunderstood, and that she actually said that she “doesn't want more children”. Rubbish, I'm not deaf, or stupid. I can't think of many more insulting things to say to someone in a public place. If she'd said I had a small c*ck and was cr*p in bed, well, it's still an insult, but at least you can have surgery and get educated :) But this was a deep, deep insult. And where/when she chose to say it, made it even worse.
Having as close to 100% Polish blood as is possible, having been brought up in a culturally and linguistically POLISH home, and being able to trace my family back to the mid-1800s clearly wasn't enough - I'm not "A REAL POLE" because I wasn't born there! And therefore fair game for insults. Funny how she was quite happy to listen to my FLUENT Polish all day long (which EVERYONE compliments, and I was once told by one of those "real Poles" she worships that 85% of what I say is like a native - my Polish has got even better since then, btw), read my written translations, and couldn't actually be bothered speaking English except at work - which, unsurprisingly, led to more insults - "It's embarrassing telling people I work with that I'm dating an English guy who won't teach me English".
Well, darling, I'M NOT ****ING ENGLISH (not that there's anything wrong with being English, it's just that I'm... not ;) you get me? ) Secondly, YOU COULDN'T BE BOTHERED. And finally, you don't even want to associate with the "ANGOLE" because they are beneath you, and all your crowd is from Poland (apart from me) and SO superior! </sarcasm>
Amongst the things she accused me of was being gay (and therefore, by default, in her opinion that obviously obviously a paedo as well) - because I'm not a hard-drinking, chain-smoking dresiarz like many of her male friends - an especially stupid thing to say when I was the one who ALWAYS had to initiate sex, she said she wasn't really that bothered about it anyway (whereas I need and always got plenty - even with other Polish women! lol) - sorry darling, but once a month is NOT enough. And she even suggested that she might be better off with a woman. So who's more likely to be gay, eh?
As if telling me I must ALWAYS have my phone switched off when I'm with her (when, of course, SHE is entitled to answer EVERY call on her phone!) wasn't bad enough, eventually she also said "you don't need friends, you've got me". And even managed to insult my mother as well, by saying that "your mum obviously had no idea how to bring up a decent, respectful, polite child did she", for daring to answer back to one of her insults.
When I told my best friends and close work colleagues (who I count as friends as well), they didn't recognise the person being described. For your information, I'm not one of those people who has different "personas" and puts on a fake face at work- I'm a pretty easy-going, friendly, polite and VERY respectful person, who takes a lot to wind up, and even then I'm probably not going to stab you up (lol) – with me, what you see is what you get, wherever I am. I tell it like it is. No b******t.
Before anyone congratulates me on “finally” meeting a Polish woman, and finding out the hard way what “they are really like”, let me just add that I've spent 12 years in relationships with Polish women. But never have I come across one as abusive like this. My best mate told me to "dump the evil controlling psycho before it's too late" over a year ago, but did I listen? No.
Until she told me that she could "easily get a rich model tomorrow, if I wanted to... whereas YOU can't". After which, I had to plan my escape.
Good riddance. I deserve better.
And I've never wanted to date a model anyway. Or puste blachary.
Size 16 is way sexier anyway. :)
the situation is not difficult yet... it's just a warm up...
My original title was completely changed by the mods, I didn't describe her as "difficult" in the first place. The first line makes no sense since the edit, either :)
No one is criticising polish women here,it's a polish forum,therefore it is appropriate place to talk about this particular polish woman.
Exactly, I just felt in the mood for posting to a Polish forum about a particular Polish woman, because I'm also Polish. I'm hardly going to post this to a Pakistani forum, am I? lol. This is NOT a "why are all Polish women like this?" thread, because they aren't!
What's keeping me going is
(a) knowing that they aren't all like that, and
(b) hoping I meet another Polish woman soon, because they are still my first choice of partner. One lazy, gold-digging b*tch isn't going to stop me from finding happiness again! ;)
Oh really? Well, if she really thinks she can get someone soooooo much better than you, tell her... as my Grandma used to say... "don't let the door hit ya in the @$$ on the way out."
I'd love to be able to tell her this, but it's probably too late now.
Unless I bump into her at the weekend. lol :)
No one is criticising polish women here,it's a polish forum,therefore it is appropriate place to talk about this particular polish woman
my point was not just to defend Polish women on a Polish forum, i'm just commenting that a woman could do this no matter where she is from.
No one is criticising polish women here
then what is the OP doing?? if that is not being critical then i don't know what is. It may not have been written to be critical but it sure can look like it
some traits are definitely based on culture or ethnicity. i have never met am american woman with that kind of attitude. otoh, i've known plent of polish men and women that are just exactly like that.. so in conclusion.. some "generalities" are spot on.
what so there are not stuck up women in America, women who think they are above others?? come on i fail to believe that.
When I told my best friends and close work colleagues (who I count as friends as well), they didn't recognise the person being described.
This is disgusting.
She is making herself out to be something different in front of other people and abusing her spouse at home.
A real sick coward.
Jihozapad, please leave her.
I think you will have the support of almost everyone on this forum.
I thought about this story today.
It makes me want to vomit.
I really hope this is a very rare case for Polish Women inside Poland.
Verbally abusive women are some of the worse kinds of women.
Perverting the supportive role that they should have.
You won't regret it.
In fact you will probably regret you stayed so long.
Well done you, I wish we could all hear her version of the story as I find it difficult to trust liars and cheaters.
you need to watch who you're calling a liar/cheater, I've never cheated on anyone, but I'll be damned if I'm going to be treated like that by anyone. It may have been more bearable if there was more frequent sex, but there wasn't. So why stay?
Would you put up with all the above, almost daily, for 15 months? I doubt it. I've already had one cheating wife, and another controlling relationship, so I learned how (and when) to get out before it was too late, before all my self-esteem was destroyed. I got out just in time. I don't expect you to understand.