Jihozapad
20 Jun 2009 / #1
... put up with this G*WNO for?
OK... So I was dating a Polish woman, who (surprise surprise) told me she'd never let me go, loved me, wanted to see me every day, phoned me every day, etc etc.
But (and there's always a "but", isn't there).
Every day included some sort of put-down, criticism, insult or verbal abuse.
My hair, my clothes, my job, the money I earn (new job pays over £35K p.a., not bad in a recession), my car... everything about me is "wrong" and quite clearly unacceptable, and I'm simply not good enough. But after 2 or 3 days apart, it's all “moj kochany misiu” again.
Told me in front of her son that "she doesn't want my children", when she knew that I want a child, then claimed that I misunderstood, and that she actually said that she “doesn't want more children”. Rubbish, I'm not deaf, or stupid. I can't think of many more insulting things to say to someone in a public place. If she'd said I had a small c*ck and was cr*p in bed, well, it's still an insult, but at least you can have surgery and get educated :) But this was a deep, deep insult. And where/when she chose to say it, made it even worse.
Having as close to 100% Polish blood as is possible, having been brought up in a culturally and linguistically POLISH home, and being able to trace my family back to the mid-1800s clearly wasn't enough - I'm not "A REAL POLE" because I wasn't born there! And therefore fair game for insults. Funny how she was quite happy to listen to my FLUENT Polish all day long (which EVERYONE compliments, and I was once told by one of those "real Poles" she worships that 85% of what I say is like a native - my Polish has got even better since then, btw), read my written translations, and couldn't actually be bothered speaking English except at work - which, unsurprisingly, led to more insults - "It's embarrassing telling people I work with that I'm dating an English guy who won't teach me English".
Well, darling, I'M NOT ****ING ENGLISH (not that there's anything wrong with being English, it's just that I'm... not ;) you get me? ) Secondly, YOU COULDN'T BE BOTHERED. And finally, you don't even want to associate with the "ANGOLE" because they are beneath you, and all your crowd is from Poland (apart from me) and SO superior! </sarcasm>
Amongst the things she accused me of was being gay (and therefore, by default, in her opinion that obviously obviously a paedo as well) - because I'm not a hard-drinking, chain-smoking dresiarz like many of her male friends - an especially stupid thing to say when I was the one who ALWAYS had to initiate sex, she said she wasn't really that bothered about it anyway (whereas I need and always got plenty - even with other Polish women! lol) - sorry darling, but once a month is NOT enough. And she even suggested that she might be better off with a woman. So who's more likely to be gay, eh?
As if telling me I must ALWAYS have my phone switched off when I'm with her (when, of course, SHE is entitled to answer EVERY call on her phone!) wasn't bad enough, eventually she also said "you don't need friends, you've got me". And even managed to insult my mother as well, by saying that "your mum obviously had no idea how to bring up a decent, respectful, polite child did she", for daring to answer back to one of her insults.
When I told my best friends and close work colleagues (who I count as friends as well), they didn't recognise the person being described. For your information, I'm not one of those people who has different "personas" and puts on a fake face at work- I'm a pretty easy-going, friendly, polite and VERY respectful person, who takes a lot to wind up, and even then I'm probably not going to stab you up (lol) – with me, what you see is what you get, wherever I am. I tell it like it is. No b******t.
Before anyone congratulates me on “finally” meeting a Polish woman, and finding out the hard way what “they are really like”, let me just add that I've spent 12 years in relationships with Polish women. But never have I come across one as abusive like this. My best mate told me to "dump the evil controlling psycho before it's too late" over a year ago, but did I listen? No.
Until she told me that she could "easily get a rich model tomorrow, if I wanted to... whereas YOU can't". After which, I had to plan my escape.
Good riddance. I deserve better.
And I've never wanted to date a model anyway. Or puste blachary.
Size 16 is way sexier anyway. :)
OK... So I was dating a Polish woman, who (surprise surprise) told me she'd never let me go, loved me, wanted to see me every day, phoned me every day, etc etc.
But (and there's always a "but", isn't there).
Every day included some sort of put-down, criticism, insult or verbal abuse.
My hair, my clothes, my job, the money I earn (new job pays over £35K p.a., not bad in a recession), my car... everything about me is "wrong" and quite clearly unacceptable, and I'm simply not good enough. But after 2 or 3 days apart, it's all “moj kochany misiu” again.
Told me in front of her son that "she doesn't want my children", when she knew that I want a child, then claimed that I misunderstood, and that she actually said that she “doesn't want more children”. Rubbish, I'm not deaf, or stupid. I can't think of many more insulting things to say to someone in a public place. If she'd said I had a small c*ck and was cr*p in bed, well, it's still an insult, but at least you can have surgery and get educated :) But this was a deep, deep insult. And where/when she chose to say it, made it even worse.
Having as close to 100% Polish blood as is possible, having been brought up in a culturally and linguistically POLISH home, and being able to trace my family back to the mid-1800s clearly wasn't enough - I'm not "A REAL POLE" because I wasn't born there! And therefore fair game for insults. Funny how she was quite happy to listen to my FLUENT Polish all day long (which EVERYONE compliments, and I was once told by one of those "real Poles" she worships that 85% of what I say is like a native - my Polish has got even better since then, btw), read my written translations, and couldn't actually be bothered speaking English except at work - which, unsurprisingly, led to more insults - "It's embarrassing telling people I work with that I'm dating an English guy who won't teach me English".
Well, darling, I'M NOT ****ING ENGLISH (not that there's anything wrong with being English, it's just that I'm... not ;) you get me? ) Secondly, YOU COULDN'T BE BOTHERED. And finally, you don't even want to associate with the "ANGOLE" because they are beneath you, and all your crowd is from Poland (apart from me) and SO superior! </sarcasm>
Amongst the things she accused me of was being gay (and therefore, by default, in her opinion that obviously obviously a paedo as well) - because I'm not a hard-drinking, chain-smoking dresiarz like many of her male friends - an especially stupid thing to say when I was the one who ALWAYS had to initiate sex, she said she wasn't really that bothered about it anyway (whereas I need and always got plenty - even with other Polish women! lol) - sorry darling, but once a month is NOT enough. And she even suggested that she might be better off with a woman. So who's more likely to be gay, eh?
As if telling me I must ALWAYS have my phone switched off when I'm with her (when, of course, SHE is entitled to answer EVERY call on her phone!) wasn't bad enough, eventually she also said "you don't need friends, you've got me". And even managed to insult my mother as well, by saying that "your mum obviously had no idea how to bring up a decent, respectful, polite child did she", for daring to answer back to one of her insults.
When I told my best friends and close work colleagues (who I count as friends as well), they didn't recognise the person being described. For your information, I'm not one of those people who has different "personas" and puts on a fake face at work- I'm a pretty easy-going, friendly, polite and VERY respectful person, who takes a lot to wind up, and even then I'm probably not going to stab you up (lol) – with me, what you see is what you get, wherever I am. I tell it like it is. No b******t.
Before anyone congratulates me on “finally” meeting a Polish woman, and finding out the hard way what “they are really like”, let me just add that I've spent 12 years in relationships with Polish women. But never have I come across one as abusive like this. My best mate told me to "dump the evil controlling psycho before it's too late" over a year ago, but did I listen? No.
Until she told me that she could "easily get a rich model tomorrow, if I wanted to... whereas YOU can't". After which, I had to plan my escape.
Good riddance. I deserve better.
And I've never wanted to date a model anyway. Or puste blachary.
Size 16 is way sexier anyway. :)