Love / Need advice with Polish girl, I like her but she has a boyfriend. [114]

I've decided to take most people's advice and end it with her, which I will do later this week when I see her next.

I would rather talk and do it to her face than over the phone. I know it's going to hurt but I think it's time I realised (probably a long time ago) that nothing will come of this.

Love / Need advice with Polish girl, I like her but she has a boyfriend. [114]

Did that before, won't do it again. I know that if (when?) I decide to give up on it that I won't be able to be her friend again, at least not for a while.

Love / Need advice with Polish girl, I like her but she has a boyfriend. [114]

You're right in that I need to find a bit more dignity but I also have been in this situation before on both sides of it so I know what it feels like to be both cheated on and have something like this not work out.

It's why i'm so annoyed with myself because I know the signs, i'm starting to see them again yet i'm still there like an idiot.

As for me acting macho, lol i'm far from that. I'm not the type to go bragging to my friends about conquests with women.

The worst feeling is I know all this, I know i'm being a complete bastard and don't like being on the other end but at the end of the day, I still hope that whatever has happened between me and her gives her the strength to leave that sorry excuse of a boyfriend of her's. Any man who hits another women is complete scum.

Love / Need advice with Polish girl, I like her but she has a boyfriend. [114]

I know that a month ago he beat her and from her friends I know that he has done once or twice before. I noticed she got nervous and protective when someone else mentioned it to her today as well, thats what got me even more curious.

I understand what everyone has been saying about what she is probably doing, hell, I even know deep down what it is that I should do but for some reason I keep thinking that she's different and that she will move out soon.

I would keep asking her about when she's going to move and what's going on but I don't want to come across as rushing her (I understand she's been with this guy for a long time).

I figure if nothing has changed by the beginning of september then I will just get the hell out of there. It will have been 3 months by then, would I be wrong to expect some change by then or is it still too soon?

I know i must sound like a right mug but I know that if 100% nothing will happen then I have to move on. I already have other plans (been considering travelling to Australia for a long time, saving money for that).

Love / Need advice with Polish girl, I like her but she has a boyfriend. [114]

haha yeah we've done a lot, i'll leave it at that.

But what a lot of people have been saying is starting to make sense, If she wanted to be with me that much then she would do anything to be with me, like she did before her boyfriend found out.

Earlier this week she cooked for me and has generally been her old self, which really surprised me. We was also joking around today and she said something about other girlfriends, I asked her if she wanted me to find another one and she said no.

Something else I'm curious about is that today I noticed a scratch down the top of her arm which was also bruised. I asked her about this and she said she doesn't know what it was and only noticed it on Sunday, sounded very suspicious to me.

Love / Need advice with Polish girl, I like her but she has a boyfriend. [114]

Yeah that sounds like very good advice. Starting to get the feeling that this isn't going to work out now between us, which hurts but I know I can get over it.

This past month we haven't been out over the weekend, she says its because her boyfriend knows about me that she can't find a good enough excuse. If she cared about me that much would she find a way to come out still or am I being a bit selfish?

Her messages to me have become less affectionate but she still occasionally writes me Buziaki at the end of her messages, I've also found out that her boyfriend has started to "change".

On the other hand she has been talking to two of her friends at work about me. One of them she said that she was "seeing this other guy", that being around him makes her so happy and she's miserable when she goes home but she doesn't know what to do because she doesn't want to hurt her boyfriend's feelings.

The other girl, who is probably her best and only true friend (she said she sees her like a sister) she told that she will leave her boyfriend and that she really cares about me. Her friend told me that she knows her boyfriend personally and that he's always been nasty to her.

She tells me to wait for her to find a new place to live and if she truly wants to be with me then i will step back and give her the time she needs. If she doesn't but isn't telling me, how long do I wait, i can't put my life on hold forever but I don't want to rush her either.

Sorry for the long post lol.

Love / Need advice with Polish girl, I like her but she has a boyfriend. [114]

I'm curious to know what the typical Polish male mentality is regarding girlfriends (sorry if i'm being stereotypical). I found out today (haven't seen her for a few days) that he beat her up and that he's done it before in the past a few times when he's drunk.

I know what i've been doing is wrong but after finding this out I hope that even if she doesn't choose to be with me, that she'll leave him, for her sake.

Love / Need advice with Polish girl, I like her but she has a boyfriend. [114]

So a lot has happened these last few days and I met her for the first time in those few days. She realises that she has to make a decision between us now, her boyfriend has "changed" and is sorry and all that.

She was telling me that she really cares about me and if she didn't she would've ended it with me a long time ago. She says she's a lot happier and has more energy when she's with me and she even asked me to kiss her just before she left.

If i'm honest with myself, I would be very surprised if she chose me. She knows what it will be like with him but with me its a gamble. It hurts a lot but I think I should start preparing myself for, in my opinion, the inevitable outcome.

Love / Need advice with Polish girl, I like her but she has a boyfriend. [114]

Thought I would update this a little. Things have gotten a lot more serious between us and she's told me that her boyfriend knows that there is another guy but now what she's done and that she's looking for a new place to live.

We went out this last weekend and spent the night together. She told me today that she's feeling bad about having to lie all the time and thinks that we should slow down a bit before she moves out.

Love / Need advice with Polish girl, I like her but she has a boyfriend. [114]

I know that what i'm doing is wrong but I think i've developed feelings for this girl that I never planned for. We are very close and she finally admitted to me today that in her heart she more than likes me but doesn't know what to do.

She seems to not believe me when I tell her that I don't want anyone else and that i'm not using her etc.

Oh, we are in England btw and i've always believed that it doesn't matter where you come from in you have true feelings for each other.

Love / Need advice with Polish girl, I like her but she has a boyfriend. [114]

I understand that it's up to her to decide what she wants to do, i've even been in this same situation before so I don't know why i'm setting myself up for this again.

But still, with her i feel like its something special.

Language / Need help teaching a polish friend English [3]

As it happens I am near London so I will try those book stores for sure.