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BLACK GUYS POLISH WOMEN [809]
Firstly I have to apologise for the length, I read this thread and felt the need to comment (or write an essay!) As for me, I'm a Black guy from the UK (parents are Jamaican, I was born in UK, as such I class myself as Black British).
I have a friend(girl) who is Polish, from time to time we like to book short breaks away together, just to chill out and catch up. This time it was her choice and she chose Poznan. After doing a little research I wobbled for a bit and had second thoughts, I chose to look at the 'negative' views that are around on the internet, the ones that expressed it wasn't good for a Black guy to be in Poland (never mind walking around with a Polish girl on his arm!). Anyhow, life is too short and so...we went. I came back 2 days ago and yes...an interesting experience for sure.
For me Poznan is a beautiful place, nice architecture, vibrant and as it happens pretty laid back. I was too busy expecting the worse that I'd forgot what I was going for...the culture, to experience a little of Poland. As I walked the streets, yes we were noticed but not as I'd expected. I guess when you truly look into a persons face they can't really hide their real feelings. It's true that the 'odd' look was one of disgust or amazement, my favorite was an old woman who stood there open mouthed (which was full of food) as my Polish friend linked arms with me walking through Poznan square, still...it wasn't really a bad luck, it just seemed she couldn't believe what she was seeing, but she made no comment. I arrived in Poznan on the night Poland played Austria (a game you should have won ;). All the bars were packed and I sat and watched the football with some locals. I got no grief, not many looks really, just more of a party atmosphere all round. Yes, I had my wits about me and yes, I'm aware their are undesirables about, but in truth, I felt pretty calm that night, even more so after a few vodkas. The lads sang on the square, setting off fireworks, I walked past them...no grief, no nothing!
I was only there for a few days but what I did notice was this. The keyboard Kings & Queens who pollute a few forums with their over zealous views are probably not the majority they think they are. As said, people did look at us as a couple, some curious, some dislike, but the majority, well the majority was something else, it was like a look of acceptance...not acceptance for me or the girl that I was with. An acceptance that Poland is changing, its moving forward, and its happening fast. The main of the people seemed on the ball and I think they're open to change. In honesty, quite a few smiles were sent my way. And I don't just mean by girls looking for a quick flirtation, I mean by Polish people in general, couples, young, old, etc, etc. On the issue of Polish women, agreed...alot of attractive women around, some would look and some wouldn't, just like I'd look at some and others I wouldn't. Attraction is a personal thing, it's quite funny that its even being debated really. We all like who we like, don't think any kind of generalisation is going to get to the bottom of it. Even funnier was brain size and race coming into the equation...mmm...what about Soul size? if my shines brighter than yours does it make me more intelligent? closer to God? but then...what if you don't believe in God?...bit of non-argument really!
Anyhow, I'll stop ranting and get back to Poznan. Yes I was cautious, but I'm glad I went. The people of Poznan still seemed calm not as stressed as their British counterparts maybe, I could still see a quality of life there. Don't get me wrong, I love England, but like Poland, it is in transition at the moment, and sometimes seems a little tooo hectic for the likes of moi!!! But still, it is home :) To me, Poland is integrating and its happening fast. With so many nationals out of the country an exchange of cultures and diversity is a natural movement/flow. Forgot to mention, the food was wicked too. As for Black guys and white girls...figure we just do what feels right, maybe start with good guys for good girls and work it out from there...
