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thearcher   
21 Apr 2009
Love / I'm pregnant by my Polish boyfriend but he wants me to abort it! [132]

hi all i've been with my polish boyfriend for almost a year until last month he started ringing and texting another girl constantly and i overheard his plans to go meet her in poland and telling her he was completely single so we had a huge fight. now i find out that i'm 2 months pregnant.

it was a big shock but his reaction shocked me even more, he has no plans to stay here and wants me to go to the uk to abort it.

i'm upset and confused to say the least, i'm not usually a naive person but i really thought he was better than this, me being from another country didnt seem to bother him the whole year we were together... and i really don't like the idea of raising a child on my own, i would prefer the child to have a father. plus there's the financial worries and the thoughts of telling my own family im dreading my fathers reaction, he's a big believer in marriage before kids etc.

i've never been so confused in my life i have no clue what to do as both keeping or aborting the baby will be hard... it hurts even more that he's still constantly talking to that girl and seems even more determined to meet her now...

i don't want any religious lectures here i'm looking for advice from people who have maybe been in similar situation? do you have any regrets / advice??
thearcher   
21 Apr 2009
Love / I'm pregnant by my Polish boyfriend but he wants me to abort it! [132]

hi all, thanks for all your comments. he called me today to say that he is sorry for everything and really worried about me but if i go ahead with the pregnancy he wouldn't want to leave the baby but is trying to make me feel guilty because it's "messing up his life plans"!!

also he is terrified in case that new girl in poland finds out about me (but doesn't seem to care that i know about her) in case it ruins his chances of having a future with her!! unbelievable! i mean this wasn't exactly in my plans either and he's never actually met her yet just contact over the internet.

i just have to accept the fact that he's not going to be involved in any decision i make. i've never met someone so selfish in my life!
thearcher   
22 Apr 2009
Love / I'm pregnant by my Polish boyfriend but he wants me to abort it! [132]

i have to admit my first thought was to contact this girl and tell her all about me but unfortunately he's smart enough to suspect that i'd do this so i have absolutely no access to his phone to get her number. the only other way is through nasza-klasa, which i might try... i don't know if that would do any good tho.

i can't really blame her as he's told her all along that he was single and she knows nothing about me! even if she was an ex girlfriend it would be a bit more understandable but all he's had with her so far is internet contact... until the end of the month when he meets her for the first time..

thanks as well for all your comments, they are helping..
i've stopped answering him so i can think properly because he's trying his hardest to tell me all the reasons i shouldn't keep the baby and how he's really sorry but it will ruin his future and blablabla..

if i had listened to half the sh** he's saying i would have topped myself by now. luckily tho i'm not but it's still an impossible decision either way.

So you guys had sex without contraception, you had no period for 2 months and you were still suprised when you found out you're pregnant. Considering the fact you're English, I wouldn't really blame a boy for being rather into a Polish chick, though he's obviously an azzhole telling you whether you should abort.

Firstly i am not English, if i were then i wouldn't be talking about "going to the UK to abort it". we always used contraception but it didn't work. Not all contraception is 100% effective all of the time.

Then again, you're not much better sleeping with him in the first place.

He was my boyfriend and was a lot nicer before this happened!! have you never slept with your boyfriend no???
thearcher   
24 Apr 2009
Love / I'm pregnant by my Polish boyfriend but he wants me to abort it! [132]

The poster of this thread is very stupid for having sex and not being on the Pill or having the man protect himself its her fucken fault

LA Girl, please read all of my post before you make assumptions.. i DID USE CONTRACEPTION!! It obviously didn't work. As i've said before no Contraception is 100% effective and i am proof of that.