Love / My polish g/f can be a nightmare,is it always like this [262]

Hey guy's/ladies

Thanx for taking time to read this thread.We have talked alot over the last day me and my g/f.She has booked an appointment with a phsycologist tomorrow afternoon,she says she knows that she is being horrible to me,and she said she does feel guilty,and she knows she is pushing me away.I told her i can't keep going like this,i said she makes me not want to come home after work.I said we should talk about our hopes and fears,she is very insecure,and don't get me wrong sometimes i can be,i just hope she does go to the phsycologist tomorrow.

I really do think the world of her,but this is starting to drain me right out.

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Hello all

She had her first session last night,and she said it went ok,she told me all about it.It does sound like she wants to make the effort to change.When we split up last week i stayed over at my mums house for 2 nights,i didn't speak to her,or contact her for 2 days,that was thurs and fri,on saturday i went back to the house we rent together.We had a long talk,and she said she wasn't sure if she wanted to be single,as she had not seen me for 2 days.And last night she said the same thing again,she said "i know you can just walk away" i said "are you surprised?"and i said its not because i want to go,but because she is making me want to.Sometimes i feel she is genuine and wants to make this relationship work,other times i am really not so sure.

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Not really sure how long i should give her?i feel i should give her a little time,see what happens,she has always said that this is her "character" i always say "its not a character,its a power trip"i try my hardest to stand up to her,and i feel sometimes that its this attitude that wins,like when i act that way,she responds more.I do agree that maybe one day she will just leave.I am really not sure what i should do,give her a chance,or walk away?

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She does make me happy most of the time,she can be a very nice person,but when she gets stressed she is a real nightmare,she accuses me of things,and checks my phone,any reason to try and pick a fight,if i answer back,and get into an arguement,she soon seems to calm down,its like she needs the confrontation.As for the phsycologist she said she made the appointment last thursday,and she showed me a piece of paper telling saying what it was,and it was from the place she went to.i feel that i should give it a little time,i do feel most of the time that she is genuine what she says.Ihave said to her that if she is not prepaired to help me with this relationship then i will have to walk away.

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Funny you say about the pill,she was on it when i met her,and for the first 8 months,and she was even worse,really jealous and possesive,she has been off it since xmas and she is much better,but she has been hinting lately that she wants to go back on it.but i really don't want her to.

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We had a holiday last april we went to turkey together,her father did pass away in march this year,but believe me she ain't like this cus of him.She has been like this since about 5 weeks after i met her.

Today she has been really nasty to me saying i don't earn enough money and i should take another job,but she works part time,and i cover my share of the rent and bills,i think u people are right its time to ditch this woman,she will never change,she just wants someone who will pay her way in life,she told me that if i don't get another part time job we are finished,so i said that it then.

It hurts like hell but she has made me an emotional wreck,my life is not my own anymore.

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I just don't know why she is being like this,it is beyond me.

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Hey marek.

Come on fella don't hold back on me,tell me what you really think??lol

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I went back over last night,and we went out into the city centre we live in,just for a few drinks and a chat...........DIDN'T go well,i told her that i earn enough money and i do not need another job,she seemed ok about it,i said maybe she should get another one as she only works part time,and i earn 3 times what she does in a week.She just pulled a funny face,and said she had savings she can live on.I said they would run out soon,and i would not be prepaired to pay her way,i told her that if she didn't like that,then tough.We had a bit of a row,nothing massive,and she done her crying routine,and so i stuck her in a taxi back home,and i stayed out,and walked home,got in about 2am,she was sleeping in the dinning room on the sofa bed,so i just went to bed,she gets up at 5.15am for work,not spoke since.Not expecting it to be a good weekend now.

I said to her last night while we were out that she has not right to treat me,or anyone else like this,she says she does it when she gets stressed,and doesn't realise she is doing it,i said you do it cus you want to control me,and i won't be controled,and she can't try to run me by fear,the fear of loosing her.

I know all you people on here say i should leave her,and you are all probably right,but i can't just walk away,i know i should,we are renting a house,and we have 4 months left,and it would cost me lots to get out.she has an accounting exam in just over a week so i know she is going to get alot more stressed.

So now i have to see what happens

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I have tried everything,i support her in all she does,i am with her all the time,she is doing an accounting course,an she gets stressed to hell,and she takes it all out on me,and still i go back home everynight.Tonight i get home after working 12 hours,and i just want to sleep,but because i didn't help her with a job application form,she starts again,her pc freezes up after she has just done 2 hours of work,so she can't save it,i said there is nothing you can do,and asked if she wanted to use mine,i said i know you will have to start again,so i will help,and all i get is F-THIS F THAT,u don't help me your only with me cus you need something from me.Oh yeah so naturally when she is putting me down,my first thought is "i love you" I tell her at least once a day i love her.just seems no matter how hard i try.....i am always wrong.

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I have told her that i don't want to be her emotional punchbag,i said i want her to treat me the way i treat her,i will do anything for her,anything i can that is,i get this from her alot lately,been the last 2 weekends,happened again tonight,so i just walked out,and now i am at my mums for the time being,think i might have to give the house up,means its going to cost me alot of money,money i just don't have right now,but i can't go on like this,she has her final accounting exam next tuesday,so i know she is going to get alot worse,there is a big drum show in london this weekend,she said she don't mind me going,then she said she might right me all day if she gets stressed,i said you saying that just so i don't go,and she smiled........man my life sucks big time,why can't i just be a f**king man and walk away from her.its like she has a hold over me....and she knows it

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I know what you mean when she is on her period,its even worse,and that will be the same time as her exam,next tuesday,she is always telling me she doesn't know what she is doing,when she does it,just not sure i believe that.I stayed at my mums 2 nights last week,and 2 nights the week before,incidently it was the same 2 nights,thurs/friday,the last 2 weeks in a row she has started arguements on a thursday night,i stayed at my mums last night,and never heard anything from her,usually i do,she keeps saying she thinks she shouldn't be in a relationship,cus of the way she is,today she has a counselling session,i am not going to contact her today at all

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Patryk_Pati

While i appreciate your feedback,you make it sound like i haven't tried to talk it through with her,i have on many different occasions,i have told her what i think,i have asked her about cultural differences,and she just likes to hide behind them,as for family orientated,she has a daughter which she left in poland,when she first came to the uk,and she didn't bring her over until 2 and a half years later,now she is over here she takes no notice of her,all she says is "i have my own life to live" so why bring her over here??i have talked to my g/f time and time again,and trust me if it don't ALL go her way, then i get the "we are splitting up" routine again.I am not saying she is a horrible person all the time,just when she gets stressed,she said to me yesterday that she doesn't even like me sitting in a different room to her,and she hates me using the internet,as for me not having a backbone,i have told her many many times i don't like the way she treats me sometimes,and all i get is "its my character" and to make it worse her daughter is a minature version of her mother,same attitude and same sayings,she calls me stupid all the time.I work dam hard to be where i want to in life,and i have worked dam hard to keep this relationship going.slightest little problem and she wants to get out of it,like her pc yesterday.

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ABUSIVE man that is an understatement,i have been called worthless,a looser,and thats just the ones i remember,oh and the usual swear words.

Kilkline.........tried that but not in those words,other day she said something i didn't like,and i said "how ******* dare you say that" and "who the **** do you think you are" she just looked at me,not sure what response she gave me really.i am sure she thinks if i try and put my foot down then she will just dump me.

Not heard anything since a text from her last night saying she had packed all my stuff,lol,in 10 minutes,still i will go back to the house tomorrow night,and see whats happening,she said she had thrown all my stuff in the bin,heard that before,many many times.

It seems that if i try and put my foot down she will just finish it,so i guess i never win,i think she has been like this in every relationship she has been in so far.but she just says never this bad as she has with me......ain't i the lucky one.

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JustysiaS

Regarding her daughter i told her the other day that she lives in my house,and that i don't have to do what she tells me,she has to do what i tell her.I have sky tv,which i pay alot for and her daughter thinks she can just sit in front of it all day and night,so i locked all the channels the other day,and she moaned about it,and asked why i did it,so i said so she can't sit on her lazy ass all day.she wasn't happy,but i still haven't unlocked them,so she sits on the internet all night instead,so i turn that off after 2 hours ha ha.Her problem is her mother never gives her discipline,just lets her do it,as long as it keeps her out of her way,her accounting course is more important.that is all she has thought about the last 10 months.

I sent her mum a quick text last night,nothing important,and she has not replied since.i can't tell her to get out of the house as we rent it together her name is on there as is mine.and if i left i really don't think she would give a dam.usually when i walk out she is texting and ringing all the time,this time.....nothing.maybe her accounting is getting in the way.

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Shelley

as for telling her she is on the next flight back,i said that a couple of weeks ago,and i said i would pay the airfare to,her mum has even said it to,i get the feeling that her daughter is the last thing on her mind most of the time.its like she don't even want her here,she says some strange things to me to,i don't thinks she really knows what she wants out of life

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Well folks i have to make a move,have to go back to the house and prepare myself for what lies ahead.

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shewolf don't for one minute think the daughter is all sweetness,she is nearly 14 and i get called stupid,on a regular basis,just because i try to lay down a few ground rules,like when i don't want her wasting her life in front of the tv,or spending all day and night at weekends on the internet,she has been here 10 months and made no friends at all,she never goes outside the house,sits all day oaning that english people are stupid,and school is stupid,and english girls are fat and ugly.she is a smaller version of her mother,she does everything her mother does,i get moanig in stereo,she wants (or tries) to tell me how i should run my life,what i should do,she has told me i should work longer than the 12 hours i do each day,she has called me lazy,why only tonight,not more than 20 minutes ago i was talking to her,and she was moaning that i wanted to use the internet for 15 minutes,and she said "how you can ever have a child,your horrible"just cus i wanted to use something i pay alot of money for,and just for 15 minutes.so you explain to me why i should put up with this??and as for moving out of the house,it will cost me nearly 2000,money i just don't have.if i could just walk away from all this,then i would.

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Hey all
Thank you for sticking with this thread,i am sorry that i just keep going on,and i know all of you are right,and i should just cut and run,i have tried,but like an idiot i keep coming back,i don't know why maybe i just want this to work,i have tried hard,real hard,but she just doesn't seem to care,yesterday she said that her accounting was more important than this relationship,now i am starting to try and prepare myself to get out,we just had another big arguement,and she has gone out,shouting that she was going to sleep with someone else cus i am no good at it,lol.I am tempted to pack all her accounting stuff up,and burn it.She knows she has a hold over me,and that i will never leave,maybe for once i should prove myself that she doesn't.In reality she does not care about me,so i know she won't give a rats ass if i left,maybe this is the part that hurts me.I just wish i had as much guts as some of you people.

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Hey shewolf

Thank you for the reply,she is going to see a physcologist at the moment (well so she says) i believe she has some serious issues with regards to relationships,i just think she is very insecure,and jealous.

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I wanna thank all you people for being suportive,i know you all think i am weak,and when it comes to this woman i am,i never thought she had that much of a hold over me.I know you people are right,and i now i have to try hard to detatch myself from this vile woman,i don't want to hate her,because if i do,i will do stupid things,that maybe i will get into trouble for.She came home yesterday about 9.40pm after going out about 2pm,never said anything to me,just kept out of the way,that was till she heard me on the phone,i was chatting to my sister,she then came into the lounge where i was sitting,i know it was only to find out who i was chatting to,so i went out the room,and out the front door,and walked down the road a bit,next thing i look back to the house,and our bedroom blind was open and so was the curtains(these were shut when i went out)and the bedroom window was opened,so i walked a bit further so she couldn't hear me,when i went back into the house 15 minutes later,she was on the phone,lol.so i just went to bed,about 45 minutes later,she came to bed,we haven't spoke since yesterday about 1pm.She has her final accounting exam tomorrow,so i know she will be studying all day today,so maybe tonight i will go home and watch the tv,very loud,lol.well for now thats it,sorry i keep moaning,but it is good to speak to you all.you are helping me,and who knows maybe soon i can walk away from her.

thanx

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Age doesn't matter Gab,i have tried to leave,really i have,and when all this started about 4-5 months ago,she had a much bigger hold of me,i used to do everything she said,now i try to stand my ground,and she seems to change when i do,not always making her more angry,sometimes she settles after,she just likes the confrontation,after its like all her frustration has gone,and she quietens down,thats when i see the real her,she has told me that she is jealous,and possesive,but she says she doesn't know why,she just says its the polish mentality,and its her character,thats why i came her,to see if this is true,if this is how polish women are.i tell her she just wants to control me,and she agree's,but i also say that she will not take all my individualty away,and that my opinions won't always match hers,she says that i am going against her,i just says even though we are in a couple we are still individuals.

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Yeah we are in the uk Gab

Last night things took a turn for the worst.man she is one messed up woman

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I was round my mums last night,stayed there till about 9.50pm,then i made the 50 minute journey back to the house i share with the ex (as we are now),when i got back she had left a key in the door,this meaning i could not unlock it from outside,i nocked,and waited 5 minutes before she came to open the door,when she opened it i said"well done leaving your key in the door" she said "its late i am going to bed" which i now she wasn't as she came from the dining room downstairs,so she was doing her college work.i went upstairs and started to get ready for bed,she asked me what i was doing so i told her,she went back downstairs,15 minutes go by,and she comes back into the room,i am by now in bed light turned off.she walks round the bed,and then turns back and turns the light on,knowing i am trying to get to sleep,i ask her nicely to turn the light off,and use the one by the bed,she doesn't.i turn the light off,she has the one by the bed on,she goes back and turns the main light on again,i turn it off and start getting a bit angry,just raised voice.i said she didn't need it on,she said she did,i turn it off,and said don't you dare turn it back on.she goes out the room,and into her daughters room,i hear talking,and think she is chatting to her daughter,she is only on the phone to the bloody police,saying i was threating to beat her up.sure enough,25 minutes later they arrive,to talk to me,tell me what she told them,a right pack of lies,saying i had been trying to start arguements all week,cus i knew she had an important exam today,long story short i end up having to drive all the way back to my mums another 50 bloody minutes,and now i am the bad man,i am shell shocked,totally numb.

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Wroclaw

I told the police they took far to long,and i would be writing to there superiors (lol,joke)

I don't know why but i get the feeling this is what she wanted all along,i m sure she just wants me out the house.As for her being a desperate woman who knows the relationship is over,she sent me a text message sunday just after she left the house saying it was over,so it was her decision,but usually this is to get a response from me,but i never replied,and i never even asked where she had been all day.I think this might have got to her,and when i was on the phone on sunday night,she kept trying to hear who i was talking to.

The police did say that legally i am still allowed back into the house as my name is still on the agreement,and he said that we need to sit down and talk about what happens next.I haven't spoken to the lanlord yet.I never paid my half of the deposit,she paid that,and i owe her it (no chance she gets it).I really don't understand the woman,all i ever done was try to help her,and support her,i used to fill in her job application forms cus she didn't know what to do,and this is the bloody thanks i get,i can start to see why she got divorced from her ex husband now,if she treated him the same.

I only write on this forum round my mums house,thats where i am now,been told by the police it might be a good idea to stay here a couple of days,and if they did happen to chance on it,they wuld be able to see whats been going on,but i don't think they will,there is alot more to this woman i could tell you about,but i think it should be left unsaid,i really appreciate you people sticking with me here,it makes me feel better,i now know that maybe i wasn't the one doing wrong all the time.

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Gab

Thinking of going on vacation soon as i can,need a break,am so confused,to think all i tried hard for,was just going to kick me straight in the teeth.i just can't get my head round why??

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What makes you think she doesn't like me,she is always the one chasing me,if we have arguements,and i walk out the house,she is always the one who is texting me,and ringing me,i never reply,she is like that for 2 days after.

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I don't like the pain and misery,just trying to make sense of all what has happened over the last 3 months since we started renting this dam house,surely she must have liked me at some point,to even start renting the place,maybe i was just there to help her get it.i don't know.

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Well i guess i am just going to have to wait and see what happens now,going to give it a couple more days