I find it hard enough, and very time-consuming, with my own family.
yes, I agree, my family (close) is rather small given so many have passed.
its very hard to keep up with some of the closer relatives. most all of mine
that used to visit are all gone, my cousins, we talk, but they have busy lives to
when I started my family history, I knew nothing of the relatives we had that
were lost over the years due to no contacting, moves etc.
these are folks that knew me as a child, I knew nothing of them. it felt good to
talk about my parents, grandparents that some of them knew that I never knew.
I guess it depends on what you are after. mine was just knowing there is more
to my family then what is seen. growing up, we werent close to everyone, select
few visited, after a while we hardly seen anyone.
at my moms funeral, a majority of family, proposed family, and friends I met along the
way came to her viewing. the support was tremendous. had they not been in my life
and came, very few small number of family would have came, this would have made
me extremely saddened because she (mom) was a gracious woman who touched
many lives, and although she didnt go visit much later in life, all these other relatives
who knew her long time ago, wouldnt have come because they werent notified.
my brothers both thought that there was hardly family left, but when they seen all
those who came and knew out mother, they were very glad that I had connected our
families back since. so yes this does have a impact on me, and my children I say to
them family does matter, you dont have to see them every day, but keep in contact
and let them know how you are doing as well as ask how they are doing. a small
note every now and then goes a long ways.
And working in the health care, you see many older geriatric patients come and
they are very sick , no family comes to see them, and it breaks my heart.
none of its silly, because those who I connect with might be the only one left and if
I can be there for them I will.
on one of my posts " no patient dies alone" my cousin, whom I work with, I found her
via a death cert that I had found in my city with my dads last name as her mothers
maiden name. I contacted her nephew who gave me her number, she and her sister
are the only two surviving cousins of my dad. why would I deprive myself of such
a wonderful cousin as well as a beautiful person she is. and we now are like family
that never lost touch. that is why.