"super" still blows my mind.
that might have been borrowed from German, but I don't know for sure. Years ago I overheard the convo between a German and an American at theBerlin airport. Everything was going well until the American lost it saying to his German friend: everything is SUPER with you guys!!!!!!
Nooo... Keep her positive!! The weather is much worse in other parts of the world...! Take the North Pole for example... :S
it is not so bad, just a gloomy, overcast overcast skies and no sun in sight, but the spirits are high in Poland and I think I have gotten used to the gloom;).
No wonder Poles seem to be angry all the time;)
here is the whole thing:
I am finally ready to write about HIM. I already have written about the Polish Girlfriend.
I have to explain that I had to meet one in order to describe him. I finally did, although his character and behaviour will be a compilation to a larger or lesser degree of other men I have met recently.
Misiu is big, literally and not literally. He is either big in posture, although most Polish men are in a fairly good shape, or in spirit.
The teenage Misiu is stilll unaware of his pimples and the greasy hair. He is highly intelligent, but he often doesn't know about it, or he knows about it and doesn't think much of it, or, he knows and he is secretly laughing at YOU behind your back(mean streak Misiu type)).
He has dreams and is often romantic and most of the time unaware of the dangers of the world. His grandma cooks for him and gives him money, his mother gives him money and leaves him alone and depending on the case, Misiu has a very happy and easy life, full of computer games, millions of moments of staring at the wall without a purpose -some say that it enhance creativity (must have read it in some American Pseudo - psychology google find). He is suspended in a dream world and due to lack of any problems, quite nice and easy to manage, unless you give him a job to do.
The young Misiu (age 20- 30)
is tall, dating, looking for date, getting married or already married - depending on the situation. He has a car, loves his mother and his girlfriend, wife, to - be- wife and a JOB. He is not that fashionable because he is attached or to be attached and I know that his girlfriend or a wife to be or a wife make sure that he doesn't stand out because he is to be taken, taken or other variations. He knows technology, but is still this naive, good natured boy or a man, who smiles, has a round face, takes the garbage out and is happy to have sex with his woman and be attached. Often he has children and he makes a good father. This Misiu is content with his life. He often is a smart ass, or a smart Alec, but overall, he is a good guy and has more positive characteristics.
The 20-30 Misiu is tall, tries to impress with some fashion, but often wears mismatched clothes, although it is getting better and overall is fairly confident and sweet. He does not possess the sarcasm and the bitterness/smarts of the his Western counterpart. Regardless, Misiu is sweet and he often gets away with murder with the sweet smile on his face.
Misiu after 30.
Well, that all depends where he really is in life. He could be a really happy working and married men, because most of Misius are married by that age, unless according to everyone I have spoken to and not spoken to, but overheard, there is SOMETHING WRONG with him. I have heard it so many time but thus far nobody has been able to provide me with any details regarding that matter.
Misiu might be working too much and making some money which is enough for the upkeep of the household, the car and the apartment payments, the private school lessons and the vacation to Egypt once a year, but he is starting to work too much. He is still in a good shape due to his age, but if he is gonna continue this way, he will be out of shape, which will not show, because Misiu is not usually overweight. Overall Misiu is happy and progressing one way or the other. He goes to church on sundays with his young family, unless he lives in a big city and is single because he spends too much time at work and does not have the urge to merry and other strange variations.
Misiu close to 40,
still married, but overworked - sex is getting boring, children are growing up and don't want to talk to him anymore or spend too much time on the computer and he has little contact with them, his wife gained a bit of weight and his single co-coworkers are still fresh, chatty and perky and like him a LOT.
Misiu is having a mid life crisis, his libido is decreasing either due to stress, or decreasing testosteron. Misiu is not happy. He doesn't know why he is not happy, or he might even not know that he isn't happy. He still feels young, and has the energy to drink and dance on the weekend, but he notices that after such an escapade he has to recover for 2 days and when he finally does, he gets a text message from me, so he has to dig through piles of information in his brain to backtrack who I am.
Tbc.
Misiu#2
to make the story short I had NO idea Misiu was married, so when he started back paddling (pretty creative stuff) with excuses I ceased the contact. Misiu is history:).
On the serious note: many Polish couples cheat and they see nothing wrong with it. I heard it from the Aussie guy I work with too. He noticed that he gets a lot of interest from other women even though they know he is attached.
PS. another Misiu paid a visit today, he is a professional men - fixed the radiator in a second, send me a wild smile and was moving around my apartment with the speed of light. That was Misiu from Spoldzielnia Mieszkaniowa:). I love the efficient problem fixing of Polish men, that is why I am able to overlook the greasy hair, the dirty hands and the begging for wash uniform;).
PSS.
The Polish Girlfriend got married few weeks ago:).
a little visual aid to go with my post-unfortunately it is in Polish:)
Is that true? Is that your own observation or something you've heard from others? Pretty sad but I guess that's the way things are nowadays. Sad.
Polish Girfriend is shortly described in post #102:).
I have not spent that much time on the issue and I don't know to what degree it is spread,but I spoke to friends and family members about THIS Misiu who flirted heavy with me all night and they said that it is COMMON. Some said that they don't know what I am talking about because he didn't do anything - true, but the fact that a married man goes and flirts with other women is a NEW concept to me since in Canada it is a BIG NO, NO and it is not acceptable in most circles.
I got some strange reaction from some people though. One was: well, that is OK that he is married, don't worry about it and go after him.
The strangest of all was the fact that we were in a company of other people including my family members and nobody seemed to mind. They seemed to enjoy the little drama,while I had no idea:(
Why on earth would I want a teddy bear?!!!
I sent my girl friend (now my wife) a teddy bear myself :D ... and she liked it :) ... she still says she liked it ... she still have it! :)
About smoking and drinking ... whats that got to do with this? ... I don't get it. I didn't smoke and drink myself (well ... once I drank when I was in school, but didn't like it and that was the first and last time I ever put alcohol in my mouth). I would prefer my other half to realize the potential negatives in such habits ... although these might sometimes be personal matters, but when it comes to share a life, who not be more transparent to each other about personal preferences?
About swore ... well its not a good thing anyways!
You really can easily and straight away say that a married man is not only sinning but doing something really stupid, selfish and disgusting by cheating his wife and flirting with someone else ... rather than bring those stuff up which unmarried men do aswell, depends on person to person values! Everyone got a right to express themselves specially to the person with whom they might plan a possible life together!
So lets not stereotype anyone like that ... specially align it with a disgusting creep person!
Well, I described only one Misiu. I am sure he is more complexed then that, but so is everybody else!!!!!
What I wanted to point out is the reaction, or rather the lack of that I find interesting.
I like your plain English and to the point daily summaries, feel like I'm visiting Poland there with you, very cool.
Dzięki
I take it as a compliment and my English is as good as it gets, although I don't edit my write ups, since they would loose the freshness.
I disagree. Polish men are the same as the rest guys in the world. Most of them are loyal and loving husbands. You can not generalise all married Poles because you came accross one unrespectful man in Poland... chatting is not good and acceptable anywhere in the world including Poland!
where did I say that all Polish men behave like that? I just made an observation based on my limited experience.
Unfortunately, I've seen similar behavior from both men and women on this side of the pond. I guess honesty and truthfulness just isn't en vogue anymore. :(
that was the point I was trying to make. All I can do is report what I see. I am not trying to interpret anything one way or the other.
I work for a school so I didn't have to do any marketing to be honest. As far as I am concerned the add in a paper might do, also you can put ads online, at unis, get a few hours at the language school, so people have a chance to get to know who you are and this way they might ask you for private lessons in the future. It all depends how good and how friendly one is.
I hope this helps.
Update on Misiu
the poor bugger probably doesn't know that is the HERO of my latest right up.
I am happily teaching at school and I get a text message - God bless the Era connection;). He wants me to meet him at the skating rink. Wow. I decide to go and him him face to face. I have all kinds scenarios in my head: is is with his wife and I will get in trouble? I ask him if he is alone. Thank God he is. So I pack my skates and off I go. Misiu is waving and smiling lots. He even at one point buys me a coffee - how generous, but most of all he is busy with skating. I went to see him, because I wanted to tell him that I know that he is married and I am not interested. He is as crazy as he was the night I met him, he skates with the speed of light, comes with some kind of excuse not to be direct and he feeds me more crap, probably hoping that I would succumb to his Polish charm. I smile a lot and tell him that married men are a big NO, NO. Did I tell you that I ripped the dress when dancing with him? Well, he did. so I complain about the costs and he finally takes pity on me and offers to drive me home. I accept the offer, Misiu gets into the car and is so nervous and confused by the situation ( I am totally in control), that he drives on the sidewalk. Good. I made him nervous. Then he tells me that his wife is very possessive - I smile. He is a nervous wreck by now, drives like a maniac and talks more nonsense.
I get off and he says: I cannot open up to you yet. I almost cry. lol Maybe I don't have the most intelligent look to be honest, but some Misius are so naive to think that anybody would believe their crap.
I think I will have more fun with Misiu, because he lied to me and wanted to take advantage of such and innocent Western girl.
TBC:)
