Well I guess not :-/ Is there no way of doing it online or by post like you can do with a UK passport?
I dont believe there is for Polish passports or ID cards, for a pesel you have to visit the local gmina where you are based, and thats all there is to it.
If there was matter of simple passport renewal you cant try your luck, but with changes like a new surname, documents need to be verified.
Of course but you simple post them via secure delivery.
I applied for a new passport for my daughter in Poland but from the UK passporst processeing centre in Dusseldorf, Germany all via post.
she has lived here for over 7 years and we own a house together so have no intention of leaving the UK.
If you want to avoid the dreaded cues at the Polish Embassy why not just get her a British passport? sounds like shes more than entitled. Also if youre planning on travelling around the EU she doesnt need a passport, a Polish ID card is enough.