I highlighted the part I disagree with.
Fair enough! Of course you may disagree with that, and so do I, but it shouldn't be a mystery to you that the majority of boys actually are aggressive, jealous and possessive when it comes to girls. (Usually in their younger years though!)
Jealous? Sure, if you have reasons than it's a normal and an anticipated reaction if you have feelings for someone.
I'm never jealous, and I'll tell you why; If she doesn't choose you, or leaves you for someone else, you're probably better off without her. I will be sad, lonely and disappointed for some time though, but when it's hopeless it's hopeless. I accept that.
Aggressive and possessive? Never. Why?
Hey, don't ask me, because I don't know why I should be like that either! I've experienced this quite often though, so that's why I mentioned it. (But maybe that's a difference in culture?)
You answered it yourself in the highlighted section. It's also pointless unless you move her to North Korea to make sure she's all yours. Even then she'll stray if she wants to.
The only true means of being sure is to conquer her heart and to be kind, gentle and loving to her before but especially after becoming partners. Goes both ways.
I don't want to conquer her heart. I just want to be able to be myself with her, but this means I will need to find a girl who's about as crazy as I am.
If she still strays leave immediately as once a cheater always a cheater - she simply wasn't worth your love and your affection. Again, it goes both ways. This comes from a divorced guy so go figure. ;)
I'm very open-minded, and I'll be sure to let her know she can basically discuss everything with me, without having to be cautious about anything or even having to feel ashamed about herself. I'd be happy with a monogamous relationship and I'd be loyal too, but if she has certain desires and wishes then I'd very much like to be the first to hear. (I like to keep things fair.)
You're right but see above.
Absolutely! A relationship is just that a relationship that is being molded each and every day. I guess the key is to sometimes agree to disagree.
I'm pretty creative and diplomatic, and I'm usually fine with a fair compromise, but there are times when I will disagree, and I have to be honest here, I can be extremely stubborn and hard-headed sometimes.
...and we, as a society don't put unrealistic demands on women? Really?
AJ, how much time do you need to get ready after you wake up?20-30 minutes? Get up, brush your teeths, shave, quick shower, put on your tshirt and your jeans, quick breakfast and off you go.
I can manage in five minutes if I really had to. Oh, and if you brush your teeth and shave while showering, you can save ten minutes. (I've trained with Commando's, and let me tell you that those guys have no sense of humour!) Hey, I'm no longer in the army, and I'm single, so I take my sweet time these days!
Ladies usually need more time, don't they?
They usually do.
You think women shave their legs and if we're really lucky other areas (yes, I'm selfish here :) just because they want to?
No, I don't think so. Oh, and if she's my girlfriend, I wouldn't mind shaving her you-know-what. (And her legs.) And maybe give her a massage. (But she'll have to be really, really nice!)
Do they put on all that make-up, eye-liners, lipsticks, hair treatments, etc. just because they want to or is it because we as a society put such demands on women from the time girls turn into women?
I think women put these demands on eachother. I usually prefer natural and casual looking girls. I'm not a big fan of make-up. (But if there's a party then go ahead and knock yourself out!)
See my point? They're flooded with images of what's expected of them, tv shows, magazines, friends, etc., etc. from early on.
Not entirely. I mean, I'm sure girls have their lazy days, just like guys, but I happen to know that most girls actually enjoy some of their personal care, and they don't mind recieving the odd compliment from a guy. My mother used to be a Beautician, so I know most women like to take care of themselves. Oh, and of course guys have to deal with certain expectations aswell. (So I guess there's a balance!)
Yes, they do turn down many good guys but we guys turn down many good ladies.
I wasn't talking about turning down. I was talking about rejecting a guy from their
community because of what his parents were, because of who his friends were or because of a mistake he made. Guys don't do that. I can understand it when you turn down someone for a whole lot of reasons, so that's not even an issue.
Every now and then I get a facebook update on a friend, ex-girlfriend announcing the birth of their child or marital status update and I think, what the hell was I thinking? Why did I break up with her? I'm certain you and many other guys have those moments too.
I used to dwell on the past an awful lot when I was younger, and reflected way too much, but these days I accept everything as it happens. I've only turned a few girls down in my time, and I would still turn them down today. They just really weren't my type or they simply didn't understand me. I would never trade a girlfriend for another, so I don't have such regrets.
I'm impressed. You guys are cool :)
Thank you. (Guess what? You're pretty cool too!)
In the end it's what's inside that matters :)
Some people might think it's a cliché, but it's true, although I still wouldn't marry your grandmother!
- seriously, women from Eastern Europe are the only women in the world that need to involve Gulags, Stalin and whatnot in order to justify why it's ok for some of them to ***** around :-)
Dude, she wasn't even trying to justify or condem anything, but thank you for illustrating her point. (You probably don't even see that your reaction has proven her right, do you?)
:)Have a nice day!