well, we are not cold we are just afraid and keep a distance for a long time.
good luck, wish you to be more patience
these may be the words that save my sanity.
i came here because i met a Warsaw girl, and stayed 2 weeks, and fell in love with her and the city in equal measures. now after 7 months apart and trying to hold things together, i'm here to study Polish and teach English, and... she is keeping as much distance as she can.
she tells me she does not know how she feels, but knows for sure she cannot lose me, and then wraps herself up so much in school and work and family she has no time for me.
and... i think i'm beginning to understand. in the States, these would all be signs of a girl playing you out so she can sneak around with another man, but i get the sense from what I've learned of Poles and the loyalty you have that this isn't the case here... but rather...
she is afraid. she will keep her distance for a long time. i must be patient if i want this, and let go of my impulsive American habits of i need everything right now!
anyone else care to share their experience with this? i don't think it's aloofness. i think it's caution, and an acute awareness that us men tend to be fools in love and the women end up taking the pain. the polish woman may just be smarter by holding her heart back until she knows for sure a man can love her... because he does not need her.