Is the Polish wife the boss?

Bill Cosby, the well-known Afro-American comedian, once said in one of his famous one-liners: The basic thing about marriage everyone should know is that the woman's the boss!

To what extent does that apply to Polish womanhood? In your experience and/or observation, how do Polki stack up agaisnt females of other ethnciites you know? I know there will also be those who say 'all women are the same regardless of nationality', so I address my question to those who don't buy into that hypothesis.

actually, the Polish mother in law is boss.

It all depends on the proximity factor. If you live in Vancouver and your mum-in-law is in Skierniewice and you see each other only once a year, then that shouldn't be too big a problem. But in the case of a live-in m-i-l, that would be a different pair of shoes altogether. Prolly the daughter-in-law/mother-in-law equation is the thorniest, because of rivlary over the darling son. Men seem to hit it off better with their fathers-in-law -- they can go out together for drinks and complain about their wives.

I think its up to men that who becomes the boss if you are strong you can be the boss if not naturally the wife will take control . Personally although i think we should respect and love females men should always be incharge

Spot on there, IKrash. It's analogous to life. Lead your life or sb else will lead it for you.

Yeah nicness is good but you should never be over nice always keep incharge .

In marriage the man should always have the last word. "Yes dear".

no thats like sighning for a slavery package it should be the wife who should say that sometimes you can do comprimise but seriously you can love her but dont make her your master

You're right! I never thought about it that way. Thanks IKrash.

It would appear that they have some remarkable insights in Pakistan ;) ;)

Really guys, what do you want to be the boss of? House decorating? Deciding what to cook for dinner? Holiday planning with the family? Whatever the wife is the "boss" of, it's usually because the man could not be bothered.

Now, if your wife decides where you'll go for vacation or what car to buy without consulting you, then you're whipped.

It doesn't.

In Poland, the woman obeys or gets a slap in traditional households.

Depends on the guy if he's a wussie or not.


And the weak laws don't help. During communist times if a man hit his wife the cops would have beaten him and left him bleeding by his doorstep. My aunt told me how her neighbor was beating his wife while being drunk cops came and were afraid to go in the house to help her out.

Yeah, there's a real problem in rural Poland with violence in the home :(

Things are changing though - more and more campaigns against it, more and more foundations support beaten wives/children - so it's not all doom and gloom :)

That was in a city, Stalowa Wola
In rural areas the police is from the gmina and often from the same or neighboring village knowing everyone around. No officer/friend is gonna charge a friend with domestic violence. That's why at least here a cop can't work in the district he lives in.

Do you have any first hand experience to prove such prejudicial statement? I'm Polish woman and no female in my family was an object of violence. Moreover I agree that the woman is the boss in marriage - my grandamas always were saying that.


Everywhere it the world it happens. I'd say it's very bold to say it's a Polish trait...

Cause your grandfathers were pansies LOL

So you approve beating women?

No I never hit a woman in my life. It's usually people from broken alcoholic families. The point is in relationship, among friends or in society in life altogether you never let anyone have the upper hand because they'll walk all over you. Jak to sie mowi Jak sobie pozwolisz to ci nasrają na głowe

that's pretty bad... at least in the relationship you should be able to have some trust. If you think by giving your partner an upper hand you'll end up with **** on your head, your relationships will be umm.. strained, to say the least.

It is so great to see all the sages from Pakistan come over here and share their wisdom with us.

Just keep in mind boys that if you show a woman "who is in charge" a tad too drastically ( like with your hand or boot ) in Eastern Europe you will likely end up in jail where a burly and hairy lad named Wanya or Josif will continue to stick his baguette up your asses until your colons rupture :-)

With my older family members, it seems like the wife usually wears the pants in the household. The trend with my younger relatives is more a mutual thing. Also, the husband and wife team are both breadwinners nowadays.

This is very true. There is plenty of small stuff men don't like to be bothered with, so women automatically assume it's their duty. Some men gave it the prestigious name of running the household, while actually the woman run herself into exhaustion.

If a guy won't let the woman be the boss it's time to move on.

That's a bit unfair.

In my experience and observations while living in Poland, I wouldn't say that Polish women are the "boss." They are however a little more troublesome for a man than american/canadian women.

A man should be a king in his home.. Subject only to his queen ;)

I agree. But just so long as everyone is clear on who grants that power to whom. ;)

That's because in America it's a matriarchy, regardless of nationality, certainly by the second generation.

In Europe it's the guys who wear the pants, hands down. Guy says jump and lady says how high.

You must be drunk at as hell. Where do you think the term pantoflarz comes from?