We are all born on one Planet
True ...
A quote from the initial thread....
True again ... infact this thread was written when I browsed PF after a long time, and found heated topics again on the same issue ... issue about Polish women going after foreign men and how bad it is and how intolerable ... etc.
Infact there are very few foreigners in Poland. When they come here, those who are educated and have a good personality generally attract good friends and even female friends. Among so many females in our country, they get close to one, and eventually they decide that they can be with each other for a life time. Where is the "out of the world" picture here? Isnt it just very common and simple?
For my case, I met the girl in an academic atmosphere, we were friends, eventually we married after a considerable wait due to both our parents (as I wanted to involve our parents, and she agreed).
THIS TOPIC CAME AS MY MEMORIES about the forum was refreshed from the same topic taking the frontline of every discussion. When I first started posting in PF in its initial days, there was a HUGE HUGE topic ... about interracial relations in Poland becoming more and more. The topic raced 10 pages a day ... and headed to become the longest ever, till it had to be closed by the Administrator for being racially ferocious due to some really undesirable skinhead posters everywhere. Since then similar topics kept on coming, and even after so many years, this seems to remain the primary obsession here!
Why is it wrong to be in love? ... Why should someone make walls?... SO WHAT? ... I never felt one bit threatened by some of my very good and respectable Polish friends (from school or university) to go and find a life with a man from another race or culture! It infact looked quite awesome and enchanted. There seemed to be a timeless feel about it. I've seen that among those who get angry are men and women who never got a chance to live such a beautifully decorated life ...
But Poland has very very very less immigrants of color! Infact we have the least in all of Europe I think. We like to welcome them ... and there is only RIGHT about it!
I have seen many relationships of my friends ... families ... and in all including my own relationship, I saw just 8 Polish girl and Eastern men, and 5 Polish men and Asian women relationships ... and till now (interestingly) all of them are considerably successful. Mostly among friends and classmates. Remaining story when you look around is still the same! ... Still the insecure is itchy!
Now lets come to same color ... Americans, Canadians, other European whites ... they are not always the most welcome either for some groups of insecure people. Then many small segments of racial purity of segmentation comes in. All baseless and counter-effective things that Poland itself escaped in the times of WW2.
@Eurola:The percentage of western women going for darker men compared to western men going for Asian female is still wayyyyy higher. So maybe you can ask the same question to the modern western girl?
As for the other way to look at it... Asian girls are not so free as the western girl to go and take what her heart truly wants. They are not so much liberated, and they wish to have a life which is assured in its security. Marriage is not just a ritual but something that must not fail. In our countries, the tradition of marriage is eroding at such pace that it can be said that this tradition is almost crawling for its survival. Lets face the facts with a cold heart... nothing to do!
The simplest thing would be that for a western girl its alot more easy to go to someone she finds more fulfilling for her DUE TO ANY REASON SHE CONSIDERS ... but its not the same for an eastern girl.
I've had a friend who loved an Asian girl, but never could marry. He even shed tears with me, and now is married to a Pole. We never talk about it, but I know him well - it will remain an unerasable mark on his heart forever...
WE NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT THE WORLD IS CHANGING, AND THIS CHANGE APPLIES TO EUROPE AS WELL AS POLAND ...INFACT IN AN EVEN FASTER RATE BECAUSE EUROPE IS FAST MOVING AHEAD IN DEVELOPMENT, THUS SUBJECTED TO RAPID PACE IN EVOLUTION OF OUR KIND, THOUGHT AND REALITY.
Its around us ... we just need to look.