Problem is I want to see my kids in the interim, and if i dont send money they'll be evicted, and my wife will probably stop all communication and i'll be estranged from them.
Talk to a lawyer first before doing anything. What might seem innocent to you can, and will, be used against you in a court of law. Your lawyer will advise you what to say and how to behave. You're paying him to keep yourself out of legal pitfalls. Until then, work with your bank to document every single penny you have sent to Poland.
@Dominic, I think you're looking at things from a very American perspective.
It works the same in every legal system. American, British, Polish or Burkino Fasan: it's best to let your lawyer do the talking, and act only on strict accordance with their instruction. No lawyer on the planet wants their client to open their fat gob unless specifically instructed to do so.