Many men in the states have woken up to this and the marriage rate in the past 3 decades has been cut in half. That's why the frequently asked question by women is, "where are all the good men?"
oh shut up !!
I know moving to Poland will make me very weak especially with no language too, I really want to make things work
go with your gut feeling, if you feel it will put you in a position that will cause her to have more
advantage and not work with you then stay in the UK.
but dont deny her daughter either, be fair, teach her your wife that its ok to have a seperate relationship
and parent your child. you dont have to be around all your family, thats not independence and she
cant get that if she runs home to her family. she needs to stick it out and both you and her need
to work this out like adults.. dont listen to everything zimmy says , I can see his advice taking you
into a direction where it will wind up a huge fight between you two and thats extremely unhealthy for
a child to see , especially at her tender age..
what she needs to see is her daddy and mommy getting along, even though they live in seperate
homes and seperate lives.. and later on when everything is calm and settled, maybe she can
take her to poland to see grandma and grandpa and all the family, maybe you can go along and
just take a vacation as well.. be friends,, thats the most important.. please let her read this
and tell her that my advice.. woman to woman is to stay and make the best of it.
And for you, whatever help she needs to get on her feet you should help, she is far away from
home and your her support system right now. take care of each other till this gets settled, thats
why you married, that doesnt change, that baby needs both of you now..
you seem like a wonderful man, so talk to her about it, but tell her your feelings on the Poland
issue and take your time and be patient. things will work out :))