How to make a guy (Polish or other) happy?

trust you to make a comment like that! put your mayo away ;D

ShawnBM
Cool, I like poetry, also W. Blake.


I think it's rather a part of growing up which has to make you to feel like stupid.
Everything was ok, after some time things started to spoil.
It is rather psychological question if anybody wishes to answer would be great.

Where are borders of freedom in relationships as you probobly noticed.

This is a second recent thread here where people expect psychological answers to their rather unoriginal problems. Go see a shrink then, a bunch of randoms on a forum isn't going to make it better. No matter what terms you use, psychological or not, things got f*cked up. If you can't accept at least a part of the blame for what happened then that is pretty selfish and immature. You can't treat your love interest like a lab rat. Love is not a psychological experiment.

Every problem is unique especially when concerns important things.
And I would rather not call somebody's concerns unoriginal.

If you don't set boundaries and don't make it clear it's an exclusive relationship, don't expect him to come back to you everynight like a loyal puppy. There's the answer to your "psychological dilemma".

Oh, so do guys expect setting boundaries to be happy in relationships?
The end for today for me. Thanks for all answers.
;)

I guess some people can be happy in an open relationship. (It's all about loyalty in your mind.) If you can share everything in all honesty and you vieuw sex as a bodily pleasure and still value eachother's company in every other aspect I don't see why there should be any problems? (But maybe that's just me?) How many people cheat? About 60%? Why not simply be honest, and acknowledge what all of us already know. I wouldn't like to be with a girl who sleeps with a different guy every day, but I wouldn't mind to realize a few of her fantasies. I guess that's what I mean. (I will expand on this later.)

:)

Goodnight!

YES. don't put them on a leash, but let them know whats ok and what isn't. if you tell them to run along and be free they'll do just that. they are not very complicated lol they just need to know where they stand. it's not making you more desirable if you tell him he can do whatever he wants because it looks like you don't care! i tried this approach once and it failed me big time.

The problem with women is that they are extremely changeable.Even if you take all precautions and manage to predict everything you never know what is going to happen even a weather change can have devastating effects on a date.I thought my last Polka was reasonable till I saw the characteristic sparkle in the eyes and I was wondering what's wrong and where this craziness originates when she told me her period had come.So their eyes show their hormone levels,we Balkan warriors need to leave our swords sometimes.

As if I would let a girl put me on a leash, I mean, come on!

;P


Just speak your mind. I think we can handle it, and if we can't, well, then you know everyone has been completely honest, and that it simply wasn't meant to be. (No harm done!)

:)

Tada, you disappear from this thread now :) Ta da, magic!

What makes guys happy? It depends on the guy :)

Its interesting reading all the posts on here..

Everyone adding their 2p worth..

Every relationship is different...so there are no hard and fast rules...Just be happy and enjoy the moment and never try to change the person you're with...You were attracted to them and fell in love with them for a reason...this is what a LOT of people seem to forget and this is what ruins most relationships.

Yes that is a big issue with girls these days most girls wanna control a guy, the tables have turned. That's messing around with nature.

Serve him an intimate dinner for two in the raw. That may put a smile on his grumpy face ;)

Killer line here.

I don't agree. Love can be a psychological experiment. Some people take part in it.
Being in a company of loved ones they have had the waves of their brains transcripted. Machines was showing how their brain had been working when they were feeling pleasure and extasy.

I saw this experiment a long time ago in a British programme called "Chemistry of love" of something like that.
They also had blood tests and got plenty money for it I guess.

one needs boundaries in every relationship.

It is very easy to make a guy happy.Just use your hands for cooking and your mouth not for talking.

Sure, it can be, but should it be in day-today relations, I believe is the point of her quote.
Certainly one partner forever examining and analyzing the other other and the relationship can't help things. I've been there and it makes one feel confined and the perp overly critical... None of which is very conducive to a loving relationship. Rather b*ner-killing even...

you must be very young because you seem to rely on tv way too much. of course being around the one we love makes us act different, don't need to perform any experiments to prove it. now take your boyfriend, you tell him to run along free and careless because you think that he'll come back to hump your leg like a loved up mutt when he is away from you and realises he really loves you. A - bad experiment B - bad outcome. the guy simply got bored and lonely. i just think you have to be pretty dumb to let the one you love go the way you did, and then blame HIM. if you're in love you don't need to do any experiments (except from the good ones ;D) or make them prove the way they feel, that's just needy. get real and stop watching chick flicks.

Your advices are really remarkable.
many thanks

How to make a guy (Polish or other) happy?

Pretty simple ladies, just ask him for a credit card and hit this website. You may want to secretly find out which lingerie or costume he would like..oh, never mind, surprise him.

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Yeah. Surprise is good.


But it's hotter if we don't have to pay for it! :p

I think the great sentence would the best to finish this a bit silly thread.

Almost 5 years passed. I am five years older.
And I am still not sure how to make a guy happy or almost happy.
The thing is, that, the older I am, the more difficult it seems to be.
I decided to refresh my thread, also because I saw similar in the main page ("How to make a Polish woman happy").
Any new thought from PF members?
I am waiting impatiently.

People tend to come along when you least expect it Noreen and maybe you've just been unlucky and haven't come across the right person yet.

For my couple of pence worth, just be yourself. If someone can't accept and be happy with you just for being the way you are, then they're not worth having.

If you have to 'try' to make someone happy, then you're not being you and maybe you will end up the person being unhappy.

Amathyst's earlier advice was spot on too.
Best of luck and hope it's not going to take you another five years lol !

Chemikiem


One day I met a man, who tended to change the woman with whom he was in a kind of a relationship. The most surprising for me was his influence and character were so strong, she even wanted to change herself. She was just, I guess, someone who wanted to go on compromise. Many people I know are too stubborn to change for somebody. Maybe it's not the best characteristic.

So, my question is - do we really have to allow our second halves to change ourselves to make the relations bearable?

The way to make a man happy is to ask him what makes him happy.
We don't all think in the same way.
Compromise and talk to each other is the only way to keep a relationship going.
Each relationship is unique, even if it is the same two people who get together later in life.

Steveramsfan
Thanks for your answer.
It' is rather simple, I know about that, but how difficult is to transfer it into reality. So many people constantly look for something else and break up because their expectations don't match to their experiences.

Of course not, but then I'm not you.
Would you really be happy with having to change the way you are to suit someone else? What was so wrong with you ( or anybody else ) that whatever they saw in you in the first place needed to be changed? If change is required to make the relationship bearable, then it can't have been that good to start off with!

This doesn't mean that you can't compromise on things though, neither of you are going to agree on everything, and you both have to be open to discussion.


This is true, and maybe some people are unrealistic about relationships. If someone sets their standards too high, they are always going to be disappointed.

Chemikiem


Honestly? She didn't want to wear dress + she didn't want to make a driving licence. Also he was very keen on travelling while she wasn't.

Well, I wouldn't like to change for somebody, I am an idealist and believe people can make the relationship work although partners differ from eachother.