There's a Polish guy I like, will he be worth it?

Hi, I am from outside of Poland and we met this Polish guy online. We are already talking for a month now and I am somehow happy with him. I enjoy talking to him and I think he does too to me since we have not skipped a day and he told me he enjoyed talking to me as well because, per him, whenever he open our conversation, it makes him smile.

I am not much of a person that like video calling, but for him I would be down to do so. However, it seems like he does not like something like that as well. He's kind of shy even when sending pictures but he's sweet and kind to me. He has not yet asked me to be his girlfriend, I would understand though since he came from a long term relationship, the same as me, and we still are just talking for a month. Just wondering if it will be worth the wait? What do tou think??

PS: I like him very much. This is the first time I liked so much I talked to online. 😂

What does your Mom think ?

@johnny reb
My mom would push me to be in a relationship with foreign guys. By the way I am 26 y/o 😅 I haven't talked with her about it yet because she'd tell everyone we know (relatives) and I just wanted to keep it lowkey for now.

You don`t know it yet through online contacts.
You should send each other your used sweaty T-shirts which you both can smell and find out if you are compatible and destined for each other. Those pheromones will tell you the truth.

theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2013/sep/08/can-you-smell-perfect-partner

@pawian
He mentioned he'll visit me someday, but he just needed to think about it of course since we just talked for a month and visiting another country is a big decision (considering inflation 😅), and if I like someone, I really do prefer their human scent (without perfume) so I think I am good in that area. Is it weird? 😆

Exactly. Sending used T-shirts is a much better option now.


Perfect. But you also need to find out if your partner`s smell is pleasant to you. If not, you are not compatible.


Of course not. People should do it each time they meet sb new.

What a idea of sending t-shirt first.
My advise is to make him travel to you.
If he don't have money to do that you don't want him.
Where do you live?

It is the best idea. They can avoid a lot of tears later on when they become incompatible partners and have kids.

E.g., through a sweaty T-shirt test they will avoid such situations which sometimes happen in relationships:

God, every day I tried to bear his presence, touch, look. His words to me annoyed me. His mouth made me sick. I wasn't happy about anything, even at this party I was the last one willing to dance with him on the dance floor. My girlfriends envied my husband, who was perfectly suited to this role, caring, loving, hard-working, resourceful. He never got angry, never screamed. I have the impression that I am describing the concept of the ideal from some Harlequin series book. However, he was like that. But I still felt nothing.

I lay down next to him every day, his hand burning my body. I couldn't stand his body next to mine. Years passed, I ran away to work, preferably for shifts, I didn't have to see him, I fell asleep on the couch, I faked all kinds of ailments in the world so I wouldn't have to kiss and hug him.

Do you want to have such experiences????

@Curly1
Yeah. He's actually planning it. He didnt even know my place at first. 🤣
I am from Asia. I won't really disclose my place because he might be here. 🤣 Thank you for your words.

Yes, I suspect some posters here of being your online contact.

Tell him you like him - no sense waiting around. poles are rather direct about that

Unless he is an English teacher or a Russian troll there isn't much chance of him being on here :)

He isn`t a teacher or RuSSist troll but he suits well the OP`s description.

@pawian
Oh my. Isn't love a choice? I feel like the woman in the story fell out of love, but that's how it is suppose to be. Love should not be based only on feelings. It will be a genuine love if the person love the perso. Even if there are times they are unlovable. 🤔 or is it just my opinion?

Also on pheromones.

@cms neuf
I told him I like him, but he wanted I'd see him in person first because I might be disappointed to see him in person. I think that's what I also appreciatde in him. He is a gentleman, I'd say, based on my experiences in our conversations.

@LittleMissSushi
Just to add by the way. Just wondering because even if he mentioned he'll visit me here, I'm still wondering if he'll be true to his words. 🤔

He could be disappointed in you to.
What do you do for career?

@Curly1
That's true. That is also what I told him. 😅
I am an admin assistant.

But I mostly post pictures and selfies without makeup. I'm not really a fan of it, and even so, he complimented my looks, but I think that's just a small percentage of what is expected in person, I think? 🤔

Merged:

He said he wants me.

I think, I already have a progress with the Polish guy I am talking to. We are talking consistently everyday for 3mo. now and he said something about being more than friends and stating that he wants me but has never clearly stated that we are already in a relationship. I just wanna clear things out before asking him (since I'm kind of not ready yet) is it true that the dating culture in Poland is something like if you like each other then you guys are automatically in a relationship? Or there should be courtship involved like "will you be my girlfriend?" Something like that? Thank you.

Do either of you two know the other's language?
Otherwise, this might pose a problem.

@Lyzko
You meant love language? We know. There was a time we shared each other's love language and we're somewhat the same. Not exact, but does reciprocate.

Not really. I like a lot of people around me, yet we aren`t in a relationship.


You mean you shared tongues in a loving fashion??

@pawian
Love language is the things you do when you love someone (some buy gifts, others write letters/poems. Some speak lovely words. Some send good morning good night, some help out with things they normally wouldn't. Some remember dates and ocassions and celebrate them to show how special you are to them etc

In the words of Atrakcyjny Kazimierz

"Pokochali się, język się przydał...."

youtube.com/watch?v=FZjnfscgFXE

glossary .. pokochali się ('they fell in love" or 'they made love') język ('language' or 'tongue') przydać się ('to be useful, to be handy')

You describe it so beautifully that I am weeping like a man child.

@pawian

Here is a video turorial regarding love languages if your interested. Maybe your pupils can practice their English listening skills:

youtu.be/doRMsjoDevY

Good to use during Valentine's Day etc I guess

Thank you, I needed that. I see I have used my tongue quite monotonously so far. I definitely need some improvement!
Diversity, fool!!!!