funnily enough tornado you're ready to agree with them but i expect that's just male coalition!
nothing of the sort, i write whatever 'I' believe, i'm not a sheep who follows others way of thinking. I'm an independent guy with his own views, i just happen to agree with a few points that Tomek made about experiences we have both had with 'a' girlfriend.
its kinda unfair in a sense to just point out women in general are negative
my dear Patrycja19, i was not talking about every woman on the face of the earth, just the one i had those experiences with. Do you really think i'm the sort of person to box all women together with the same label on??
wow there is a lot of reference to the word 'negative' in that paragraph, i get your drift and i also agree with you, however once again i would like to point out the fact its not just men who think some women are negative, i'm sure there are women who think some men are negative.
i never said looks were all there was to a person but initially they do get your attention, is that not true?
If your on a night out and approach a girl, then yes it probably has a lot to do with it, in any other situation where you interact and develop a relationship/friendship/acquaintance it is more to do with what the person is actually like. How they speak/sound/personality/language and even smell if you get that close.
you don't look at girls and think 'oh she looks like someone with a nice personality' ha ha do you?
again i totally agree with you, however you don't meet every girl in a club and start a conversation. Sometimes circumstances bring you together or in contact with women, social clubs, workplace, university etc etc. That initial contact is not made because of looks its made because of circumstance. This gives the traits you mentioned above a chance to shine through better than if you were doing your thing on the dance floor and looking to see who you are going to approach.
you think more along the lines of 'she looks well nice i wanna speak to her'. same goes for us girls really, you see someone you like and then eventually you get to know them and take it from there... you click or not.
3rd time in thee sentaences i'm going to agree with you. As i said before though your situation seems more suited to being on a night out and not everyday meetings with people in other circumstances.
I've only ever met one girl in a club i've gone on to 'get involved with' and the rest have all been met in other circumstances.
some people clash personality wise, beliefs wise, culture wise and so on and that often causes the negative feelings, hopelessness, lack of enthusiasm, no drive, just passive all the way.
i would like to believe the resason for her 'negativity' was not 100% down to me, that of course was never my intention butit seems to me your pinning the badge square on my chest. if anything i would say in most cases its 50/50 surely??
you get to the stage where you feel it can only get worse and you would actually be surprised if things got better one day. i've been to that dark place for quite some time and never want to feel like that again.
i've been there and i can tell you for sure, I'M NEVER GOING BACK THERE, i tried to hard for to long to save something that was impossible to rescue. I wasted a lot of time and effort doing that with no reward. I don't blame her, i actually look back on it and think 'you should have just got out' but to me thats giving up and that is not written into my personality.
obviously you can't rely on other people to motivate you all your life, but having that special someone for whom you want to become a better person day after day, want to make them proud... that certainly helps a lot.
dosen't look like i've met that special 'someone' yet then, lol.
oh, and i can be a miserable cow yes, but only if i don't like you.
what abot when you get stuck in a traffic jam for four hours, surely your a miserable cow then?? :) Or when that cycle comes round once a month, all girls are cows then :) they can't help it but still it counts lol.
of course, most females are
females are much better at being in touch with their emotions, i find as a man sometimes i'm crap at it, maybe sometimes i don't admit how i feel so i don't seem weak/vulnerable to those around me. I also defy my emotions sometimes, for example i really liked this girl once but i convinced myself i didn't because she was such a cock!!!!
just do it!! :)
all royalties to Nike :)