Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her

Didn't even get to the pub, my mates decided they would just stay in and play poker.
I'll have to branch off from them. I can't let them dictate.

Something that really goes into the "core" What Lobo explained basically

You didn't lose much. saturday nights are for amateurs. The real pros do their work at other times.

hello i am paul ,i worked this year with 7 polish girls and i know what makes them tick ,they like a sweet guy with come sense and like a guy to be happy and not worry about things ,she will be impressed if she sees you have gone to the trouble of learning a few words or sentences in polish , jinz dobrez jak sie masz (good morning how are you ) or chesc (hello) and if she you show her you know about ladies day ,polish equivalent of are valentines day and waterday ( easter) she will be very impressed that you take an interest in the customs of her country hope this help you .

My mind keeps going back to this girl. The more I think of it the more I feel I have no chance with her. Its all a bit topsy turvy, one minute I'm feeling positive, the next I'm quite down.

OK, I'll have another go at explaining this very important point. When you are talking to somebody, specially of the opposite sex and the right age, there are more than one type of communication going on. What you are saying may not even be the most important part of it. Let me give you an example. Suppose you are a man and meet some college student in a hall and say Hello. You could say this without looking at her as you pass. You could say this and look at her. You could stop right in front of her, block her path, look her in the eye and say helloooooo with a big smile. All of them mean different things. In the latest example you have injected a large peripheral message together with the verbal “hello”. She will now know that, you may like her, you are not shy, you may be after her, etc. And she will then start thinking: Do I like him? Who is he, etc. All of this stuff is going on and it is happening at an animal level. I called this Machine Code, I suppose because just like in a computer you are providing your messages directly to the lower parts of her mind. The ones that handle her desires, etc. It is perfectly possible for her to make an animal decision about you which in complete contradiction to what she wants to say to you at a higher consious level. But guess what. The animal part tends to win in the short run. That is why say car adverts do not focus on technical aspects anymore. It is all about emotions and images, etc. Because they know that this is where the decisions are made!

how to tell if girls are flirting with you or teasing you or just joking ,my problem is two polish girls at work ,they ask me if i think they have nice eyes and if i like sex on the beach and do i like the scene in the film when megryan has a orgasm in the restearaunt

all you gotta do is say...

listen
you little sleezy slut
dont tease me
and believe me
she'll free up easy

is it part of polish culture to greet a woman by kissing her 2 times on each cheek ,the two girls i went out with as freinds from work ,always said it was part of there customs in there country and got me to do it eachtime i met them

Find out how they are looking at you when they say those things. Their eyes are giving the game away. In any case if they are talking to you like that, just wonder over and place your hand on the shoulders of the one you fancy the most. You will know if the likes you depending on how long it takes for her to remove your hand. If it takes more than 1 second, say, she is toying with the idea of going further. Anyway, that is a solution to a complex problem. you have to be there to know ...

lol you talk as it was just one girl ,it is two girls doing it to me ,so whats your opinion on what they are up to or whats there game ,

It sounds like you're speaking from experience.

sometimes you have to tell them

Place both hands on each shoulder and find out which one lets your hand stay there!

dont you think if i have to be careful i have to work with these girls ,so its a tricky situation for me ,if i do something and upset them its going to be awkward to be friends and work with them

give me your opinion you dont ,go grabbing girl and forcing your self on them just beacause you think they might be flirting with you or to find out what they are up to do you

I agree, but they are teasing you and all you are doing is teasing them back. In effect calling their bluff. Of course be careful, be very careful, after all we live in a very politically correct world. But the response will give you the answer with no further time wasting. effectively you will get an answer straight from their inner machine, which never lies. If it is just conversation it may work but will take you a lot longer to find out. Just a humble opinion...

hotbod, I think both girls like you even if they're not looking for a relationship with you. (or maybe they are)

lol i gave them valentines cards and i said i bet you wish it was david beckham or bradpitt giving you this card ,they said no there not as nice as you we would rather have a card from you ,your better looking than both of them lol talk about girls talking rubbish and telling lies you ever heard girls talk so much rubbish lol

Well, that kind of rubbish is the kind of rubbish that makes you go home with a smile!

enjoy it while it lasts, and then ask them both out!

i think they just like the attention and men to make a fuss over them ,maybe they thought i wasn't paying them much attention or interested in them ,and one of them was beautiful marta ,so she is probably use to men falling for her looks and under her spell ,.but i never fell for her or in love with her so maybe she couldnt understand how i could resist her .

maybe they really meant it.

Hotbod, if you want some help with these lovelies, if you are in England let me know...

It is not uncommon for polish girls to sleep with their boss.I also think you should date both of themseparately at first and then together if they do not mind.

ask them both out ,i have been out with both of them 3 or 4 times thats the problem they are joined at the hip ,they wont go anywhere unless the other ones there lol

Southern, you are a hell of a guy, I am getting impressed!

Then, my friend the crunch time is here. ASK THEM BOTH TO GO TO BED WITH YOU, TOGETHER. DON'T SAY ANYTHING ELSE, LOOK THEM IN THE EYES AND DO NOT CHANGE THE CONVERSATION ON MOVE AWAY. DEMAND AN ANSWER!

lol how can any girl say these things and not feel stupid after they say them to a guy ,lol i thought us guy talkl some ******** but these girls if talking ******** was an olympic sport they would both get gold medals lol

Then invite them to your home for dinner and dvd watching.
It is important to make them like each other although they are maybe already into this.

And after dinner introduce her to polish vodka

I agree with southern, if they wanted to make a choice they would have decided amongst themselves who would get you. That is waht girls do. So they are either protecting themselves by sayoing together because they think you haven't got the balls or they are shy to ask you to bed them both. I would think the second has a good chance. In any case you will soon find out!

For example you may ask them.Do polish girls kiss good?
They will answer yes.
Who of you kisses better?
And then maybe they will answer try to find out.
After that you may get their hands together,the one touching the other.If they keep them together,you may ask them to kiss each other.Many polish girls are bisexual.