i know many men who are not desperate and they go at least once a week to brothel
Have you ever seen the show Cops? They always arrest married men who have families for trying to pick up prostitutes.
However I don’t think women normally go for shy types, unless they are a bit older… but there are exceptions.
I agree that talkative men can get women easier. And their conversations don't have to be profound. Just say something, anything, and you'll be a step ahead.