Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her

Hi Ken, it's not really my place to comment but have been following the thread and it appears you are playing it all out in your head rather than living in the real world. Ask her out. If she is interested then she will say 'yes' if she isn't then she will say 'no', Then you can move on. It can't be love as you haven't even gone out with her yet !! More like you are infatuated with her ?

I really feel for you and I'm sorry it is making you really anxious and stressed out. You shouldn't be feeling like this and it sounds like you need to move on and maybe ask someone esle out and see where that goes ? Just a thought. But please, get back into the real world and not a make belive one :)

No Ken you do not need to move.Just stay there with legs slightly open,staring her with the killer look and touch your lips moving your tongue like the Martini man.She will leave the ugly boss in no time.

Ha. Lick your lips?

You'd look like a complete idiot doing this, unless you're joking with someone you know of course.

Southern..you must be joking right?

If Martini man did not succeed with this,why should it be on advertisement?

Because adverts are cheesy and fake.

What would you suggest to him instead?To dance some booty to draw her attention?

You have a lot to learn. Must be a young buck. Thereare better ways of wooing a woman.

Lesson 1

Conversation: Keep your mouth shut and Listen :) Pay attention to her in conversation.

You have to lead.She has to listen.Or look at your booty.

:/ no wonder you're at the PC :)

While you are at the PC but a girl serves you under the desk.

no class

Between men there should be solidarity.Have you noticed what big fraternities women have built in the forum?You accuse one and a hundred answer.A hundred against one wolf every time.

I'd lvoe to know too, I hate presentations

I have taken you up on this kind offer. There are three separate emails I think. Thanks so much for offering to help. It means a great deal.


Oh, I'm definately interested in women all right. lol. I find it very difficult to communicate with anyone, male or female, its always been the case. I grew up in solitude for the most part so I guess I never really learned. Don't get me wrong, I had a very happy childhood, it was at school were the problems arose.


I delighted that you ask, I'm looking for all the help I can get. Every little bit is welcomed.


I haven't a clue what to say, how to keep the conversation going.etc. Only in the last couple of weeks have I discovered that people enjoyed being asked questions about themselves and that this was a great way of developing the conversation. You see, I hate being asked questions about myself so I assumed that everyone else was the same.


I will try and find a picture. Thats another thing, I hate having my photo taken, you will hardly find one of me anywhere. I think I look so ugly, I will go out of my way to avoid having one taken. I am terrified of what everyone will think but I am desparate to overcome this so I will find something.


As I mentioned above, all advice is welcomed, thank you for taking the time to help. You have hit the nail on the head. I am playing this whole episode in my mind, it is crazy, crazy, crazy. I don't know anything about this girl, we may be totally unsuitable, how could it be love. Yes, a very good point.

I need to battle these doubts and fears I have and move on. They are massive fears, built up over many years, I know if I can get over this first hurdle, each one after that will get gradually smaller. I know/understand the theory, its just putting it into practice is daunting. That first step is just so hard to take.

Disagree.The hardest is the last step when you have to penetrate the ***** shield.

I will. Thanks a lot!

szarlotza.. what if you cant think of anything specific in your past that scared you? I dont like public speaking either, but cant think of such an incident.

Ken, you are very good at putting your thoughts down in writing, but fear the actual confrontation.. so why dont you email her?.. could start off with a bit of jokey banter, working up to asking her out..lots of colleagues share flirty banter by email in the office, brightens up the day sometimes.. anyway just a thought. is she going out with the flash bloke now?.. sorry must have missed that bit

Then it won't work Sapphire! Lucky you if you've never been that scared!

ok thanks. I did do a skydive once and that scared me.. but dont think it scarred me for life... deep breaths and a sense of humour help me get by.. I have quite a laid back attitude to presentations and if something goes wrong I just joke about it and that seems to go down well.

southern you watch to much prn..

I wish i could find a man like southern :)

Sounds like you just have to chill and let things naturally progress without having to force it. Always remember....Never force anything ;) Maybe have a drink before you have a go at anything. You know, just to loosten up a bit :)

I dont know sapphire, sounds like hes all play no work :)))

Orlando bloom is more my style :)))) he can be my Lord any day :) LOLOLOLOLOL

ok well maybe not.. orlando bloom is a bit girly looking for me.. prefer a rough type like Vin Diesel... oh god it must be friday afternoon.....aaaaaaaaaaargh. Please post some more of your lovely descriptive comments to cheer me up.


i tried that before a driving test once.. didnt do my any favours at all.. I hit a stationary vehicel and didnt even notice.

all ya have to do is throw some mud on him, and viola!! dirty and sexy.. same time!
lol

orlando in a five o'clock shadow with a pirate outfit on? thats perfect reasons
to buy a bottle of vodka and go hunting for hidden treasures.. lol

ooops with him of course!!

patryca you need to stop watching dodgy movies.. i prefer Johnny depp myself.

hes ok, actually I dont watch much movies at all, but the ones that catch my attention
I concentrate on, johnny depp is talented though :)

southern is the one who watches to much dodgy movies, he thinks he can land a woman by licking his lips and batting his cyborg eye.. lol

don't trash his dream Pat!!!

Im sorry, was I doing that? lol

forgive me :) LOL

Words of wisdom.