No matter what you do a Polish brain will work the Polish way. If it's all too happy and pink we get suspicious :)
It was not my intention to criticize America and praise Poland in one breath. It was more of an argument, or point of reference.
Remember that all we see here are some posters voicing their opinion
I'm one of them, hence "obviously".
All true and it makes sense.
So why don't you move back to Poland?
Because my husband doesn't want to. He does not speak Polish (and all methods of teaching it him have failed so far) and claims that the industry he is in is non existent in Poland.
It's very sad he won't consider it because unfortunately it'll probably never get better for you when it comes to living in the US. Many, many years ago I read an article about different stages of an immigrant's life and it highlighted 4 stages of the average Joe Immigrant's life, or rather the average Sven Immigrant's life as the article was in Swedish. :) I wish I could find it right now but I tried and wasn't able to, but will keep looking though.
The focus of the article was permanent immigration, those who'd moved to a new country permanently, not just for a few years.
This is what I remember about the 4 stages:Stage 1]Everything is better in your new home country, the food tastes better, the orange juice is healthier, the sun is brighter and you're pretty excited about the future.Stage 2]You're still pretty excited but the perfectness facade is crumbling, you start seeing things you don't understand, and/or don't like.Stage 3]The "natives" or locals in your new home country are morons! They can't drive, have no manners, dress like slobs and the food is just despicable. Politics? Don't get me started, no one here should even have the right to vote, too stupid. How in the hell do they manage to smile when things are so miserable here?Stage 4]The last stage is actually a combination of the last stage which is an acceptance of things being different (it's all good, you'll manage somehow) AND either the stage 2 or stage 3 depending on your personality, family situation, economical status, political views, etc., etc.
So a wealthy person would probably end up at the stages 2 & 4 in let's say the Bahamas (excited about the differences and overall satisfied) whereas a poor person would eventually reach the stages 3 & 4 (hating the differences and not so satisfied).
Likewise, if your new country has a political system you agree with you're more likely to accept your new home country; if you on the other hand vehemently disagree with the political situation, well, you'll probably always be unhappy.
My totally unscientific and ultra biased observation is that you're somewhere around stage 3 and possible 4 (some acceptance). Based on some of your previous postings here I think that if the US was to cure cancer all over the world as of tomorrow, if they came up with a way to clean up all pollution, and they eliminated starvation and poverty from every corner of the earth, you'd probably still find the US a bad country to live in.
Note, this is not a criticism of you, not at all. I simply think that the article made a lot of sense. Once your mind is made up about a country it's very difficult to change that perception. Therefore it's too bad your husband won't give Poland a chance, maybe he'd like it after all and you'd definitely love it.
Likewise, I've come to realize that maybe my perception of Poland is full of romanticism and childhood memories. Things probably weren't as rosy as I remember them (not talking about the political situation here) but I chose to cling on to them because that's what gave me comfort.