What other options are available?
It sounds like the same exact problem I had taking care of a family member who was in her 80's.
She counted on me for everything.
Every time I was leaving for Jamaica for a month or two she immediately came down with a serious sickness.
I fell for it the first time and then found out she was just fine and pulling my leg because she didn't want me to leave her.
That gave me two options (A) cancel my vacation (B) put my foot down and out smart the old girl without being mean.
The second time I gave her options, like you have, and she refused them all because I had spoiled her and she wanted no one but me in her house.
So sad to bad, here are your choices (A) home health care worker to come in (B) be put in an old peoples home (C) be confined to the hospital with real sick people.
She blew a gasket so I took her to the Dr. telling him the problem.
We diagnosed her with a fake bladder infection and committed her to a three day stay in the hospital and to be released to an old peoples home for rehab for ten days.
She was released back to her home only after she agreed to a daily home health care worker.
It's either an excuse
Sure it is an excuse as old people can get very creative to get their demands met.
They are like little children that stomp their feet for ice cream before dinner.
Old people slowly lose their independence which frustrates them.
That can be taken away but NEVER take their dignity away from them because that is all they have left.
However you have your own life and grandma has hers.
Help her all you can but don't let her instill a guilt trip or pity party to disrupt you and your family's life.
if there is help available from the Health System for 2 weeks.
Perfect as in those two weeks she will be waited on like never before and get comfortable with it freeing your life up.
The trick is to find an older health care worker that is compatible with grandma's life style.
This advise comes from sixteen years of first hand experience as my cantankerous Polish aunt live to be 86 after she was handi capped at 70.
Hope this was some insight and help to you.