so i will travel alone for 2 weeks and back to Poland! so im not sure what i need ( visa or EEA permit??) :
The EEA permit is more like a vetting process. It is for free but you are not guaranteed to receive it. If your spouse is not exercising her
freedom to work rights within the E.U, then they might deny you the permit.
Also what do I need to do after we get married to be able to work in uk ?
Why don't you guys search on UK immigration forums like immigrationboards and ukresident?
You will find many posts on EEA family permits that can help you all.
UKBA doesn't care much what people in Brussel say.
Just reading one post on ukresident ,similar to what you guys have posted, clearly shows
that it's not as simple as what the EU directive says.