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PolkaTagAlong   
26 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

Hey, anyone that comes along is new to me and I don't judge them by what they are, its just that I like a really warm loving person, and German and many other Northern Europeans can hardly ever be. There are some of those people around here and I've known them to be reserved and cold/fishy. The medical school guy I dated was half German and he showed no passion in anything he was so apathetic and boring. He basically dumped me because he was worried about genetic diseases that old people in my family died from. Now, that is shallow, cold/fishy and just plain weird. I was so disturbed that I didn't know this about him when I finally found out later after he'd been having a few beers. He had made up his mind I guess after he ate dinner at my house and inquired about how some of my relatives/grandparents they were talking about had died. My dad said he seemed to really really want to know how they died.
PolkaTagAlong   
26 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

I've been witness to that scenario. After a doctor's business is established, he eventually becomes married to his job.

Exactly, its sickening, I want someone with a life. A man who has a lot of good friends and who is kind of his own boss is perfect. I don't like the idea of marrying someone with a constricting job, it's just not right for me.

Depending on the individual, a Polish gentleman from the "Fatherland" may be up your alley too.

What do you mean by that? I've met some German-Americans, and they can be quite the cold fish. They are often very reserved and dispassionate. Not my cup of tea at all.
PolkaTagAlong   
26 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

But I'm not a reasonably attractive "Polish" blonde, so I suppose it didn't matter ;)

I never said I consider myself "Polish", I have a Polish heritage, but I am not Polish, I'm American.
PolkaTagAlong   
25 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

There is nothing strange about Sitting Bull or Crazy Horse for that matter.Native south Asians are pretty groovy too.Best way to find a husband...ideas?Marry the guy you like most...

No, I'm talking about Asian Indians silly.

When you stop looking or more importantly when you stop giving a crap its like London buses they all turn up at once.

It's so weird the way that happens isn't it? When I finally start seeing someone and I'm not looking very hard, they all come pouring in at the same time! It's really annoying.
PolkaTagAlong   
25 Jul 2012
Life / Is this more related to being raised in Polish culture, or a medical psychiatric disorder? [17]

I ask this because I inherited this from my grandmother, who was raised in a Polish family, but I am suspicious of the fact that I am like this because I was ignored/shunned in school a lot for being quiet. We both thrive on negative attention, with the difference being that she liked to turn everyone against each other and sit back and watch the show, while I like the attention to be more directed at me and I like to fight with people, because if I don't fight with other people, I fight with myself and feel like I have all these disagreeing sides to myself. When I was young people would often comment that I have a lot of opposing thoughts and that I was extremely defensive lol. My father is just like his mother and will try to get everyone in the family to disagree and have drama with each other, especially when he's miserable.

What I'm asking is, is this a thing that happens a lot in Polish culture? Have any Polish people on here ever had experiences like this in their family?

Being hated by other people and being thought of as things like "scandalous" or "rebellious" or "disagreeable" literally makes me feel good. Entertainment for me is having a big dramatic verbal fight or tirade with people and defending myself or my beliefs. It's like getting a massage or watching a really good movie. The bigger the drama and the deeper it goes, the more euphoric it makes me feel. When I was in high school and my new womanly looks and rich style created a sensation it made me so excited and bold I felt like a new superior person that was oppressed by all these inferior losers. Having fights and envrious enemies was better to me than having friends. Having a million boys after me and teasing them all and rejecting them was better than having an actual boyfriend. I loved to have all these intellectual arguments with authority or teacher and have a lot of people listening in. I loved to say just enough to make myself interesting but mysterious. I'd try to make myself come across to people in a certain way. My biggest act was playing the mysterious, oppressed woman who says and does things you wouldn't expect, and has all these sides to her. When people stopped talking and caring about me, I fell into a severe depression and started doing harmful things, like not eating to be as skinny as a skeleton and huffing hairspray so that I would feel like I was in a trance.

I loved chaotic situations, like fire drills and natural disasters, because I liked to see people struggling when everything is not like it should be.

This is not something that just came to be, when I was little I couldn't find a single friend that I actually got along with, and I preferred playing alone, because I didn't like other children's ideas. I would also make up these big dramatic lies to people to see how they would react, but they were so realistic I often got adults to believe me. I think that my attention seeking dramatic behavior is probably something I inherit, with my personal experiences giving it it's own little "touch." I'm just not sure if it's a "mental illness" though in a medical sense. It could just be a cultural tendency that was worsened by my negative experiences with other kids in school.

I wouldn't say I like completely negative attention, for example, when I was a teenager I like to be viewed as some kind of sinful vixen, but I wouldn't want to be viewed as a whore. Getting positive attention to me was one of the most embarrasing things that could happen, I couldn't accept compliments.
PolkaTagAlong   
25 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

I don't think it has anything to do with being manly. I think blondes just don't like other blondes very much. I think if this wasn't true naturally blonde hair wouldn't be such a rarity. I think maybe it's a combination of different factors, with maybe the most prominent being that natural selection programs people to want good features that they don't have to add to their gene pool. Hair color can't really be "good" or "bad", its just kind of a psychological manifestation of these instincts. If you get more of the exact same features then the future generations are not as well adapted as they could be.

I think the reason Poland has such beautiful people is because they are so ethnically mixed. Having a makeup from lots of different physical features, but not so different it causes disproportion creates a physically attractive person. Indians are a bad example of this, with their different influences creating in general strange looking people.

I wasn't quite sure if you were claiming me to have these naive notions that you can engineer love or not, but it sounded like that's what you were insinuating so I felt like I had to defend my character.
PolkaTagAlong   
25 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

I don't really "think" that as seriously as you are making me out to, but it's still kind of funny because latinos like short white women. Anyways, I don't see them looking at other latino or black women that way. They're not thinking they're trying to "climb" on purpose, it's just an instinct they have. They like us physically because nature is telling them we're better for natural selection than their own women.
PolkaTagAlong   
25 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

like I said, romantically you're free to be as unreasonable as you want, it's the heart that chooses, not head.It's the narrow field of people you said you like to "associate" yourself with that I was hoping you would reconsider.

No, its not as narrow as you think.

Among the different cultures you might find the tall blond travelers that can enrich your life

Actually, I don't really like blonde men that much. I'm actually not as attracted to my own physical type, although I am a sucker for blue eyes.
PolkaTagAlong   
25 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

tall, blond people

I'm not sure if that's what you think I mean, but that's not what I said. I don't care about hair and eye color, I just care that I have something in common with and I can relate to the person enough. I am just attracted to tall men, that's all, it's a whole different thing. I am looking for a serious relationship, and I want someone I think I could be able to connect with in a spousal way on a deep level. I can't connect with an asian or a mexican or an African-american this way I'm sorry. I can't even connect this way with most anglos. I would probably even go on a date with a nonwhite person, just to find more connections, but I find it a cruel and immoral way to lead someone on, because I know I will never feel anything serious for this person. I don't think it's right to go out with someone unless you really like them in a physical way, because it will never go anywhere. Some girls do this with dorks or guys they don't like, maybe to get a free dinner, but I think it's wrong. It's just like when guys ask to get in your pants on the first date, I believe in sparing people their dignity.

What about all the pop culture labels like dork, nerd, slut, jock etc.? Those are pretty constant and unchangeable. The fact is, humans will always separate themselves into groups and discriminate, it doesn't matter what it is.
PolkaTagAlong   
25 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

What makes you believe I think I can engineer romance? I never said anything about that, you just assumed that because I said I like to watch the bachelor. It's entertaining to watch these ridiculous scenarios of different kinds of people competing for "love" on tv.

Most people wouldn't date someone who was black or Asian, they just wouldn't admit it. I guess I don't inhibit myself on internet forums as much as other people do. The majority of people feel exactly as I do, they just won't admit it, whether they don't want to associate with certain people because they're from a different walk of life, ethnicity, crowd etc. People like isthatu just want to have everything censored so it seems different.
PolkaTagAlong   
24 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

trust me there are plenty of young attractive doctors in the medical field. tall ones too LOL you will be working along with him so you will still see him :)))

Oh, don't think I don't know there are sexy doctors. I would turn into a crazy anal woman and that is not happening. If I had a bunch of kids (which is what would happen) I would not have to work and I would sit around watching my rug rats at the park and changing diapers. No wife of a doctor will work because with his salary it's unnecessary, but its really a trick, you have a worse life that way than you would just having a small family and working lol. I will not let it happen, no way, I want someone who isn't tied down by their work, its not my type at all.

Being an administrator in an office, you will not be working alongside with the doctors very much, more like reading over someone's medical record on the phone.

Raleigh? I don't know, Polka, these are no backward little towns - it is supposed to be a research center, has many high tech companies, decent schools... Duke University!Are you over 18?

I've been there many times because my sister is a graduate of duke and duke law. We used to drive there every summer and graduation. There is just something about it I hate, I don't know what it is. I like Duke, but there is just something about the Raleigh/Durham area that turns me off.

Am I over 18? ROFL I'm 20 and have already been through two years of college.
PolkaTagAlong   
24 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

I am surprised that so many people jumped in to give advice and so few commented on such a racist comment.Using language like that puts you in the same place as several groups of scum including but not limited to the Nazis and KKK.

Some people don't have a sense of humor. Sorry, but even many of the "best" or most upper class Mestizos are barely as good as average joe Anglo-Americans. Not as well off, not as tall, not as educated, not as attractive. It's just as obvious as the sky is blue, man if you can't see that you are really averting your eyes to a politically correct made up fairy tale land. It's not KKK or Georgia in the early 1900s, its just reality. I don't have hatred towards mestizos, I could care less about them, but I can't help but notice what I notice lol.

Kinda my point,the probable descendent of some bog trotting indentured white slave comes on here proclaiming her racial superiority to a Hispanic....like I said,all the class of KKK pre teens beauty pageant....

And you, the politically correct nazi come rushing to the rescue with your ridiculous, made up stereotypes that don't exist. I never claimed "racial superority" to a hispanic, I just notice that in general hispanics tend to be less well off than anglos physically, monetarily, and intellectually. It's just like the way rich black guys want to date white girls, the black girls are ugly and because they are rich they can get someone who is 8 times out of 10 higher quality.

Did she actually say she is in Georgia? If you are, PolkaTag, get closer to Hotlanta! ;)

I live in NC. I hear the good city with a lot of single men is Charlotte.

Do you believe in comparing horoscopes? I'm asking seriously; it's been practiced for millenia in the East. The Asians say it's a very effective way of matching couples correctly.

Yes! I believe my best bet is a Taurus. Let's see, I've dated other cancers, an Aries, an acquarius, and a capricorn.

smart as you are can have this kind of difficulty

I'm smart? Wow, that's the first time I've heard that, I guess I might not be an inbred hick from Georgia.

If you lived in Poland, you'd be talking about everyone who doesn't speak Polish, In Sweden you'd be talking about the muslims, and in the south, YOU would be talking about Mexicans!
PolkaTagAlong   
23 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

No pun intended.

lol!

You are probably not going to find quality guys off the www. However, there are universities or colleges. Have you thought about maybe enrolling and living on campus?

It's not worth it to me at this point and I am close to getting my degree. I am already 100% sure of what I want to do. Soon I will have a good job in medical office administration. My typing and language skills are better than most, and it's a growth field, so I feel sure I'll be able to find a job. My only hope of meeting somebody at work will be a young doctor someday, which I think isn't going to happen, because doctors have long hours and i require attention. I think if I were a doctors wife, I would need a psychiatrist lol. I would definitely turn into the "crazy doctor's wife" stereotype, because I get so anal. I want someone who is fun loving and isn't too tied down by their job.

I really wish that I had gotten the opportunity to live on campus for a few years when I was 18, but I honestly think it would be wrong to put my parents through such a financial hardship. If I had done that I would have been poorer than ever, because I would have had no money to live on and consequently no life. I applied a few places and was going to get like almost a full scholarship because of my grades, but it didn't pay for everything, and it still would have been almost impossible. I would be stuck with hand me down clothes and frozen dinners every night. If it had have been possible, it would have been a great experience and enriched my life, but everyone is losing their opportunities in this economy. It would have been a great chance to live life independantly and come to some conclusion about what I wanted to do.
PolkaTagAlong   
23 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

I was just thinking the same thing, I need to lower my standards a little bit and just let things happen instead of scrutinizing and trying to cherry pick my situation. I just have a few reservations that I am not willing to budge on, like that he can't be non-white and he has to be tall. I just know that I can't be attracted to short men.

Nothing wrong with finding a partner online. It's the 21st century people! Some of you sound like my Babcia.

I know for a fact that internet dating doesn't work.
PolkaTagAlong   
23 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

They are already classier than you by a country mile. Nothing says class like coming on an internet forum to find a husband..... BTW, what is your location? Georgia in 1853?

I didn't come on here to find a husband on the internet lol. Nothing says stupid like making judgements about someone you've never met before.
PolkaTagAlong   
22 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

Most women your age are far too picky, demanding, spoiled, materialistic, and far from girlfriend material (i could go on with more reasons all day). This is precisely why you're having a hard time finding a man and why most guys are wary of serious relationships with girls your age.

Most men are far too lazy, infantile, unsuccessful, and wanting to be pleased every second, and far from bedroom material. I could go on with more reasons all day, from the video game addictions to the dancing around the truth to the taking everything they want and not even thinking about the woman's needs. Most men cannot take criticism or admit when they're wrong, they can NEVER be at fault for anything.
PolkaTagAlong   
22 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

You would probably be best off by finding an older man, someone 30+ years old.

ugh

You're not going to have a good conversation with someone if you don't know them or don't attempt to get to know them.

Its impossible to get to know someone when all they're interested in is getting in your pants. period. I try to get to know them and all they keep asking me is if I will give them a blow job.
PolkaTagAlong   
22 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

The problem is, there really aren't a lot of places here like that to hang out and find the right crowd. No one hangs out at a museum or art gallery, it is a small town. There are no concerts, unless you count weird hippy stuff like a drum circle. There is a very strange divide of people here. The weird hippies/gays and old yuppies and the baptist country people.

Sex ain't about I give I get. It's something you and your significant other want to do together.

Some guys practically won't even have a good conversation with you until they know something is in it for them. If a guy wants premarital sex in a relationship, and the girl refuses to give it to him because she wants to make sure she is safe, or she is not in love with him yet, then the guy will go elsewhere. The only time a relationship has the potential for chemistry is when the man asks the woman out and pursues her, and I don't have any beautiful hunks chasing after me, just sayin, so I think I have to lower my standards. When there is real chemistry between two people, it is very hard and unnatural to develop a platonic relationship. That's not what I'm looking for. Real men don't do that.

What I'm trying to say is, the guy always wants it before I do, either because I don't like him as much as he does me, he is not ready for a real relationship and can't control himself, or he doesn't care about being with me he just wants to bang a pussy. Maybe young guys get frustrated because they are inexperienced and I am demanding and slow-moving.
PolkaTagAlong   
22 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

Re: club, I'm not talking about clubs. They go straight home after work? What about well to do guys that don't want to cook? Or want to hang out with their co-workers after work? You don't have those?

We don't have those where I live, it's not a sophistocated place. And the "sophistocated" people around here are virtually dry of young bachelors that are my type (not talking about looks necessarily).

I'm thinking if I ever am to find the right person, I will have to move somewhere after I get my degree. It will be difficult living where I have no connections or family but it's do or die.
PolkaTagAlong   
22 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

I am attracted to men that aren't super good looking, just in a different way. Like if a guy has an edge to him, and he's good looking, but he's not a ken doll, I defnitely still find sex pleasureable. There are different levels of attractiveness, obviously!

Only a dollar maybe. You don't have to give them a lot.

Really, my parents say it has to be like 5-10% of your income. I'm plenty ok with giving a small amount to charity, that is if it's a legit one that truly goes to a good cause. That may be the case with the churches where you are, but I'm pretty sure it's not the case here.

Oh, Polka, practically all men, even the "good ones" are looking for sex. They all hope for a relationship that will be a steady and comfortable (but exciting) source of it. If they tell you they are not interested in a relationship, then you are not the one.Sooo...Probably the easiest way to get a man is with sex. But you have to mean it, feel it, and want it. Otherwise you are just trading it and .. you know what that is called.

I didn't say they aren't looking for sex! I WANT a man to desire me, he just has to know that I am not going to give him what he wants until he gives something to me, and that is protection and commitment. If you give a man the prize, what incentive does he have to carry on with the relationship? It shatters any chemistry there may be. They would never say they aren't interested in a relationship, they just mean it and they think the woman is stupid enough not to realize what they're doing, or they're just so impulsive and frustrated they can't help it.
PolkaTagAlong   
22 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

Yes, but I find it so weird because I can't be convinced that there is a God, I just can't. And you have to donate some of your income to the church, that is NOT happening. I am worried about finding someone who is very religious because I'm not religious, and it's kind of deceitful to pretend like you are.
PolkaTagAlong   
22 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

Yes, but I am good at resisting it, because I am highly sensitized. I don't think its realistic to assume that the man I find is going to be irresistibly attractive. Uber attractive men are a pain in the butt and picky most of the time. Most likely they will live with you, and get uninterested and move to another girl when they find that you smell after exercising or don't give a good enough hand job. Because, quite realistically, they can get anything they want with the way they are, and everyone wants the best they can possibly get. I don't want to live up to those ridiculous standards. There are very few decent, attractive men. I can be in love with someone that i'm not as attracted to and be infatuated with the person i'm more attracted to.

You have to let the men find you, yes, you are right, but you have to make yourself AVAILABLE to be found. Because if they don't see you, or get acquainted, they will never know you're available will they?

Most of the time, men who are looking for casual sex are not that interested in a relationship, but are just looking for a pussy to bang. Once they find out they can't convince you to jump right in bed with them, they're not interested at all and you never hear from them again. Then there is the type who is more artful at getting you to think he is serious and is more willing to work at it. I have been burned so many times, I am just not going to let this happen anymore. This happens 90% of the time when a guy approaches me.
PolkaTagAlong   
22 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

Could be, but a lot of bad men are avid churchgoers, it's part of their act.

it's hard to find people who want relationships among the general populous.

You're definitely right about that. It's just hard for me to go to a church I've never been too when I'm not even religious.

I don't even think there are too many singles nights at local churches, I dunno these people are weird about that kind of stuff.
PolkaTagAlong   
22 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

We broke up after a month. He took things too quickly or he was just trying to use me all along. Guys in med school do that. The sooner we broke up the better though, because now that some time has passed by I have realized just how WRONG of a person he was for me.
PolkaTagAlong   
22 Jul 2012
Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

I am stumped as to how I can find a guy who is move in or husband material, everyone I come across that I think might be turns out to want casual sex? Do you think its just because I attract the wrong thing? I think so, but I don't think it's my fault. I am innocent, polite, shy, i look like I could get taken advantage of, but they underestimate how sharp I am. I think I tend to attract guys who are either controlling/abusive or just looking for casual sex. I honestly think when I go out to places I have very little to choose from, not many in my age category (25 or younger), single, and not even close to my type. I want someone who is sane to the core, responsible/moral, classy, tall, white, and has his life on track but not overly religious. This is virtually impossible to find while at the same time be approached by. I have been approached by classy hispanics (no seriously don't laugh, guess they're trying to climb the race ladder) but they don't meet my height requirement and I feel uncomfortable with them, no white men. Is it unreasonable to give up? I just think it's because there is a low population of bachelors my age, the area I live in is full of old people.

Honestly I think a good Polish-American would be right up my ally. We would mostly likely have similar ways of doing things and stuff we expect from the other person. We would both sensitive and affectionate and serious about love. That is out of the question though because of my location.
PolkaTagAlong   
21 Jul 2012
Travel / Collection of dress codes in Poland - what to wear? [95]

Personally, I like skirts better, but jeans or pants are more appropriate for work and school. I like skirts and dresses better, because when I wear one, it's my fun day. I'm kind of unconventional about fashion. I just like what I like, and what looks good on me, I don't necessarily follow the trends.