Love / Why are Polish men so scared of women? [8]

Polish men are like the Polish football team. Great on defense but cannot score to save their lives.

My dating experience is limited, but basing my own perception on that, the warnings of my friends, and seeing the experiences of my friends, things just seem to be different here. Not in a bad or good way, per se, but definitely different. Serious relationships seem to work great, but casual dating seems to be tricky for some reason.

I don't think it's a fear of women, I don't know what it is.

Travel / How come no one ever seems to pay for the bus in Poland? [63]

My friend lives in Wroclaw and claims he never pays for tickets. He rarely gets stopped by inspectors, and when he does he claims the ticket machine is broken and they let him go (don't know if that still works with the new machines inside the bus).

Anyway, in my town, I run into an inspector at least once a week, sometimes more, so it's not even worth it.

The odd thing that happened to me, however, was there was once a ticket control inside a train. Not the regular conductor who comes through and stamps your ticket, but about five men in suits with badges. Scared the living heck out of me because I'd misplaced my ticket. Thankfully, the conductor who stamped me assured them I had it, and they sat and waited until I found it.

No idea what would have happened if I didn't find it.

Travel / How come no one ever seems to pay for the bus in Poland? [63]


Yeah, even though the inspectors are very active in my town, I always see at least two people getting a fine each time the inspectors show up. Then again, I don't know how much he fines are.

Life / Freelance English teacher - Are Polish people unreliable? They continually cancel lessons... [22]


So, so this and what Natasia said.

I've had no problems keeping students, and even had a few ask to keep on with me once I left the school I taught at. I've only had a few reschedules, they were very valid reasons, and I never had any problems collecting the money for the missed lessons (my cancellation policy is no later than 20:00 the night before).

Love / Why are Polish men so scared of women? [8]

Some of us women are more afraid of babies than men are.

Life / Freelance English teacher - Are Polish people unreliable? They continually cancel lessons... [22]


Well, I'm not totally unreasonable, but I don't tell them there are any exceptions. I actually travel to my student's homes (depending on how far), so it's rather a hassle if they cancel last minute. I live in a small town though, so traveling isn't as big of a deal, and it's better for me than having someone come to my home.

That said, when I move to a bigger town and start having students come to me, I might rethink my policy.

Travel / How come no one ever seems to pay for the bus in Poland? [63]

Speaking of bus fares and Wroclaw. I know that the tickets are valid for a certain amount of time. Sometimes the busses get stuck in massive traffic, and a 20 min ride ends up taking 40 mins or more. Do I need to buy a new ticket in that case? I never know what to do in those cases.

Love / Are Polish Girls scared of English Guys [124]


I agree if we're talking about the kind of Polish man Larwa is describing. Fortunately, there are a fair amount of blokes here who know how to dress themselves, get a proper haircut, ect. Looks aren't everything, mind. But they type of guy who does that sort of thing is more likely to have a good personality to go with the exterior (not to say there aren't head cases too, but it's like that in all countries).

Travel / How come no one ever seems to pay for the bus in Poland? [63]

Thanks for the explanation and advice.

At least on days I'm going to the airport, however, I think I'm going to stick with my current strategy of just buying a new ticket. It would be my luck to have an inspector who actually will call the police and delay me on one of those days. And I'm never carrying cash when I'm flying.

Life / If a Phone Gets Stolen in Wroclaw [11]

Thanks. I'll start looking around for it. Buying it back isn't the issue so much as getting the phone itself back.

Life / If a Phone Gets Stolen in Wroclaw [11]

Yeah, it's a long shot, I realise, but have to look. It's a bit rare, but easy to tell if it's the right phone because it's got a unique OS.

Life / If a Phone Gets Stolen in Wroclaw [11]

Luckily, it's a smart phone, so the contacts are all saved elsewhere. I am not a tech wiz, so I don't understand what software was on the phone, how hard it is to replace, ect.

Not an iPhone though, so unfortunately no tracking.

Love / Sexually liberal ----- Is this a fact or myth for Polish women living in Poland? [61]

I would agree with Magdalena. I have people in my circle of friends who will under no circumstances have sex before marriage (and consider even kissing to be a Big Deal), others who are in poly relationships, others who regularly have one night stands, others who prefer one long term partner at a time (maybe or maybe not for marriage) ect, ect. Personally, I think Poland has a wider spectrum of attitudes towards sexuality than in the average country.

Love / Sexually liberal ----- Is this a fact or myth for Polish women living in Poland? [61]


Depends on the person, but generally the poly folks I've run into here are hetero


Unfortunately, the "I shag strangers in bathroom stalls" T-shirt is no longer in fashion. I think the OP might just have to do it the hard was and talk to teh wimminz.

Love / Sexually liberal ----- Is this a fact or myth for Polish women living in Poland? [61]

While I've run into a Polish guy with several girlfriends, I have yet to run into one where the girls are aware of what's going on. And that's not poly.** Of my female Polish friends, 3 are actively in a poly dynamic now (as in everyone knows the arrangement).

**Now, keep in mind, most of my friends are female, so I don't have a huge sample size of men. Also, I tend to stay away from the "organized" poly community, so there could be boatloads and I'm just unaware. Ultimately, I think that just like with Polish women, there's a huge spectrum when it comes to Polish men. I've met some men who are quite secure with their sexuality and kinks and others who think doing it doggy style counts as a perverted and deviant act.

Love / Sexually liberal ----- Is this a fact or myth for Polish women living in Poland? [61]

Yes, and that everyone is aware of the arrangement. Without that last bit it's less poly and more cheating.

Love / Sexually liberal ----- Is this a fact or myth for Polish women living in Poland? [61]

The fun thing about poly relationships, is they are all so very different from each other. Really, the only common thread is they all know the arrangement. And really, that just makes things better all the way around.

Love / Sexually liberal ----- Is this a fact or myth for Polish women living in Poland? [61]


I've had a few poly relationships, mostly as a secondary partner but once as a primary. I should also mention, polyamory is NOT swinging. Swinging is about having recreational sex (often at parties or clubs, but not always), where polyamory is about having relationships. As odd as it sounds, swinging is much more about monogamy than polyamory in a lot of ways. A lot of swingers look at feelings and emotional attachments as a bad thing outside the core relationship, while that is the point of polymaory.


That's true for everyone everywhere. It's certainly nothing unique to Poland. Don't the stats generally come back that something like, 80% of partners are unfaithful? Well, and not to mention the fact that women generally have more sexual partners in a lifetime than a man (of course, getting accurate data is always a challenge, and there's generally lots of dispute among any findings). What can be said for sure, is the numbers of partners reported is going up for women and down for men. Whether that's due to more accurate reporting, women starting to embellish too, or actual changes in sexual attitudes, who's to say?

Anyway, that's probably more science than you were looking for. One of the dangers of talking to a sex educator. :P

Love / Sexually liberal ----- Is this a fact or myth for Polish women living in Poland? [61]


The studies are just based on heterosexual intercourse, but it's just the same way the traditional studies show men having more partners than women, just reversed. The reason the numbers are never equal, is because they rarely calculate the raw average. The only point of calculating the raw average is to get an idea of whether or not the study is even sort of accurate or to compare the average numbers to an earlier data set. Instead, most are looking for what the number of sexual partners the *average* man or woman has.

Okay, and here's the TL;DR part that is probably getting way more scientific than you're looking for.

So, in a survey done by More* magazine, we see that 25% of women have had more than 10 partners, while only 20% of men report the same. The average woman has had 9 sexual partners and the average man has had 7 (sorry, can't find the original study which would show the percentages) telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/3685314/Young-women-have-more-sexual-partners-than-men.html

* We'll get to why these surveys might actually be more accurate than more "traditional" surveys in a bit. The sample size was quite large (2,000). I cannot find out how they gathered participants, however, and that does make a huge difference. If it's not completely random, that can skew the results. But, the results do stem with other surveys given.

Here's an interesting read on sex surveys and the kind of answers given. Now, this study is looking for the raw average, but it's because they weren't trying to measure the average of sexual partners, but under what conditions people were most honest about their sexual deeds:

researchnews.osu.edu/archive/sexsurv.htm

What's interesting is women who thought their answers would be read, reported an average of 2.6 partners, while the ones that theough they were hooked up to a lie detector reported an average of 4.4. Compare that to men who gave an average answer of 3.7 when they thought their answers would be read and an average answer of 4.0* when they thought they were hooked up to the lie detector.

*A .4 variation would be expected in a sample size this small. If it were a survey of say, 5,000, .4 would be too high.

Well, this is problematic when the most reliable studies have been traditionally thought to be face-to-face interviews.

To compound issues, men and women guesstimate differently. Men tend to just give a rough estimate, where women tend to tally the partners in their head, by name. This gives men a generally overinflated number, and women an either accurate or lower number (human memory is one of the most faulty things we have, afterall). ualberta.ca/~nrbrown/pubs/BrownSinclair1999.pdf

And that's just the basics, there's even more variables. The age at which you ask participants, relationship status, cultural and ethinc background, ect. And you have the bias of the people doing the survey to take into consideration. While they might not mean to skew the results, very subtle ways they word the question (even subconsciously) can affect the results they're given.

Another thing, when you're looking at surveys, you need to pay attention to the wording of the questions asked of the participants. Surveys that just ask "How many sexual partners have you had" or "how many people have you had sex with" are going to be inherently flawed since there's a huge difference of opinion on what counts as sex. A good study will actually indicate the sexual activity or activities that count as "sex" for the purpose of the study.

Ultimately though, when you look at good research, there's so many more myths than facts when it comes to sexuality (did you know, for example, that men in relationships with feminists report a happier sex life and get sex more often?). And a big part of this has been the decades of either flawed research, misinterpretation of the research by people that don't know how to read a study, and good old confirmation bias (we tend to ignore things that don't stem with our perception of the world).

Love / Sexually liberal ----- Is this a fact or myth for Polish women living in Poland? [61]

Well, statistically speaking, they're quite common. The question is, what kind of woman are you attracting? Or, are you attracting the kind of woman who will shag you without a commitment and are you unaware of that? That seems to be the biggest complaing of my female Polish friends, and I have seen it first hand.

Love / Sexually liberal ----- Is this a fact or myth for Polish women living in Poland? [61]


Unfortunately, I've got nothing when it comes to dating advice.


More that guys will be clearly into them, and so totally clueless that the girl wants to shag.

Love / Sexually liberal ----- Is this a fact or myth for Polish women living in Poland? [61]

I have no idea, mate. I just know that some Polish guys have rather odd quirks.

Sorry, missed a few quotes: Poly relationships are a type of open relationship, but not all open relationships are poly. Swing, f. eks. is open but not poly.

Not everyone is wired to be poly, but if you are it's not any more stressful. You have to trust your partner, you have to work at keeping not one, but a few relationships going, jealousy can be a bad thing too, but it's great for the people who enjoy it. It depends on the arrangement, and there are many, but generally the dynamic is a primary couple. The other partners are all secondary (or even teritiary) to the primary. Everyone tends to know one another and is at least on friendly terms as well.


Never had a poly relationship with a Polish guy. Like I said, in my experience, they're mostly mono. Plus, not in a poly mood right now.

Love / Sexually liberal ----- Is this a fact or myth for Polish women living in Poland? [61]

Unlike finding women who want to casually date, finding someone poly can be difficult. People into polyamory are a minority, and dating someone new to that way of life is unfortunately something some poly folk avoid.

Love / Sexually liberal ----- Is this a fact or myth for Polish women living in Poland? [61]

Well, as I stated before, I have a love/hate relationship with the poly communities, but there are lots of online and offline poly communites around the world. Maybe go explore those. They are full of good info, generally, unlike...other online communities.

But if it's the sex and not the relationships you're after, then swinging might be more your style. While swingers are cool people, that's just not a lifestyle that appeals to me, so I never sought out any swingers here. I do know that in a lot of areas, the general rule for parties and clubs is couples or single women only though. So you might need to find an open minded gal to go with.

Life / A rant on customer service in Poland [42]

I've ordered from there before, and they put tons of duck, veggies, some weird sweet things in it. I get it, mistakes happen, but then they should correct the mistake.

I have been the victim of false advertising before, however. Paid a pretty penny for some artichokes in a posher restaurant in Wro and got sauteed onions (not even listed as an ingredient) and two tiny slivers of artichoke.


Touche.

Life / A rant on customer service in Poland [42]


Actually, that is a distinct possibility. Maybe he knew I'd not go along with his, "Oh, I don't have change" shenanigans and thus ate my duck as preemptive revenge.

Life / A rant on customer service in Poland [42]


I'll try that in the morning. I did ask to speak to the manager, but they claimed he wasn't there. Probably with be too late, but worth the call.


I was actually rather pleased with them initially, and liked them better than Orange. One of the odd quirks of them, at least in my experience, is the credit doesn't expire when it should, making prepaid cheaper for me than a subscription. But, besides the nonsense with the cards, Play has started not delivering international SMSs to me. I can send them. I've also tried two different SIMs in three different phones. It them, not me for sure. I'm going to Plus next.

Yes, the customer service is a bit special here. And I swear PKP is actively trying to unseat Ukraine as the most frustrating customer service ever.

Law / Poland KRS (Police Background Check) form / records [16]

Merged: How do I get a police background / criminal record check in Poland?

I need it to start uni and I need it in a rather short amount of time. I assume I'd be going to the police department, but I'm not even sure of that. If they don't speak English, I don't know what I'm asking for. I also need to be able to ask them how long it will take and if there's an option to exptidite it. I also have no idea what documents I need. I'm not a Polish citizen, so I don't know if the procedures are different for me

To further complicate matters, I'm not even living in Poland at the moment. I know I have to fly back there to get it, that's not an issue. It just means I have an extreme time crunch when it comes to getting things done, I need to make sure I've brought all the documents I need, ect, ect. In addition, I have a NIP but no PESL since I'm a foreginer (but did and technically still do, legally reside in Poland).