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Unmarried couples in Poland = pathology [310]
1. after marriage life is finished--- This is one of the biggest problems with people getting married today. This statement is true but in a good way. One's individual life is over and becomes one with thier spouse. Two people are supposed to act as one in the best interest of the family. Sounds like your parents did great.
2. after marriage life is sad--- Having children is sad?????
3. marriage is a state full of grudges and remorses-- life in general can be full of both of these. You can't blame marriage for an individuals short comings.
4. when you are married and you have children then you are stuck for good--- This is the biggest disapointment out of the 5 statements you made. You should want to be with your spouse forever. Marriage isn't untill we see someone who looks better, makes more money, or we are feeling a little down. It is permanent or should be (civil law screwed that up) It wasn't your parents that gave you this idea ..it was society that has allowed the end of marriage to become too easy and almost expected in todays selfish society.
5. when you have children then you are obliged to sacrifice in the sake children unless you want to be called bad mother/father.--- I really hope you don't have any children if you don't feel this is a good thing.
a) rises in the conviction of being the bee's knees
b) has remorses that ruin their parents lifes, feels the pressure to fill parents' ambitions and if he/she won't be succeed then has even worse remorse of letting down parents
I am not sure what to make of a). Were you an only child?? If you have remorses about your parents lives thats on you not them. Have you ever heard of the 5th comandment.
Have you ever spoken to your parents about thier marriage? A true parent is proud of thier child regardless. As there is no such thing as the perfect marriage , there is also no perfect child.
I am sorry you are feeling down about life , I hope things turn around for you. Your parents as far as I am reading seemed to everything right. Not sure why you have interpreted thier marriage the way you have.