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Help finding siblings after adoption from Warsaw orphanage


Anialooking 1 | 1
15 Nov 2012 #1
Hi, I am searching for my siblings from both of my biological parents. I have their names and everything that was supplied to me through my birth certificate. I also know the street the orphanage was on in Warsaw. I was adopted in the early 80's. How do I go about searching for them? It is possible that I do not have any full sisters or brothers only half siblings. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance Ania

Here is the information I have. Fathers name is mirosław stanisław zadykiewicz. He was born on April 9 1953 in wołomin. At the time of my birth he lived at ul. paplinskiego 48/7 wołomin. I know he was in and out of jail during that time and at some point after my adoption my birth parents did marry. I do not believe they are still married. My mothers name is Bożena Gil. She was born in August 28,1955 in Otwock but resided in Sulejòwek when I was born. My birth name was Kinga Zadykowicz and I know she had a child after me and gave her the same first name. I should also let you know I have met my birth mother in the early 2000's it was not a very useful reunion as the toll of alcohol was getting in the way of her memory. She told me she had three kids total and all of us had been taken away. I know one sibling might possibly live in France with the biological father (not my bio father) she also told me that my bio father had some other kids as well but didn't know any further information. I am not sure what happened with her other child if he or she was adopted or just placed in an orphanage. Once again any help would be greatly appreciated.
Ant63 13 | 410
15 Nov 2012 #2
As an adoptee myself, I'd be pretty upset if someone found me because I have no interest in being found. I'd be pretty angry actually. Why not let them find you if they really want to. It might be happier all round.

This is a touchy subject for a lot of people and has potential to cause a lot of damage. Did you know there is a high suicide rate amongst adoptees that discover their birth parent/parents? Trust me, you should seek professional advice before embarking on this mission. It could lead to catastrophe.

My adoptive mother gave me my original birth certificate when I was 42 although I was aware from an early age I was adopted. I was well settled but this messed with my head in a big way. I tracked my birth mother down and sat in my car outside her house in the early hours of the morning, thinking should I do this. I thought it through and decided it was a can of worms I didn't want to open. What would it do to her? What effect would it have on me? My conclusion was I didn't need this and there was a good chance she didn't either. What I never knew, I never lost.

Be careful.
OP Anialooking 1 | 1
16 Nov 2012 #3
Not sure why but it will not let me enter my reply to you bc of a word I'm using?

But I have already met my birth mother I'm searching for siblings, what's the harm in that?
It's not their fault.
tygrys 3 | 290
16 Nov 2012 #4
Have you looked at Nasza Klasa? Lot of good info in there
strzyga 2 | 993
16 Nov 2012 #5
Anialooking, I've browsed several Polish adoption forums and it seems that finding adopted siblings is very hard even for Poles living here and speaking the language. There's a lot of red tape and confidentiality issues to be overcome.

A few important questions: can you speak/read Polish? do you know the birth names of your siblings?
The more you already know, the easier it is to look further.
The search usually starts with talking to family members/neighbours/anybody who might have known your birth family or known anything - the names and dates of birth of your siblings, where they were taken to and when, etc.

The next step is visiting the local courts/orphanages/adoption centres and trying to get info from there.
In many cases you need to visit the places in person as they are not entitled to disclose any confidential info by mail or phone.

The most you can achieve is to locate the adoption centre which dealt with your siblings' adoptions and leave your address with them. They can't disclose the info concerning the adoptions and their whereabouts but should your brother/sister contact them looking for you, your address will be passed on.

There's also the informal way - looking through fora, community sites, Nasza Klasa etc. With a bit of luck, you might find something there.

Good luck in your search.
Ant63 13 | 410
16 Nov 2012 #6
It's not their fault.

Of course its not their fault and what happened wasn't necessarily a bad thing. From what you have divulged it was essential to ensure you had a future.

what's the harm in that?

Maybe there will be none. I'm just saying be careful. This sort of thing is life changing and potentially harmful. It's something that needs very careful consideration and shouldn't be done through selfish desire. Remember you are playing with someone else's emotions and psyche that probably doesn't even know you. I'm just putting an alternative view forward. I don't know the full details and you shouldn't make them public.

I'll give you an example from my past. I grew up believing I was born at Birminhgham childrens hospital. That was fine by me. I didn't need to know anymore although I did on rare occasions think about this. I was 31 when my first child was born. The day I registered his birth was a life changer and upset several peoples lives. I was asked where I was born and on replying I was told it was impossible as there was never a maternity unit at Birmingham childrens. My nose was pretty much put out of joint and a big argument ensued at the registrars. An even bigger argument occurred when I confronted my adoptive parents which resulted in us not talking for 3 years which now I sincerely regret. They lied to me but they had a very good reason to do so. It was for my protection as a young child. It took me 3 years to really understand and even now typing this I'm trying to think of an alternative method they could have used. I can't.

So thats something that in most peoples mind is something pretty small, but this had a significant effect on me and my adoptive parents.

I don't normally advocate the use of psychologists but in a situation like yours I would recommend a couple of sessions to open your mind to the possibilities. How many people through history have believed they were doing good unto others and caused the opposite?

Be careful.
pip 10 | 1,659
16 Nov 2012 #7
I agree- be careful but her situation is not the same as yours.


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