I have been with my GF for a little over a year now. She won't disagree with me because she has this whole male superiority stigma. She won't EVER talk back to her dad or her older brother or grandpa. So she won't ever talk back to me. In my GF's family women r supposed to serve men. I know u'll say it's bad but it is just how it is in her family. It's kind of nice as long as ur not the one doing the serving.
In my family, my mom serves everyone dinner every night, but she also completely dominates everyone. My mom is full-time teacher, runs my dads business (plus the extra business of flipping houses), and still does the cooking and cleaning. She is a super woman, but she can also be super terrifying.
Its odd that you ended up with the Polish girl that doesn`t talk back or say whats on her mind. Polish women may serve certain gender roles, but they`re usually more than ready to argue with something they disagree with.
Her brother is going to be an interesting case though since he works a rinky dinky job as an electrician for 20 buxx an hour and his fiance is a pharmacist which makes 60$ an hour. She works about 50 hours a week and they don't live together yet even though they have a house. An expensive one 2 at 600,000. I am really hoping he steps up to a better job because otherwise it's going to b very hard on his future wife.
There is NO way they could make the payment on their house without her working. His salary probably wouldn't even cover the payment on that house let alone necessities. I am going to lose all respect for him if his wife has to clean the house, cook, raise the kids and be the primary source of income. She won't even be able to take a maternity leave because of the fat house payment.
Wow, that really sucks for him. Here, he`d be making $50+ per hour, no problem. My friend`s boyfriend is a custodian at an elementary school and he makes about 20 per hour, and gets benefits (no Polish cleaner jokes please because they`re both Portuguese)
If he`s young he could just be starting out. Is there a market for electrician`s or are there too many in Cali? Maybe he should look for a different labour job that pays more.
It would definitely be an embarrassment for his family if he stayed home. If that`s what they decide to do, eventually the family will get used to it, but it will be hard for them in the beginning because that`s still seen as something that women should do. Either way, I`m sure they`ll work something out. Once they have children, they`ll have no choice but to do what is best for the little ones :)
I plan on being the sole source of income when i marry my GF so she can at least stay home with the kids until they r 11 or 12. That is wat I had growing up and I wouldn't have it any othere way. It's pathetic when having a big house full of empty space and gender roles come before your children's livelyhood!
She sounds like she`ll be okay with it. You know, she doesn`t really need to stay home until they`re 11-12 because they`ll be in school all day and she`ll have nothing to do but scratch her butt and wait (of course there`s cleaning and cooking but thats not exactly satisfying work for most women).