Do Poles ignore domestic abuse?

Oh stop. A little yelling during an argument is hardly "emotional abuse". That's Femnazi BS.

i wasn't talking about that...


you keep repeating that... you should stop...

Sorry PGTX, in this case the Redneck is correct. Relationships are not always plain sialing and a little shouting at one another can often clear the air and actually be beneficial. Women who play the emotional abuse card durng an argument often give as good as they get the rest of the time


Well, one of the reasons my parents divorced was because my (Polish) father was a loud mouthed boorish crybaby who would often humiliate my mum in front of his mates (shouting, swearing, sweeping stuff off the table for her to clean up etc.) and by the time Mum left she was, by all accounts, a nervous wreck. They never sorted their relationship out and even now 30 years later she doesn't want to be in any way associated with him. They couldn't even bury the hatchet for my wedding.

You can only take shit for so long before you start believing it. Think about it.

Many years ago,
there was a bunch of us, boys and girls, all friends, in Ireland.
A new fella, Patrick started hanging around with us.
I thought he was fine but the girls told me he was being abusive to them (creepy) and rubbing himself against them out side their houses at night when he followed them home uninvited.

A few of them came to me at the same time to tell me this.
So I told Patrick if I heard anything like that again I would knock him in to next week.
He disappeared.

Years later (I was about 19) I met him in London, he was hanging around with a load of people I know there.
His girlfriend, who I did not know, came to a friend of mine with a black eye, caused by Patrick.
I remembered what i had said to Patrick a few years earlier, so I went to follow through on my threat.
I burst my way in the front door and ran down the hall after the guy to give him a kicking.
He ran in to the bedroom and up jumps the girlfriend in front of him, screaming "leave him alone!".
His landlord, a friend of mine, came in and asked me to leave.
I did.
They both left the following week.
About two months after that i heard he had broken her arm, two ribs and generally smashed her up AND they were going to get married ???.

After that I realised what a dreadful mistake I had made,
that here was this bully, terrorising this young girl, while I was terrorising him (making me somehow like him), when in actual fact she loved (???) him and wanted to marry the guy.

It had nothing to do with me.
I was young and quick to temper back then but I learned a lot from this experience.
Basically that it takes two to tango and me interfering makes me an abuser.

I don't understand delikatna's thread here, her man is abusing her and she blames some other guys for not doing anything???.
Perhaps the other guys are just more experienced than i was?.

i didn't mean a shouting at each other during an argument...
never mind anyway...

No, you did the right thing, Sean.


Thank you, Mr. Liberal Nutjob. ;)

That is what i thought but I was wrong.
His girlfriend kinda enjoyed the attention, they were both mad.
I understand now why police are reluctant to get involved in domestics.
It is not always clear cut.
If you bully a bully and she gets off on all this, what does that make you?.
I tried to shorten the story and in doing so left out some details but they were off their heads, you'll just have to take my word for it.

so emotional abuse is not really a "femnazi" invention, is it?

I still think, for what you had to go on, you did the right thing by standing up to the bully for the girls. And then you got out when you saw the true light of the situation. It's all good. Bullies need someone to stand up to them and defend the defensless. If not you, then who?


Oh, get off my leg and go lick your wounds, you crybaby.

But what if in doing so you find out that you are the bully?.
it is not easy and I have learned a lot from it.

As for yelling, there is yelling and there is yelling.

Sometimes it is a release and sometimes it is degrading/bullying.
Domestic abuse comes under many categories, psychological abuse can some times be worse than physical.
But people fight and more often than not, when people fight they raise their voices and shout.

I would find it hard to believe anyone trying to justify psychological abusing someone by belittling them, shouting and generally being verbally violent.
But we may have different ideas of shouting.

I would agree with all of that, Sean.
But I still say you did the right thing.
Back in school all of my fights were from me taking it to the bullies.

Some day you could wake up and realise you are the bully.
It is a slippery slope.

I like to think I made high school a little more tolerable for the meek and picked on innocents.

could not say it better myself. There were times when I got between two abusive people and I ended up being an enemy to both of them. Now, I just don't react.

No i never paid for a girl , son i've had better lookin girls than you'll ever have, u probably gotta put up with all their shit cause you're butt ugly and wouldn't be able to find anyone else. And Pgtx its not verbal abuse when she's the one that starts doing it to you, its called defending yourself. i have a long temper, but i'll let anyone disrespect me.

Says it all really.

OOps, mistake i ment no one

'............meant no one' ?

Let's be glad that domestic abuse tends to be confined to telling family members how bad their day was ;) ;)

In Scotland, I imagine this to be far worse. It's a big problem there.

What do you say to a woman with two black eyes............................
nothin - you've telt her twice already !!!

( Awwww c'mon - I'm only joking )

Or more likely, what do you say to a man with 2 black eyes?
Hiz the bitch been at it again? ;)

Ignore?! We support it! We have wife abuse classes, lessons on how to chase down the hiding spouse and how to kick her ass if she's holding a blunt object.

Seriously though no we do not, barring patological families and couples domestic abuse is not accepted.

It's hard to intervene with pathological families. They are in a league of their own for insanity.

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