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Does she like me? - help needed please from any Polish girls..


Buddy 7 | 167  
18 Mar 2008 /  #61
"Better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all".

I would write some romantic poetry, drink a bottle of absinthe and post her my ear. If that doesn't grab her attention nothing will. Some painter did it once, I ąm not sure who (maybe Rolph Harris).
SouthOfDaThames - | 87  
18 Mar 2008 /  #62
"Better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all".

I've never been sure about this one. have you ever had your heart broken? I have, and it's awful.
Buddy 7 | 167  
18 Mar 2008 /  #63
No never. I don+t possess emotions, they are surplus to my needs as a Robot.
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
19 Mar 2008 /  #64
I would write some romantic poetry, drink a bottle of absinthe and post her my ear

Or he could shagg her mate...aparently that works wonders for some people..

I've never been sure about this one. have you ever had your heart broken? I have, and it's awful.

But at least you know its never going to happen again.....
SouthOfDaThames - | 87  
19 Mar 2008 /  #65
But at least you know its never going to happen again.....

How do you know it won't? Are you suggesting I can't pull or something??? I'm not the one starting "I want Polish woman" threads am I?
MareGaea 29 | 2,751  
19 Mar 2008 /  #66
and who needs more friends lol

If a woman I'm interested in says to me "let's just be friends" I basically tell her that, yeah. And I actually mean it as well. Thing is, it's just not possible (at least not for me) to be friends with a woman I adore. Hear all the freakin' and excruciating details on how she went on a date with some other dude? No way. Bottom line is: she rejected your feelings. And things will never be the same anymore. Better to move on to someone who doesn't reject your feelings. And think about it from her perspective: she gets from you all her emotional needs fulfilled like pouring her heart out about what jerks men are and free meals and everything...well you know what I mean, without having to kiss you or sleep with you. Short: she gets all the benefits from you she wants from a man without having to sleep with you. And after all your previous efforts she just rejected you? When somebody (not specifically women, for that matter) starts talking to me about being friends, I kind of automatically start thinking what added value this girl or guy could have to my life? Does he have useful connections? Does he/she have a skill that I don't have? Most of the girls for whom I had feelings and who wanted to be just friends with me, could not add anything to my life. So I just said goodbye. It may sound hard, but it's just to protect yourself. I have a little black book full of phone numbers with acqaintances (I'd rather not call them friends) who could be of some use somewhere, someday. I have only six real friends, friends who have known me all my life and I consider like brothers. Think about it. Why would you waste time to comfort somebody who rejected your feelings? Why would you do that?

M-G (life is tough, you have to protect yourself, dude)
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
19 Mar 2008 /  #67
luhif, I am stunned. If I were you I would have thought she had romantic feelings. It was very naive of her to get so close to a man like that if she had no feelings.

My advice is that if you really love her, you shouldn't just walk away. Love doesn't just go away. It stays and endures. Keep being the amazing person you are with her. You never know what will happen in the future.
MareGaea 29 | 2,751  
20 Mar 2008 /  #68
Sometimes girls are like that, SheWolf; although I would not call it naive, I would call it playing games. Of course she knew he had feelings for her. All women know when a man has feelings for her. To get so close and yet have no feelings for him is either cruel or she's simply just after a free meal or free drinks or needs to see her emotional needs fulfilled which she cannot get with her boyfriend. Like I said in a previous post, it is simply not possible to be friends with a girl you have feelings for. She will exploit you emotionally, maybe without even knowing it. You'll give her all the benefits and she does not have to give anything in return. That's simply not fair, but hey, if you want it that way: just go for it and find out for yourself when she has a new boyfriend. My best bet would be that it would not be you.

My advice is that if you really love her, you shouldn't just walk away. Love doesn't just go away. It stays and endures. Keep being the amazing person you are with her. You never know what will happen in the future.

Walking away does not mean staying away. Cut all ties with her for a while and see what happens. Distance can be good for you: it gives her space and time to think and gives you the opportunity to recover from the blow she has given to you. If she really has any feelings for you, she should pop over in her own sweet time (even if she mumbles something like the "friends" thing), if she doesn't come back, she was never that into you in the first place.

M-G (knows the theory sounds good and easy, but to actually do it, is a different story)
zoogle 6 | 44  
20 Mar 2008 /  #69
words of a pro M-G, well put if I do say so myself
MareGaea 29 | 2,751  
21 Mar 2008 /  #70
ah well, I do my best. I just can't stand seeing guys being played around by cunning females who in the end get everything and the guys end up with nothing and in worst cases even the rep of being a pervert or *sshole. If a girl is not interested in a guy, ok, that can happen, but she should just SAY so. At least I say it straight to a girl when I'm not interested. It might be tough to say, but at least it's fair and honest. Unfortunately women come up with excuses and stories, leaving the guy guessing what it is all about. I respected the women who said straightforward that they were not interested in me much and much more than the ones who left me guessing and going in for that one extra free meal when they know they are not interested. I would call this type of women "attention wh*res"; not interested, but in it for the free meal and the attention you give them.

M-G
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
24 Mar 2008 /  #71
To get so close and yet have no feelings for him is either cruel

very true! it was so cruel of her.
Mali - | 300  
24 Mar 2008 /  #72
ah well, I do my best. I just can't stand seeing guys being played around by cunning females who in the end get everything and the guys end up with nothing and in worst cases even the rep of being a pervert or *sshole. If a girl is not interested in a guy, ok, that can happen, but she should just SAY so. At least I say it straight to a girl when I'm not interested. It might be tough to say, but at least it's fair and honest. Unfortunately women come up with excuses and stories, leaving the guy guessing what it is all about. .

Some men are just as bad. One guy completely stopped contacting me out of the blue for a few weeks because he thought I wanted to ruin his freedom. I was 20 years old at the time and he actually thought I was trying to 'trap' him into marriage. What a doorknob! If he actually told me what he was worried about, I would have put him to ease by telling him that I'm not getting married any time soon :S. He was pretty dense, I have to admit.

back go the topic: She's being a c*nt, from what it sounds like. She likes the idea of having you fawn at her, but she probably doesn't want to be with you. She likes having you there because you flatter her. Let her find someone else that will put up with her BS.

If a woman I'm interested in says to me "let's just be friends" I basically tell her that, yeah. And I actually mean it as well. Thing is, it's just not possible (at least not for me) to be friends with a woman I adore. Hear all the freakin' and excruciating details on how she went on a date with some other dude? No way. Bottom line is: she rejected your feelings

Great post MG! After being rejected, I would have a hard time pretending to be okay with being "friends". Why put yourself through that?
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
26 Mar 2008 /  #73
All women know when a man has feelings for her.

I disagree with the idea that all women know when a man has feelings for her. There are some men that hide it well. They never give any signals and they act like they're okay with just being friends. And some women believe them.

If a man is going to walk away from a woman just because she rejected him, he was obviously only using her. He didn't really love her. He just wanted one thing from her. Love doesn't just go away like that. She's going to feel hurt and deceived, too, if he led her to believe that he was a true friend.
OP luhif 1 | 14  
26 Mar 2008 /  #74
shewolf wrote : If a man is going to walk away from a woman just because she rejected him, he was obviously only using her.He didn't really love her. He just wanted one thing from her. Love doesn't just go away like that.

true..i agree...Love doesnt just go away....

shewolf wrote: She's going to feel hurt and deceived, too, if he led her to believe that he was a true friend.

true..very very true..coz as i said..she was trying to give me each proof that she didnt want me to think that she is feeling something about me.

even she was very sad about it..

she told me that she wanted to talk wiv me when i visit poland..

but unfortunately...it came out earlier..
King Sobieski 2 | 714  
26 Mar 2008 /  #75
maybe she just likes you as a friend...

post #46 had it all for you luhif.

and i dont think she was playing you, she just liked your "friendship".
OP luhif 1 | 14  
26 Mar 2008 /  #76
King Sobieski wrote:
maybe she just likes you as a friend...

yeah...u were right..

King Sobieski wrote :and i dont think she was playing you

NOT AT ALL...i didnt even think that she was playing with me...nor I m thinking now..I know her little bit..she IS a very good girl..

King Sobieski wrote :she just liked your "friendship"

yeah i know now...and she still likes it.
gem_112 - | 1  
4 May 2008 /  #77
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southern 74 | 7,074  
4 May 2008 /  #78
Why don't you just ask her how she feels about you? If you're too shy to ask her in person, do it through an email or a letter. Just say something simple like, "are your feelings for me purely friendship or do you feel something more? I'm just curious."

I messed it up guys.. :-( ...I m soooo sad now...

I followed what Shewolf said

Are you serious,dude?Did you follow a woman's advice?It is the worst you could have done.She would give you this answer whether she liked you or not.
logan8200 - | 2  
5 Jun 2008 /  #79
hi girls
soory to disturb you all but i am in a small problem
i like a girl and think to take our relation as long as end of life but how could i say this to her.
pls help me

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