Does she like me? - help needed please from any Polish girls..

Thats damm difficult for me...I know it may not sound good but how to do it??

how to tell her...or make first move??

Sorry Wersal, i'm trying to resist, honest....... i feel a long night coming on!

To be honest luhif... i dont know coz like i said im in the exact same situation as you with my girl, i am 23 and also somewhat shy around her so its gonna be hard for me too but i know i will have to do this SOMEHOW lol.

so does anyone else have any suggestions for both;-) of us???

Don't rush things and make sure that you read the signs...

Take things as they come - don't scare her off... and good luck :)

maybe you could take a webcam with you and we could do a cyranno de bergerac over the net.

Two words
Butt sex

K well First off
If she invited you to a wedding im pretty sure she likes you
And I don't think asking her "do you like me?" is the way to go, maybe ask her out to dinner or something.. its a lot easier..

Why don't you just ask her how she feels about you? If you're too shy to ask her in person, do it through an email or a letter. Just say something simple like, "are your feelings for me purely friendship or do you feel something more? I'm just curious."

Maybe she's dying to tell you that she loves you but she's too shy to do it.

(that's for both guys who asked for advice)

shewolf is right....there is a 'but' tho...
somebody has to feel the moment to say it is right and it's good if it comes out from that person with no asking... because if she is not ready, she may close down or run away...

in the other hand, sometimes it's worth to ask... you might get everything...

Yes, don't rush things unless it's been too long now and it needs to be either yes or no. But if you wait too long to make a move she might think you don't like her. It's all about the right timing for your situation.

yes....yes....and yes....

focus on the right timing :)

She did not invite me to wedding..It was my another couligue who is getting married in
April..She invited her too...when she came to know that I might come to attend
wedding,she asked me if I can stay longer so that she can show me some beautiful
places in Poland.


I agree.


May be u r right but its better to say in person isnt it? I know its very difficult for me but I will do it somehow..as I got answer from LondonCkick like I have to look for signs..

so i ll do it..


Well i can say that it she wont think that coz I know her little bit...yes i totally agree wiv u and polishgirltx about timing and situation..

Well U know I asked her like Wht kind of guy do u like?? and she answerd like she cant belive that i m asking her these kind of things...but she replied and told me that wht kind of guy attracts her..like he has to be Clever,Understanding,Resorceful,Surprising,Little crazy as well LOL...

Just get someone to phone her and tell her you died, and see what the reaction is !

That's a sure test, just make sure its not you phoning her to tell her that......

or

Give me her number and i'll phone her, if she comes out on a date with me, you're history !

That's a good one, should try that someday - "Hey girl, M-G has died; sad eh? Oh yeah, and he asked me if you would come to Thomas Read's this next Saturday Afternoon to have coffee with him."

Edit: other suggestion in the non-department: inflict some serious injury on yourself and land up in the hospital and then get a friend to call her and inform her of that. Or: get a friend to call her and tell her you turned back to nature and were living with the apes. If her reaction is good, then she likes you. Unfortunately she will scr*w your friend, but hey, that's all in the game, isn't it?

M-G

totally brilliant, you're a genius, a funny one too ! I like it......

edited: and he's only asking for help to find out if she likes him, even though she's probably screwing someone else, like his more talented not so shy mate !

well, resourceful you may be using the net to find out if a girl likes you but a clever, little crazy and surprising you definitely do not sound.

maybe she just likes you as a friend...

Oh, I'm such a clever, crazy little girl => watch me being crazy...Sounds like a woman in her 60's who was never really a hippy, but decides to throw her right-wing politics overboard and act A LITTLE CRAZY...You don't want to know what I think about that.

Edit: Oh you have such long nights of meaningful discussions with her about the meaning of life and you feel there is a connection and you are warming up to her, but she says "let's just wait and get to know each other" and then a Turk comes and f*cks her. And you are wondering what the hell went wrong - that is, if you ever get to know that it happened.

M-G (has just posted the B-Side of his new single on MySpace =>go have a listen!)

I'm sure she likes you so much, maybe she is waiting on your step! Talking for long hours, compliments etc... it can't be only ordinary acquaintance :) or she is just too kind person. Be confident and try to be closer to her and you will see her reaction :) Good luck

You "love" her? That's kinda cringing. People use the word "love" too freely. Anyway don't run around panting. Don't be her pet. Play it COOOOOOOOOOOOL. Women love COOOOOOOOL! If you like her then just ask her if she wants to go out for a drink or something. Something small to start off with. An opportunity for you to get to know her better and vice versa. Whatever you do DON'T act desperate or overly keen!

*shivers*

Yeah, or just inform her that you're going someplace and add to that that "she should come along with you". That way you're acting not too keen and you were heading that way anyway and you want her to tag along. In other words, you're communicating to her that you couldn't care less if she's coming with you or not - you're going anyway. Another good point of this is that it shows that your whole world is not revolving around her.

M-G (wow - wonders why he got slapped with a suspension)

luhif ..
If she had no attraction towards you, she wouldn't last more than 5 minutes talking on the phone with you. At least I WOULDN'T, not even 2 min hahaha !! And perhaps, you don't have to do anything at all, be yourself and keep doing whatever you've been doing with her because she seems to like it :P Invite her to nice places and get closer to her, cuddle, kiss her, whatever!... if she lets you! ! & afterwards tell her you like her very much. It's not hard ! Shake the shyness off of you darling you have the power in your pants.

Cheers !! :)

I have that power too!

i thought that was he-mans line, lol, who hasn't got the pants power, well unless your a lady of course :) lol

I messed it up guys.. :-( ...I m soooo sad now...

I followed what Shewolf said and asked her in chatting and she said 'pure friendship...'

then I asked her few questions like 'Talking for hours on the phone'?? She said If we both have common topics then why not??

I asked about flowers(red roses) - she said she wud love to receive flowers from anyone..

I asked her about compliments..she said 'have I ever told u that u r handsome?

ofcource u r but i knew that i cant say it to u'

She kept on asking me like 'What will be now??' coz she doesnt want to loose a friend like me..

HELP PLEASE :'(

you didn't mess up...you just told her about your feelings, she told you about hers and now you know...that's good, she was honest with you.... stay friends and you will see how it goes...

good luck...i know it's not easy...

hi luhif
speaking from experience on this subject, as i was in a similiar situation earlier with my now "polish girlfriend" but to be honest women are women, polish, irish, germany whatever (no disrespect girls :) ) but they all respond to confidence {not arrogance.... be nice but confident}

everyone agrees she likes you and i think you know this

so be straight with her.

tell her how you feel...... if she says yes great

if she says no at least you know the truth........ and who needs more friends lol

but seriously good luck

hi mate,

I'm not the one who advised you last time but i'll give it a crack this time, it seems to me that she is more than happy to be friends, infact she has even stated as such. If i were you i wouldn't press the issue anymore, just let the friendship flow. Often one of the two sides of a potential partnership/relationship gets to the point where they want to develop it further later on than the first. Your in the position of the first person.

It might be best to wait and see what happens, you don't want to scare her off or lean on her to hard as that may have counerproductive effects on your friendship, therefore ending any chance of a relationship later on.


to me they are the key words, from the horses mouth, not hearsay or something somebody else has said to you but from her mouth, i would listen if i were you.


yeah friends do it, i mean jesus i talk to some female friends for hours and hours on skype, infact last night i didn't go to bed until 4am because of it.


well thats a decent answer, at least that allows you to buy her flowers some time to show your affections and feelings. Then the ball is in her court.


i don't really understand why she thought she couldn't say it to you, unless she meant it because she didn't want to act as if she was leading you into someting and giving you false hope. You'll have to clear that one up for me.


well what's next is your decision, do you want to be her friend even if you can't be anything more?? Will it work, what i mean is are you able to just be her friend without making advances or getting frustrated about your feelings and not been able to air them??


the best person who can help you is yourself, by making good, sound, quality decisons based on what you have been told by her and what you know yourself. The only person who knows your true feelings is you, so you are the one who has to play ball, it just depends what you want from this.

Thanks

T

hey sorry man i just saw that now. but you know it now try to stay friend if you can but move on too dont get hung up

wow luhif Now she sounds like a tragically different person! Like a very rude one: "have I ever told u that u r handsome?" lol The only guys I tell such things are the ones I want to get off of me! :/

Why did you do such thing online lol I personally think, when you're online you do not sense such level of chemistry between both persona. I feel it is not enough, therefore I suggest everyone to do these things in person :/ That way you can see her in the eyes and observe the way she is acting like if she is just normal, a little sad for breaking your heart... w.e but I guess it's a little too late.

Cheer up luhif !! Stay friends with her. Who knows :P

But I REALLY REALLY REALLY.....LOVE her...

Thats the problem u know....

Whenever I try to forget her...it comes with its maximum force..

I know it sounds strange but its first time I m feeling like this....

I told her that u r not replacable...

And to be honest..she is the first girl i have ever fell in love with...

I know some of u wont belive me...but thats true.

I told her as well that she is the first girl ever and she said she knows...

She still asks me to visit Poland...I will go probably...

I have accepted the truth... but heart...the problem is there..

She was sad herself while chatting...

I told her not to be sad coz of me and she was like 'tell it to my heart,i dont think that it ll listen'

She asked me when we were working together that 'please correct me whenever I make mistakes in english'

I even corrected her when we wer chatting about this matter and she was like 'U know I really like u and u know that' coz I corrected her even in that conversation.


She didnt tell me 'u r handsome' coz she didnt want me to think that she is feeling something for me...I came to know when she told me..


like i said..its difficult but I will do it..

I know i made it wrong by doing it online but can we change which has happened already??


she wasnt rude at all...she was trying to give me proofs that she didnt do anything that can make me feel that she feels for me the same way..

I ll stay friends anyway..but its very difficult...
thanks for the advices guys..

special thanks to tornedo...