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KISSING ON THE LIPS (problem with my Polish in-laws)


sueswalkies 2 | 32  
28 Jan 2009 /  #1
Please can anyone shed any light on this problem i have with my polish in-laws. I am english and met in ireland a nice polish man from a little village in poland. I moved to ireland and we set up a nice life. Everhthing was great and on the spur of the moment we went on holidays and got married. Then we introduced each other to our families. My family are so happy for us. However on me meetin his family i noticed that his mother and sisters greeted him with a kisses on his lips and were very nice to me in front of his face but when he went out of the room, and i was alone with them they said very nasty things to me, "you have robbed my son" You changed my brother " they were very serious and aggressive to me. We had planed to saty 5 nights in his familys home, after the first day i ask my husband please don't kiss people on the lips could you just kiss them on the cheeks instead, he agreed and announced to his parents and sisters that since he has lived for 3 years outside poland and married to an english woman he didn't want any more kissing on the lips, just on the cheeks. I thought that they would understand, that i was from a different culture and kissing on the lips is a sexual thing. Well what a can of worms i unleashed. instead of the kissing stopping it got worse. whenever we were leaving the house his mother not only kissed him on the lips, she jumped up on him and warpped her legs around his waist, threw her arms around his kneck and planted a kiss on his lips and laughed at me and said this is my son and he will only ever have one mother. My husband was very embarassed and tried to stop her from doing this. It got worse i had to watch his sister every time we left the house, kissing him on the lips and staring at me and saying my " brother is polish and you have to learn our culture" "IT IS POLISH CULTURE TO KISS YOU FAMILY ON THE LIPS EVERY ONE DOES IT." It got worse his father every time i was alone in the kitchen, when my husband was asked to go out to chop wood or to attened to the farm the father who is much stronger and bigger than me grabbed me held my head and kissed me on the lips. even though i kept no and trying to fight him off. We didn't stay the 5 days with the family we went to the nearest village and stayed in a hotel. Please tell me is it polish culture to for mothers sisters brothers and father in laws to act like this in poland. Has my husband just got a strange family or do all familys act like that.
benszymanski 8 | 465  
28 Jan 2009 /  #2
I have lived in Poland for about 3 years and I can't say I have noticed the family kiss on the lips. But culture aside they sound like horrible people. It wouldn't have been much for them to accomodate your request but instead of trying to make you feel welcome they deliberately antagonise your over it. I am sorry to hear about your experience.
Wroclaw 44 | 5,387  
28 Jan 2009 /  #3
Has my husband just got a strange family or do all familys act like that.

As it isn't April 1st I will assume that this is a serious post.

The reply is: You have married into a family of nutters. There is nowt so queer as folk, eh!
nikttaki 5 | 62  
28 Jan 2009 /  #4
OMG!!!
very strange indeed, i have not heard of anything like that!

What can you do, eh !?
time means 5 | 1,310  
28 Jan 2009 /  #5
quite common out in the boonies were wahldo lives, but thats hill-billyville U-S of A.
Kilkline 1 | 689  
28 Jan 2009 /  #6
Am I the only one aroused by this story?
esek 2 | 228  
28 Jan 2009 /  #7
"IT IS POLISH CULTURE TO KISS YOU FAMILY ON THE LIPS

NOOOOOOOOOO !!!
Kilkline 1 | 689  
28 Jan 2009 /  #8
sueswalkies: "IT IS POLISH CULTURE TO KISS YOU FAMILY ON THE LIPS

NOOOOOOOOOO !!!

Whats Polish for: 'The family that lays together, stays together!'
osiol 55 | 3,922  
28 Jan 2009 /  #9
To those who say that it is not normal for family members to kiss on the lips, I have two responses:

1. In most parts of the family, I really would not expect it.
2. I would hope husband and wife to kiss on the lips. I know things can often change when couples get married, but one would hope that this isn't something that would come to an end.

By the way, how many fingers do they have between them?
Kilkline 1 | 689  
28 Jan 2009 /  #10
By the way, how many fingers do they have between them?

And dont forget to include the siblings in the basement in your final total.
osiol 55 | 3,922  
28 Jan 2009 /  #11
The number might actually balance out if you put them all together and divide by 10.
Misty 5 | 144  
28 Jan 2009 /  #13
lease tell me is it polish culture to for mothers sisters brothers and father in laws to act like this in poland.

I think you already know the answer to that. Possessive over their son yes, I can see that happening, snogging other members of their family in such a way...no.

Talk to your husband, he didn't put up much of a fight when you asked him to stop kissing them on the lips, maybe he doesn't think it's normal either.
Switezianka - | 463  
28 Jan 2009 /  #14
That sounds horrible :-/

I agree with the posts above: these people are nutters.

And believe me (a Pole living and brought up in Poland), it's not normal in Poland to kiss your in-laws on the lips. It's gross! Kissing on the lips is mainly a sexual thing. Sometimes you can only see mothers kissing their young children (age 3 or 5) on the lips as a sign of affection, but I guess it's quite normal in most cultures.
dcchris 8 | 432  
28 Jan 2009 /  #15
sounds like they are keeping it in the family. haha! lesson to be learned here is never ever marry someone before you meet the family!!
childwithin 8 | 136  
28 Jan 2009 /  #16
his mother not only kissed him on the lips, she jumped up on him and warpped her legs around his waist, threw her arms around his kneck and planted a kiss on his lips

Am I the only one aroused by this story?

OP sueswalkies 2 | 32  
28 Jan 2009 /  #17
Thanks for your opinon i will send it on to my crazy inlaws who insists it is polish culture to do so.

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