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What kind of girls do Polish men like, and why?

Admin 32 | 1,530   Administrator
16 Dec 2005 /  #1
When I first came to the United States of America, a country described by my friends as "heaven on earth", I worked for some time in a print shop. Since the machine I was working on was unbelievably old, and constantly broke down, I often had time to talk to some of my coworkers. During one such conversation a friend of mine, who came from Ecuador, asked me a rather simple and banal question: "What kind of girls or women do Poles like"? Without any thought I answered that all men on earth like women who are young, beautiful, and smart.

When I came back that night to my apartment and told this story to my flat mates, it turned out that it's not that easy to find an answer to this question. Each of us had different preferences when it came to women; some of us liked brunettes, and others saw their hearts explode when they noticed a woman or a girl with light shiny hair and pale eyes. I became so interested in this question that when I came back to Poland I tried to find out what kind of girls are the most suitable for us Poles, and what is the reason behind our choice.

It's important to distinguish between two things here: Sometimes Poles have a very narrow preference towards someone with whom they would like to spend the rest of their life, and sometimes what is meant by that are the characteristics a girl must possess so that she could attract, like a magnet, a Poles' eyes, no matter whether they're still the so-called "lone wolfs", or already carry on their fingers a symbol of belonging to the caste of happy or unhappy husbands.

What turns out is that some Poles have a very specific request with respect to the women of their lives, and others don't quite know what sort of things a woman should possess so that she, as they say, could "catch their eye". There are also those who don't quite think about this because they believe it simply doesn't make sense to do so. According to them, when they find the right girl, they will instinctually know that she is the one, and whatever characteristics she has will not matter much.

A great majority of Poles don't consider this earnestly at all. A certain friend of mine, asked by me what kind of girl would really be appealing to him, said in all seriousness: "My future girl must be beautiful, loyal, she must be able to cook well and has to be intelligent." His answer made me laugh, but after some time controlling myself I asked him whether his requirements aren't a bit high. He thought for a second, and after a moment of silence answered: "You know, you're right, I'm expecting too much: the girl doesn't have to be too smart."

Another of my acquaintances was futilely looking for a girl with a "grain beater". He had a large farm, but had no grain beater, hence he was looking for a girl who would bring with her marriage this kind of farming equipment. Notwithstanding whether he found one or not, his preferences for a future life partner must be considered quite specific.

Once we move aside these humorous but still very real preferences towards women, and we begin to study which kind of women we like and which we don't, the results of these findings can be quite surprising. As I found out from my friend's answers, which are supported by scientific publication, to the minds of Poles the "long legged beauties" are not the main target. It comes out that a much better success rate is had by girls of medium and short build. The reason for this is very simple and banal, and women would probably call it carnal: Smaller women have... much shaplier and pronounced hips and breasts. This is certainly not a joke, and no matter what women would think about it, these characteristics have a great impact on what physical things in women stimulate and interest men. When it comes to things like eye or hair color, the preferences are so varied that it's impossible to generalize. Perhaps a small advantage belongs to brunettes, which really means nothing since, as they say, "the woman is a master of disguises" - and that could be taken both literally and as a metaphor. Most women in Poland change their hair color more often than men are able to notice it.

While discussing the theme of men's preferences towards women we can't of course forget the inner characteristics, although the vast majority of men considers these as irrelevant since they believe that "it doesn't matter whether the cake has chocolate pudding or peach pudding; it tastes similarly, and is eaten the same way."

Leaving these slightly chauvinistic arguments on the side, it is necessary to point out the fact that men are increasingly more bothered by the increasing maleness of women. Polish women are increasingly more resembling men in terms of the way of thinking, their values, lifestyle, etc, which definitely impacts on their attractiveness. I won't go in to this never-ending argument whether it's right or not, and to what degree is it necessitated by the battle for equal rights vs. whether it is some feminine aspiration complex.

The fact is, to Poles the women who are the most attractive are the ones who don't forget that they are women in the broad meaning of the word - starting with the most visible (i.e., not using words such as "bitch, shit" like commas in a sentence) to the more concealed thing like being delicate, being able to show love and sacrifice, creativity, patience.

Ending these contemplations on this deceptively banal and simple topic it's important to note that the number of women ideals mirrors the number of Poles themselves. Some will not be able to turn their eyes from a pretty girl in a tight shirt and a mini skirt (which hint at the idea of the world's oldest profession), while others will do the same for a moderately clothed girl who can simply highlight her natural beauty. Each of us has different expectations both towards women in whose eyes we already see our future children, and towards those whom we meet on the street so that we could later exchange some more or less crude remarks about them.

Contributed by Mateusz
4 Apr 2006 /  #2
I think Polish girls like men who are not stingy; the look or age is not that important for them. I personally like petite women (wearing mini skirts of course :).
15 Jul 2006 /  #3
wearing mini skirts

The problem is - less and less women wear skirts (not to mention "mini skirts" ) :(.
16 Jul 2006 /  #4
This is a "REAL"
28 Sep 2006 /  #5
OMG! Ahahahahahahaha! Is this why Walter doesn't want to see me anymore?!
Kowalski 7 | 621  
28 Sep 2006 /  #6
My girl would have to wear a skirt from time to time.
28 Sep 2006 /  #7
Hm... I'm something like goth... black & red... I never wear mini skirts... I don't like them. All the times long, black clothes. But I am not aggresive or something :)

I don't like "pink style"... :|
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
28 Sep 2006 /  #8
I used to be in the industrial scene. Loved black and most plain drab clothing. Goth is too scary nowadays. Everyone is trying to look dead. Honestly, being dead can't be much fun.

Since travelling to PL, I've become quite fond of the mini :)
28 Sep 2006 /  #9
Goth is too scary nowadays. Everyone is trying to look dead

Hm... I can show you my photo... I think I'm not "alive-death" :) :)

dead can't be much fun.

But black is beautiful and sexy :)
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
28 Sep 2006 /  #10
But black is beautiful and sexy

For funerals :)

I'm only joking with you. After doing what I did growing up, I can never say anything about the way others dress. I'm sure you have great taste in what you wear.
polaca 1 | 76  
28 Sep 2006 /  #11
I dont like "pink style" too, i realy hate this colour but i dont wear only black clothes, are too sad...
And i like to wear skirts, but not too short:)
iwona 12 | 542  
29 Sep 2006 /  #12
I think that polish men don't like too powerful and succesful girls. Prefer more dismissive ones.
Marzena 2 | 122  
29 Sep 2006 /  #14
Yes, men cannot reconcile with the fact that women are human beings with brains not just asses and more and more in order to please a woman, the man has to make some effort, whereas before, women used to be treated like a man's property. I hope that women all over the world will become even stronger, will know their rights and won't let any guy tell them how to dress, behave or what they should do in their lives. It's time that men learn how to cook, clean and take care of the kids. That's a sexy guy right there.
29 Sep 2006 /  #15
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
29 Sep 2006 /  #16
It's time that men learn how to cook, clean and take care of the kids. That's a sexy guy right there.

I don't know many men that don't do this. It's very common for men to chip in these days.
Marzena 2 | 122  
29 Sep 2006 /  #17
chipping in is not the answer Fisz, it's an equal responsibility.
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
29 Sep 2006 /  #19
It's not equal if one has to be at work all day. So, basically you're just chipping in. Especially when breastfeeding :) But, I do believe that overall it's a dual responsibility.

Kowalski..... got that right :)

80+% of the women in my area.
Kowalski 7 | 621  
29 Sep 2006 /  #20
Yea, it's an international mariage symbol btw.:)
krysia 23 | 3,057  
29 Sep 2006 /  #21
Too bad it doesn't always work
iwona 12 | 542  
30 Sep 2006 /  #22
I suppose it is genetic - caveman was looking for food and woman stayed at home ( cave:)waiting gratefuly when her beloved man return with trophy.

It has changed now.But men still have this feeling of leadership , winning .....

I remember during my studying at Polytechnic there was couple in my group. I remember one exam which she did really well and he just passed.Later, they were standing outside she happy and he all grumpy and moody.

What relation was it as he couldn't stand that he proved to be better than him. it is little thing just eaxm but I thought this man was a w f u l . Big snob and arrogant.
krysia 23 | 3,057  
19 Oct 2006 /  #23
In America a woman wears a wedding ring and her wedding band on her left hand, 4th finger. Together. How do they wear their rings in Poland?

Also, in America men wear their wedding band on their left hand, 4th finger. What are your opinnions on this, because I've seen in Polish movies that men wear their wedding bands on their right hands.

Is that right?
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
19 Oct 2006 /  #24
They wear them on the right hand in PL.
krysia 23 | 3,057  
19 Oct 2006 /  #25
Do women wear both their wedding ring and band on the right hand together? Because I saw in a movie that a woman had her wedding ring on left hand, and band on the other. Not together like in th US.

Just wondering.
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
19 Oct 2006 /  #26
now that I don't know
Huegel 1 | 296  
19 Oct 2006 /  #27
Good question. When i first arrived in Austria, i thought there were lots of unmarried Austrian beauties walking around, then i found out that it's the right hand not left to show you're married here and my bubble was well and truly popped! :)

Apparently here, you wear the engagement ring on the left hand, 3rd finger, excluding thumb (men too) then when you get married you swap and wear it on the right but the engagement ring disappears. (afaik)

I'm pretty sure that in PL it's the right hand when married too but i'll ask my lass about the engagement ring tomorrow and let you know Krysia.
krysia 23 | 3,057  
19 Oct 2006 /  #28
Hmmmm interesting.
In America a lot of people fuse together the engagement and wedding ring so they become one huge ring and continue wearing it on the same finger, left hand.
plg 17 | 263  
19 Oct 2006 /  #29
I think Polish girls like men who are not stingy; the look or age is not that important for them. I personally like petite women (wearing mini skirts of course

called GOOD DIGGERS in uk
Bartolome 2 | 1,085  
20 Oct 2006 /  #30
I thought they are called gold diggers, aren't they ?
But they gonna be there as long as there is demand for them.

Nevertheless, I won't find any girl, since I'm as poor as a church mouse :)

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