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He keeps adding females friends to his profile ....


lalka 1 | 4  
10 Sep 2009 /  #1
well,we are together for some time now,getting closer ,more intimate ...there is something what is bothering me

he keeps adding females friends to his profile on well known social network ....most funny part is -he is looking for them among friends of my friends ....last female was only with bra on her profile picture ....

I confronted him -he doesnt see anything wrong with that as it is a social network,however he deleted her ....he doesnt get it it is painful

well-any thoughts?? I am fed up...
OsiedleRuda  
10 Sep 2009 /  #2
it's no different than you looking for black men on an internet forum
frd 7 | 1,401  
10 Sep 2009 /  #3
I think it would **** me off, if my gf did something like that but I'm a jealus bastard.
mvefa 5 | 591  
10 Sep 2009 /  #4
That's indeed weird...good that you confronted him..
dnz 17 | 710  
10 Sep 2009 /  #5
Whats wrong with that? I have many female friends on my facebook profile but they are just that, friends.

From your other posts i wouldn't worry about him cheating, he's hardly a great catch by the sounds of it,
OP lalka 1 | 4  
10 Sep 2009 /  #6
Osielde Ruda lol did you do a little research about me?
Get over it-it was long time ago....

dnz-you saying is fine...but the female was almost naked on her picture ....what does he wanna share thoughts with her about literature ?I dont think so.....

why would you do that if you are involved with someone else?
dnz 17 | 710  
10 Sep 2009 /  #7
dnz-you saying is fine...but the female was almost naked on her picture ....what does he wanna share thoughts with her about literature ?I dont think so.....

Perhaps he does? Maybe she likes being half naked in photos doesn't necessarily mean she wants any sort of sexual relations with your bf,
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
10 Sep 2009 /  #8
True, maybe nakedness makes her feel more creative...
JustysiaS 13 | 2,240  
10 Sep 2009 /  #9
he keeps adding females friends to his profile on well known social network ....most funny part is -he is looking for them among friends of my friends ....last female was only with bra on her profile picture ....

lalka find yourself a real man, not some niedorobiony frajer ok and stop posting about your failed relationships, it's really sad....

maybe nakedness makes her feel more creative...

she wants to write a second part of kamasutra? ;D
thenorthernone - | 2  
10 Sep 2009 /  #10
Hi Lalka
Having been cheated on myself hence my divorce you need to think with your head not just your heart. It my be very innocent networking of course. If it is, when you confront him with it face to face, you will tell. The fact it is public could be that it is just that.

thenorthernone aka marj proops
If you are not english you may not appreciate she was a v famous agony aunt (except I'm male!!!
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
10 Sep 2009 /  #11
Its at this point I wish I could upload a pic of a box is tissues!

she wants to write a second part of kamasutra? ;D

Of course why else would she pose in her underwear? She is obviously the creative type!!!! She OP is just stupid to think otherwise!
Pawelek1 - | 24  
10 Sep 2009 /  #12
If he didn't know these females before he had met you I think its a problem.
Arien 3 | 721  
10 Sep 2009 /  #13
Hey Lalka,

Be fair? Your boyfriend is not responsible for what another girl decides to wear (Or in this case, doesn't wear!) when she takes a picture of herself..

The fact that he has female friends on a social network page shouldn't bother you at all, it's normal. Be honest, you probably have male friends on your social network page yourself? You'll have to excuse me, but for some reason, I don't think your boyfriend would have much of a problem with it when one of those boys decides to take off his shirt when he decides to take a new picture of himself? Just ask yourself; How would you feel when he accused you of being sexually interested in some guy when you aren't responsible for the actions of someone else on your social network page?

Alright. The fact he deleted her could mean two things. 1: He cares alot about your feelings. (And puts you before the female friend.) 2: He feels guilty. (Now this should be alarming, because if he did it out of guilt then that would mean he was playing with the thought.)

To be honest, I don't think it's something you should worry about at this point in your relationship. Just don't shoot me if I'm wrong!

;)
Arien 3 | 721  
10 Sep 2009 /  #15
Oh yeah, extemely.

;)
jump_bunny 5 | 237  
11 Sep 2009 /  #16
The fact that he has female friends on a social network page shouldn't bother you at all, it's normal.

No, it is not normal to be browsing and adding people you don't know (most likely because they are visualy attractive as I take it as a reason why he does it...) Lalka, dump his ass!
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
11 Sep 2009 /  #17
Arien, I agree with jump bunny here. Many women feel like adding female contacts is, in itself, almost tantamount to betrayal. Although his intentions may be innocent, it does look bad.
Arien 3 | 721  
11 Sep 2009 /  #18
No, it is not normal to be browsing and adding people you don't know (most likely because they are visualy attractive as I take it as a reason why he does it...) Lalka, dump his ass!

..says the girl who has hundreds of people on her facebook? I'm sorry, but to me it seems pretty normal to invite or add someone else who is connected to someone I actually know in real life. I think getting to know new people is basically the whole idea or concept behind social networking?

;)

Arien, I agree with jump bunny here. Many women feel like adding female contacts is, in itself, almost tantamount to betrayal. Although his intentions may be innocent, it does look bad.

Okay, so how do girls feel about adding boys to their own pages then? (While they're having a relationship I mean!) I'm sorry, I guess I really don't understand the fairness in that? (When you don't accept this behaviour from your boyfriend I mean!)

:S
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
11 Sep 2009 /  #19
If he actually knows them then that's different. Also, it should be changed to AcquaintanceBook. Many of the people who I have are not really true friends at all.
Arien 3 | 721  
11 Sep 2009 /  #20
Nevermind!
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
11 Sep 2009 /  #21
Are boys generally as jealous as girls?
Arien 3 | 721  
11 Sep 2009 /  #22
What if we were, and what if we were dumping our girlfriends over adding male friends on their pages? What if we were trying to convince a guy on the internet that he should dump his girlfriend over something as trivial as this? I wonder how they would feel about that?

:S
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
11 Sep 2009 /  #23
Sounds like a bit of insecurity on your side, dosen't sound like a trusting relationship to me, if that is that case then you may aswell end it now to be honest. One of the major parts of a relationship is trust, if you cannot trust your partner when it comes to facebook then imagine some of the serious issues in life!!!!

No offense but i think its best you end it and find somebody you can trust :) Leave him to do whatever he likes and go and find somebody better for yourself.
JustysiaS 13 | 2,240  
11 Sep 2009 /  #24
I don't think this is bad enough to get dumped over it but it is suspicious! Don't think it's as bad as having your old flames on facebook and checking them out and messaging them though! If there's no trust at the beginning of a relationship then it's not really gonna get better along the way is it. If you can't trust him now then it's doomed. And if he insists on collecting pretty half naked 'friends' then so be it, that's the only 'action' he'll be getting, stalking their photo galleries. Add a few hunky oiled up guys and see if he even CARES. I bet he won't.
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
11 Sep 2009 /  #25
I don't think this is bad enough to get dumped over it but it is suspicious! Don't think it's as bad as having your old flames on facebook and checking them out and messaging them though!

i agree with that, you should be able to talk with/keep in conctact with who you like, within reason.

If there's no trust at the beginning of a relationship then it's not really gonna get better along the way is it.

if there is little or not trust at the start, then why bother?? it is only going to end in tears if thats the case.

If you can't trust him now then it's doomed

thats about the top and bottom of it, maybe a bit shorter than those black dicks but a bit more poignant if you ask me :)
beckski 12 | 1,617  
11 Sep 2009 /  #26
Are boys generally as jealous as girls?

Some are more jealous than females and also very possessive too.
scrappleton - | 829  
11 Sep 2009 /  #27
True and a lot more violent about it. I think it goes away when you get older though (as a guy).
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
11 Sep 2009 /  #28
that is a minority of men, not a majority, lets not start making generalisations about a whole sex now!!!
scrappleton - | 829  
11 Sep 2009 /  #29
lets not start making generalisations about a whole sex now!!!

Oh boy, here comes Ye Olde Lime Sauce. A thousands pardons, gov.
frd 7 | 1,401  
11 Sep 2009 /  #30
when you get older though

it goes away when you have more experience, that maybe if you get older but also if you meet more and more partners..

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