Help-my polish bf doesn't fancy me!

I might be crazy but.........

I don't want a Bj or a new car for my birthday. All I want is to be with my gf on my birthday.

at first it does babe, not after an x amount of weeks or months though. you BOTH should make an effort, that's what keeps the spark there.


there are 2 possible reasons as to why that is. one - you're both in a stable relationship and his needs are considerably smaller than at first. two - someone else is doing it for him...

(is it said already?) go speak with him and tell him the things you write here. if you don't speak out, he won't know what's going on inside you.

JustysiaS

Yeah,I almost start to belive in the second one......but how do I know??
maybe he just doesn't love me anymore.

yeah but that just means you have to take more off!!!! I'm all for bra and panties but don't you think stockings are a bit of a waste of time??


you guys are crazy :)


yeah good bj lips on that one!!!


She is right you know, variety is the spice of life, you need to up the the game in the sex department, either by asking him what he wants or surprising him. Sex is all well and good in the honeymoon period but after that has warn off you need to explore deeper into each others desires, fantasies etc etc or just simply change it up

torny torny, you keep the stockings on, that's the whole point! ;D oh and high heels too rotfl

Hes thinking of tights, poor sod.

I think it's harder than people make out. Too many men here are into the battle of life and don't look so happy. Unhappy men means lowered sex drive. It's unfortunate that so many need alcohol in order to draw out their otherwise repressed desires.

The BJ's were likely only short-term gratification and torny is right, there needs to be sth deeper and more fulfilling.

He sounds like he needs to get in touch with himself again. If the spark was there before, it can be rekindled. Just recreate some of the old vibe (not BJ's, LOL).

Like what?

ha ha oh yeah. poor chap...

- Doctor, when i make love to my girlfriend she always complains her toes really hurt
- Maybe try taking her tights off next time you do it


not always, it takes two to tango and if he doesn't wanna know then there's nothing she can do

Which is why I used the word 'can', Justy ;) There are so many complicating factors but where there's a will, there's a way. Hope is a good thing!

you're right - and the poster needs to make sure that she hasn't started dressing down and making no effort because she thinks she is safe ... no no no ... important always to keep some element of mystery, and for there to be some things you say no on, and for him to see you across the street and think 'cool - she's actually mine!' ... just like making sure you polish the mercedes and don't leave macdonalds cartons in it ... we are possessions, after all, and if we want to be cherished, we need to take care of ourselves ; )

(crap, i know, but i fear true)

he he you should have seen mine last week.

i don't like to think of myself as some blokes potential 'possession' to be honest! of course you need to make an effort when it comes to hygiene and appearance. still, they should cherish you no matter what, we all have bad hair and bad skin days, no? i say keep them on their toes and don't let yourself go just because they're yours now, but don't obsess too much about it. funny thing is men kinda expect you to look good but they get all p*ssed off when you're taking your time doing it ha ha. you just can't win! i take care of myself regardless of the fact whether i have a boyfriend or not, but it's still so nice when they notice that you made an effort or that you're wearing something new, changed your hair etc.

Its kinda like when u get married, once she has u tied down, and pops out a couple of cubs, the obese days soon catch up with her.

That would be so disrespectful to yourself and to your spouse. Who would want to let themselves go? It is true, I've seen people let themselves go. It works both ways. Stay looking good for both of you. It's disgusting when people get so obese..How do they even find it to do anything.


I love it when they compliment you and pay attention. Keeps it fresh and exciting. Men also, should be told they look good. It makes them feel great too.

Some women arent genetically gifted in that area and cant help but pile on the pounds. Obesity is a two way deal ie him and her and more common among lower class i would say.

ok stockings maybe can pass, i'm a leg man myself so maybe the suspense is a little exciting but boots?? what?? the only reason a girl takes her shoes off is when she wants a massage!!! right?? (when she takes them off for a man that is)


whatever your fantasies and desires are, i'm not a mind reader, everybody has their 'kink' or 'fetish' blokes and women, so explore that

It reminds me of the old Bottom joke, 'Are you a leg or a breast man?' (chicken). Rick Mayall was an educated guy but played the idiot very well.

I'm glad the level of discussion is above the playground HBI suggestion ;)

sex is a serious subject my man, surely you of all upstanding citizens should know that, lol :):):)


i have to admit though, i couldn't care less about what the breast size is, its all leg for me!!!! as for what comes out of the boots, ppppfffff its ok but the feet do have links to all other parts of the body, so a massage there goes down well.

Smaller boobs can actually be attractive but a fine pair to caress also works nicely.

I often give massages, it really sets the mood so to speak :)

There, massage your guy Kasia and see how that works. It works most times for most people.

i think too big and it gets stupid, there is nothing atractive about a massive set of bazooka's!!!!


i agree 100%


yeah go for it Kasia, Katarzyna, Kate or Katie, pppffff are you Polish or English?? lol

i must say this, you are an odd one. when somebody visits you and they take their shoes off do you instantly give them a foot massage?

I think a good idea is to give him a BJ every morning to wake up.

I believe she wrote high heels not boots.

Either way , they can rip a nasty hole in your sheets when it gets a bit frantic...!

but wouldn't it all be worth it ;D

Yes , definatly....

uuuuuuurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr no, why on earth would i want to do that!!!!


well whatever its less to take off, so lets leave them out of the equation all together, i couldn't care if she said cuddly slippers :)


exactly and we wouldn't like to spoil those lovely sheets now would we :)


if i wanted to pay for having sex i would see a prostitute, replacing all that wrecked bedding isn't going to be easy you know, lol.

Youre missing the point again, you said boots as you didnt even finish properly reading what she wrote you made an assumption as you couldnt wait to start typing yourself.

I know you wouldnt have cared if she wrote cuddly slippers see above. I remember the lady in question calling you out on a question you asked her twice. Which in turn tells a story about you you and yep youve guessed it YOU. All talk and no listen..

I wonder why youre so pi$$ed off about all the lastest PF changes? answer: they dont suit your agenda.