Help-my polish bf doesn't fancy me!

pre-hole and post-hole. this must be a good description for some males.
but, this can also be understand as they unable to find the right hole that'll make them happy. no, they will never be able to do this. when suchs get older and older they start to realize that the holes are in their brains.

And with a single sentence you have just taken the crown from Southern.

I wish I could take full credit, but sadly it was a copy and paste job, so he can keep his crown.

tut, tut. link next time please :)

I would say it's time for some drastic measures here. If you try and spice anything up he will just accept it as he is accepting everything else you do now. You need to know whether he is really interested or even ready to carry on.

I would say it's time to play with a little fire and see what happens. By that I mean, to do something out of the ordinary and arouse some curiosity in him. I can't really tell you how to do this but I'm sure there would be a couple of femails on the forum who could give you advice on what to do.......Be careful though, you're playing with fire and it's a dangerous game sometimes and many have been burnt. If you get a positive reaction, usually in the form of jealousy you know he at least cares. Good luck anyhow.

Squash his penis between two encyclopedias while he's sleeping or stab him with a heel of your shoe thru the ear.

Dance naked in front of the telivision....if that fails....set his ya ya on fire...

Practical measures:Let him finish on your face,swallow and do the most kinky stuff.Also learn proper BJ.Men are suckers for this and they grade you according to how well or if you perform the above activities which make you exceptional in their eyes(a secret polish women weapon,do special things in sex out of ordinary).

In this way you create to him a desire to see you again to repeat the activity.The rest is how you present yourself that is what is the general picture of you.Are you shy,common,super sexy with decoltes,teasing,hysterical,sticky,cold,warm,testing,nagging,giving relief there are so many variations,in general a man is a mashine which needs just one joystick to perform simple functions.

Also very important in my opinion is that men do not change actually post-hole.Maybe we lose respect for the hole.But what really changes as far as I have experienced is women behaviour who become more demanding and then they say:You changed.No,I didn't change.I am the same.You want more.

Also the steps for the men are find her,attract her,seduce her,bang her.This is the last step,there are no steps in a man's mind after that while I have seen that women's minds build a whle net of scenarios and steps after the decisive last.

I agree with the point that its not always that men have changed, but that women expect more - the first times they say 'i love you' it is extra special, after a couple of years guys need to keep thinking about how to do more to have that effect (believe its called law of diminishing returns!).. The same will be true the other way round. You want to do new things to spice up your relationship, but sometimes it feels like you've reached a dead end and run out of ideas!!

Its very possible he's stuck in a rut and happy there.. you need to make him realise he needs to make an effort otherwise he could lose you..

You need to be careful with pushing things too hard though.. it could be that due to whatever stresses (work?) that he doesn't feel up to taking too much initiative. Also there's nothing worse than hearing that your girlf wants you to make more of an effort/show more initiative, and then you feel that you are constantly being judged..

Doesn't help at all I realise.. just giving my tuppence worth!!

Yes,it is like the joke:Why it is the bride who always smiles in wedding photos?-Because BJs are over.


It is a qualification.

this is a perfect situation for you to use your imagination. you're a woman, you should know what works on men, especially this one in particular. it's quite common that after a while the passion kinda cools down, you get used to each other, you know that other person will be there for you, it's good in a way but you need that spark. if you want more intimate stuff, take the lead and do something about it! new perfumes, lingerie etc. ask him if there's anything he always wanted to do, be spontaneous. if that fails then it's pretty bad :/. maybe try cooking for him, if all else fails lol. przez żołądek do serca :).

Hm,that's right.Black stockings work marvels.

Especially with high boots!

i am ashamed to say that in some things i appear to think along the same lines as southern, as my first concrete tip was also going to be to master the art of the perfect bj and bring him to the point of begging for it. and then, of course, give him it. often, but not so much that he becomes complacent. and suggest it in inappropriate places, etc., for entertainment and a frisson of sexual excitement. you both speak Polish, and often other people don't ... so while speaking English nicely with some people, also explain to him in Polish what you would like to do to him as soon as you have the opportunity. I quite often do that. It amuses me. And him.

Unfortunately the number of artists is so low that it is actually an embarassment.
However slavic girls have the perfect lips for it(no wonder then why men are so delighted in Ukraine)like this photo shows.

i wonder if your standards are very high, or whether you have sampled hundreds, if not thousands, of practitioners? the first step is indeed, though, to realise that the bj is an art form.

I tasted some and really the number of imperfections and wrong approaches is stunning.I found that mature women are superior in this nobility but some young ones also have exceptional abilities.In my opinion the Leistung is a combination of talent and practice.

You two should get a room or go to PM.

BTW Natasia, Southern is the boards resident 15yo virgin.

without doubt, but there must also be genuine enjoyment ... it should verge on an act of worship, as well as workmanship.


would it be very wrong of me ... ?

There are ways and means to make him like you. Poles can appear disinterested but you just need to push the right buttons or pull the right levers ;) ;) ;)

Yes,it is called worship the penis.


Pracovity as we use to say.

But women demand their workmanship as well.This 69 is a completely different sensation.

i don't demand, but i do reward. liberally. and yes, of course, an act of mutual worship is always particularly potent.
kasia: take heed ; )


of course - how stupid of me - had completely forgotten: polish men like successful women more than anything. so make stacks of cash, buy him an Aston Martin and make sure lots of other men are slavering over you.

men: what is more important to you? Bjs or cars wrapped in ribbons as birthday presents for you? (a hard one, i know)

yep, when robbing the bank perhaps:), which you might as well proceed with considering all the attention you are getting from all the Polish birds;)

A well trained woman would deliver the BJ in the new car. Get with the program.

:-)

One must be careful to clean up any liquids that may stain the interior, pronto.

It depends on the brand.

I like both so all is good, I do wish my girlfriend bought me the db9 with cream leather as opposed to black leather though, life is hard......

would hope for no leakage.


don't worry - wouldn't give you a ford fiesta for your birthday

Sometimes it comes as a surprise.

Don't be like 90% of women; that is, don't nag. Stop correcting him on everything that you''d do differently; try something that the modern western woman forgets to do; be nice, say pleasant things. This will bounce back to you more than you realize.

Now, if you're not a nag, and you don't whine about every little thing, then remember this.
Love settles in (bloom is off the bud) and becomes less passionate but a more mature understanding between two people which includes respect isn't all bad.

Thank you for all advices guys.
I don't know how our intimite relationship really is...I feel we have a deeper understanding for eachother and when it blooms up and we share things together, it all works out automatically.and there 's no need to make an effort to make things happen, it all comes by itself.and before, we used to "do it" everywhere.

But sometimes, its harder to get things work, when the special "spaark" isn't there...and during those times I don't know how to get his interest, sexier underwears ore what?

I just thought things would be easier.....I envy him and respect him as a person; he's smart, sexy, intellectual, it's hard not to like him.

before he used to beg for bj's but now........I really don't know...maybe I shouldn't complain since I've the best bf in the world.

beg? youre a bad woman.