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Polish Girl ruining my sleep


Francoise 1 | 5  
26 Oct 2008 /  #1
Hi. I have been reading your threads extensively and thought I'd ask the other members for advice on my own problem.

Heres how it goes. I fell in love with a Polish girl in Manchester and we use to meet quite often at my workplace. She liked me too but after one year of not knowing whether she wanted to take our relationship to the next level (i.e. girlfriend/boyfriend), I asked her the vital question. She said NO and that she was in a serious relationship back in Poland. I was disappointed but then quickly forgot about the episode.

Nonetheless she still came to see me at my workplace and carried on flirting with me. She also flirted on few occasions behind my back with my colleagues from work. But at any time we went out anywhere, she would insist on bringing her male cousin with her (note: this was the same as before even when I didn't ask her to be my girlfriend). Then I left my workplace and moved on to another job.

She phoned me to go out again and said she was leaving England to go back to Poland.

The girl has gone back to Poland and its been a year but I still miss her. She didn't give me her Polish mobile number and so I tried to contact her through e-mail but she said she was busy. She's never phoned me (taking into account she has my English mobile no.).

I believe she is married now. But I still haven't forgot what happened between us. What I do to revive the relationship, do I e-mail her back again or wait for her to contact me, which I doubt she will? Help from all, and polish girls as well!
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
26 Oct 2008 /  #2
Ignore her!! Don't flatter yourself that she 'flirted' with you. Play games if you wish, I don't.
OP Francoise 1 | 5  
26 Oct 2008 /  #3
Seanus, you hitting the right chords! I was flattered at first but fogot later. Now I DO want to play games, just the way she played with me!
gtd 3 | 639  
26 Oct 2008 /  #4
You believe she is married and want to revive the relationship?

Respect her marriage if she is married.

You are bordering on stalking if she refuses contact and you are pushing it. I think a lot about what you are saying is creepy mon ami. Leave it alone.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
26 Oct 2008 /  #5
Rise above that!! Live a fantasy, otherwise you will be disappointed. Many girls from all over the world go abroad for whatever reason and betray their partners (guys too of course). Let her go
gtd 3 | 639  
26 Oct 2008 /  #6
Seanus read what he wrote...she was never his girlfriend. They never dated. He just thought she 'liked' him but she refused his advances and his attempts at contact. Sounds like he is obsessed and she wasn't interested. This cannot end well.
wildrover 98 | 4,451  
26 Oct 2008 /  #7
I agree....give it up....there are plenty of girls that don,t play games...try one of them...
theblueenigma 3 | 188  
26 Oct 2008 /  #8
That situation can only finish bad . . . She was just playing a game, boosting her own wgo while stroking yours. You have absolutely no chance of anything with her, she doesnt want you, get on with your life . . . Sorry if that seems cruel but its logical. I tend to agree with my friend gdt here . . . it can not and wont end well
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
26 Oct 2008 /  #9
I meant let her go in his head gtd. Go from ur mind
OP Francoise 1 | 5  
26 Oct 2008 /  #10
she wasn't interested

He just thought she 'liked' him but she refused his advances

Apparently No! If she did not like me, then she would not contact me back repeatedely when she was in England!

I tend to agree with my friend gdt here . . . it can not and wont end well

Yes and No. I know plenty of couples who got back with their x's. Also, about the ending, I am not expecting her to be with me.....I just want to revive the ongoing friendship

Let her go

Yes I am trying. But even if I date someone else, I still want her to be my friend!
theblueenigma 3 | 188  
26 Oct 2008 /  #11
Yes and No. I know plenty of couples who got back with their x's. Also, about the ending, I am not expecting her to be with me.....I just want to revive the ongoing friendship

But she wasnt your ex ! Fiendship my arse :D Anyway her husband will kick ten colours of **** out of you, and I doubt she wants to be your friend either . . . she had your phone number but didnt want to contact you . . . . she didnt want to email you . . . . or even write to you. Man dont embarrass yourself, get on with your life or move to Poland and get yourself another beautiful girl
OP Francoise 1 | 5  
26 Oct 2008 /  #12
Fiendship my arse :D Anyway her husband will kick ten colours of **** out of you

Thank you! (for the rudeness) I didn't expect fools like you to reply to my Q....And speaking of you, apart from those who already replied, others who read your post might follow with rude language if there are rude like you! Idiot. So guys if you want to be rude, then pls don't reply. I am here for advice, not to fight......
theblueenigma 3 | 188  
26 Oct 2008 /  #13
Hm that wasnt being rude :| Im sorry if you took offence. Obviously you want more than friendship as you seem to like her more than what might be considered normal between friends. If you are hurt by the fact everybody here agrees with me, well thats tough get over it. Im certainly not a fool, but by your apparent lack of humour and personality I am not surprised she doesnt want anything more to do with you and is happily married. If you think a harmelss light hearted Irish expression like "my arse" is rude, Im afraid you are far too precious for this world, and not man enough for Polish women...perhaps you would be better off going bird watching or maybe picking daffodils and writing poetry beneath a chestnut tree. Nobody is arguing with you, we were giving you advise and trying to do it in a light hearted way without embarrassing you. You are the one that turned all psycho
bluebird - | 36  
26 Oct 2008 /  #14
Friendship!

Don't be such a girly-man.

You are better than that.

Google 'David Deangelo'

All will become clear.
miranda  
26 Oct 2008 /  #15
agree with the above posts. Move on. Being obsessed is not a good thing.
szarlotka 8 | 2,208  
26 Oct 2008 /  #16
or buy some ear muffs.....
dcchris 8 | 432  
26 Oct 2008 /  #17
forget about her theres lots of fish in the sea. its just some girl that flirted with ya
osiol 55 | 3,922  
26 Oct 2008 /  #18
Isn't Francoise a girls' name?

Don't be such a girly-man.

theblueenigma 3 | 188  
26 Oct 2008 /  #19
Judging by how rude Francis though I was saying the dreaded 'arse' word, Im guessing he wears ear muffs, sandals and a little yellow flower in his hair. He seems like the type that watches re runs of Bambi with his mom. Of course that Polish girl was friendly with you, she looked upon you as her sister you muppet !
gtd 3 | 639  
26 Oct 2008 /  #20
What is wrong with you? Why do you keep posting such nasty insulting stuff? I think he needs to let it go as I have said but you just seem to be pathological in your need to harass people?
theblueenigma 3 | 188  
26 Oct 2008 /  #21
Yes . . . but dont tell him that, he might cry and pull his hair out :| . . . Francoise doesnt like words like 'arse' Those words are bad words, for bad people, people that his mommy doesnt like him talking to :( Im a bad man Francoise, a big bad Irish man Grrrrrrrrrr........ARSE !!!

"What is wrong with you? Why do you keep posting such nasty insulting stuff? your need to harass people?"

Nothing :| I said 'arse' and Francoise got very offended. Are you a friend of Francoise ? Are you upset and sulking also because I said 'arse' ? Why are yuou stalking me by the way ? :|
beckski 12 | 1,617  
26 Oct 2008 /  #22
Help from all, and polish girls as well!

I believe she is married now

If you have the slighest idea she's now married, you probably should stay away from her. You wouldn't want to play with fire.
miranda  
26 Oct 2008 /  #23
I guess Francoise made a mistake by looking for an agony aunt on PF. LOL.
gtd 3 | 639  
26 Oct 2008 /  #24
Why are yuou stalking me by the way ? :|

Tired...old...tactic.

You Pm'd me with some childish attempt at an insult. But you know this. And so does everyone else since I posted it.

I think your behavior is pathetic.

You clearly crave the attention though. You fit the classic definition of an internet troll. That is not some attempted insult but just an observation.
theblueenigma 3 | 188  
26 Oct 2008 /  #25
I guess Francoise made a mistake by looking for an agony aunt on PF. LOL.

I like Francoise, we all do but I said 'arse' so Francoise said I was a very rude man and he doesnt like me anymore :|
OP Francoise 1 | 5  
26 Oct 2008 /  #26
What is wrong with you? Why do you keep posting such nasty insulting stuff? I think he needs to let it go as I have said but you just seem to be pathological in your need to harass people?

Agreed!

Yes . . . but dont tell him that, he might cry and pull his hair out :| . . . Francoise doesnt like words like 'arse' Those words are bad words, for bad people, people that his mommy doesnt like him talking to :( Im a bad man Francoise, a buig bad Irish man Grrrrrrrrrr........ARSE !!!

Are u o.k. mate? It seems u r the psycho here! But I don't blame you. I think your too young to be in this forum because ur language and the way u act tells it all!
sausage 19 | 777  
26 Oct 2008 /  #27
Seriously Francoise, if you can't get the Polish girl to go out with you after a year then it's probably not going to happen. She probably sees you as a brother or father figure now.
OP Francoise 1 | 5  
26 Oct 2008 /  #28
What is wrong with you? Why do you keep posting such nasty insulting stuff? I think he needs to let it go as I have said but you just seem to be pathological in your need to harass people?

Agreed!

Yes . . . but dont tell him that, he might cry and pull his hair out :| . . . Francoise doesnt like words like 'arse' Those words are bad words, for bad people, people that his mommy doesnt like him talking to :( Im a bad man Francoise, a buig bad Irish man Grrrrrrrrrr........ARSE !!!

Are u o.k. mate? It seems u r the psycho here! But I don't blame you. I think your too young to be in this forum because ur language and the way u act tells it all!
theblueenigma 3 | 188  
26 Oct 2008 /  #29
Tired...old...tactic.

You Pm'd me with some childish attempt at an insult. But you know this. And so does everyone else since I posted it.

Are you upset with me ? Do we know eachother ? I certainly seemed to have touched a nerve with you. relax man / woman it just a screen.....I didnt mean to upset you so much :(....I remember you, I privated you telling you that you were a silly little man . . . .thats not an insult. Are you my new stalker ? How cool is that :D Hey maybe you and Francoise could hook up ? He doesnt like bad words and you seem the sensitive sort also....do you like dolls houses gdt ?

Hi Francoise....Im sorry for saying 'arse' :( Please forgive me. I promise I wont say anymore rude words to you ok ! Hey maybe you and gdt could bond ? He doesnt like rude words either, he likes you Francoise :) Maybe he could help you forget about the Polish girl who prefers real men who dont cry over bad words like 'arse' :(
gtd 3 | 639  
26 Oct 2008 /  #30
Weak. You sure make a lot of noise.

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