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Friendship With a Polish Women


Zero Cool 1 | 3  
23 Dec 2009 /  #1
Hi,

I have met this really nice polish girl at work. I have been speaking with her for around 2-3 weeks and she seems like a really nice girl. I myself am 21 year old Asian and she is 26. The thing is i really want to become good friends with her to the point where i can i meet up with her outside of work and do stuff but its so damm hard for me to understand her. Sometimes she is really happy and nice and sometimes she just seems not intersted and almost cold. The fact that we do night shifts doesent really help. Sometimes i think that she may just look at me as a kid because of the age difference but after reading some posts on this forum that does not seem the case. I really want to get to know her better and maybe she will even open up to me in the future. What do you all think?
Ironside 49 | 10,626  
23 Dec 2009 /  #2
Zero Cool
**** me, not again!!!!!!

I think you should become a monk or smoke more weed!
BrutalButcher - | 391  
23 Dec 2009 /  #3
You can't understand her because you can't speak English. First ,it's not "friendship with a Polish women" but "with a Polish woman".

You are 5 years younger than her. She is much more mature than you are. Therefore, you can't understand her.

STop thinking Polish women are like this...ALL women are hard to decipher.

Grow up, kiddo.
f stop 25 | 2,513  
23 Dec 2009 /  #4
you really have figure out if this girl is into you or not. Be cold and objective, because even if everything else fits, if there in so physical attraction, your odd are not good. Unfortunately, and this is a gross generalization I know, a lot of Polish girls are attracted to more of a neandrethal type, and anything less than that they usually think they can control.. not that there is anything wrong with that!
BrutalButcher - | 391  
23 Dec 2009 /  #5
Polish girls are attracted to more of a neandrethal type,

They are into THIS?

sdf
OP Zero Cool 1 | 3  
23 Dec 2009 /  #6
Ironside

LOL i have already smoked too much weed i think its time i became a monk!
jonni 16 | 2,485  
23 Dec 2009 /  #7
Zero Cool

Watch her body language. Not her eyes - that's a man thing, but how she sits, what she does with her legs, etc. You will know very soon.

They are into THIS?

Mmmmm, give me his phone number!
OP Zero Cool 1 | 3  
23 Dec 2009 /  #8
You can't understand her because you can't speak English. First ,it's not "friendship with a Polish women" but "with a Polish woman".

You are 5 years younger than her. She is much more mature than you are. Therefore, you can't understand her.

STop thinking Polish women are like this...ALL women are hard to decipher.

Grow up, kiddo.

Firstly i can speak English it was a simple spelling mistake i made. Secondly you say i cannot understand because she is 5 years older then me. I belive this not be true. If you put the effort in with any woman and listen to her and get to know well i belive you can understand anyone. So you telling me i can't understand her because of 5 years age difference in my eyes is total BS. At what point in my first post did i say that i think 'All 'Polish women are like this'. Maybe you should read my post properly first before presuming what i think.

Cheerio
f stop 25 | 2,513  
23 Dec 2009 /  #9
BrutalButcher
That's weird coming from you. Neandrathal was a nod to what I perceived you're trying to represent.
But I might be wrong: I am curious about your name; are you a meat cutter, or a fan of wrestling or in a heavy metal band? How did you come up with your name?
beckski 12 | 1,617  
23 Dec 2009 /  #10
Sometimes she is really happy and nice and sometimes she just seems not intersted and almost cold.

Realistically, she's probably not interested in you. If she were interested, her feelings of happiness would genuinely outweigh her displays of coldness.
OP Zero Cool 1 | 3  
23 Dec 2009 /  #11
beckski

I don't think i mentioned previously if her happiness towards me outweighed her display of coldness towards me. Presuming without knowing the facts.
beckski 12 | 1,617  
23 Dec 2009 /  #12
Presuming without knowing the facts.

Time for a reality check guy, if you can't accept comments or advice from PF members.
Fargo 1 | 3  
23 Dec 2009 /  #13
What do you all think?

I think you should just take the bull by the horns. Break down the language barrier and ask her out on a date.
SzwedwPolsce 11 | 1,595  
24 Dec 2009 /  #14
Sounds like a typical beginning of friendship.

My advice:
Take a step back and observe the situation. Don't do so much at all, just treat her as a normal colleague, don't show so much feelings. Then you will see how she acts and you can determine how interested she is.
noreenb 7 | 557  
28 Dec 2009 /  #15
Some girls are reserved, some are spontaneous.

Take a step back and observe the situation.

It's a good advice imo.

Body language is hard to decipher both for women and men.
Sometimes people act, woman for sure now and then, because they are afraid of showing true emotions (maybe he is just kind and just likes me a bit, maybe most of Asians are always nice). It's a fear of being rejected. We don't know if men want to be in particular situation just a friend or "more than friend". We sometimes read your (men) signals but we can't be sure what they mean.

From your description Zero Cool I would say that she is just careful. And maybe she needs time to know who you are for her.

Sometimes she is really happy and nice and sometimes she just seems not interested and almost cold.

Mood swings. So natural for girls. It doesn't have to have a connection with you. Maybe she just has some problems.
Sokrates 8 | 3,346  
28 Dec 2009 /  #16
Some girls are reserved, some are sponteneous.

F*ck no, if a woman fancies you she's gonna go into fireworks mode regardless of what she's like everyday, ofc some spark more some less but in every case its obvious.

STop thinking Polish women are like this...ALL women are hard to decipher.

More then 90% of all Polish women born in Poland are raised to a certain cultural template, suck it up she's probably not interested in you for a variety of reasons but age might be pretty high.

Firstly i can speak English it was a simple spelling mistake i made. Secondly you say i cannot understand because she is 5 years older then me. I belive this not be true.

Thats because you're a moron but thats allright, people grow out of it, 5 years is a lot of times especially when its a guy thats younger.

Now for your post, the girl seems utterly uninterested in you and her mood is dependent on the outside life so no you dont get to f*ck her.

From your description Zero Cool I would say that she is just careful. And maybe she needs time to know who you are for her.

Yes because all females are fyck-o-mats just waiting to be screwed and could never reject a guy so they're obviously just careful.
noreenb 7 | 557  
28 Dec 2009 /  #17
Sokrates
F*ck no

F* yes. Not after 2 weeks!!!
Sokrates 8 | 3,346  
28 Dec 2009 /  #18
Actually from second one, i hate folk sayings but there's one thats good "a woman chooses the man who chooses her" so if she doesnt give a broken tampon about him after 2 weeks she just doesnt care.
noreenb 7 | 557  
28 Dec 2009 /  #19
Sokrates
if she doesnt give a broken tampon about him after 2 weeks she just doesnt care

Oh how much I disagree!!!
She doesn't know him well, he doesn't know her too.

And there are still somewhere people who look for relations, also friendship, not just f*!!!

You can call it "certain cultural template".
Sokrates 8 | 3,346  
28 Dec 2009 /  #20
Oh how much I disagree!!!

Thats because you're 15 and stupid.

She doesn't know him well, he doesn't know her too.

But you know him well so thats ok.

And there are still somewhere people who look for relations, also friendship, not just f*!!!

Yeah homosexuals.
noreenb 7 | 557  
28 Dec 2009 /  #21
Sokrates

Yes, yes, I am 15 and I am very stupid.
But you are 17 and you are very smart.
Because looking at woman as at a "fyck-o-mats" who just want to f*ck or "f* off" in other case, is a sign of being really adult and smart!

Have fun with "fyck-o-mats" who "just waiting to be screwed" mate!
Nika 2 | 507  
28 Dec 2009 /  #22
You are 5 years younger than her. She is much more mature than you are.

it's not always the case. Maturity is much more about what you've done/achieved in your life, the knowledge and experience that you've gained, the responsibilities that you have than about your age. A 21 years old who takes care of himself or/and his family is more mature that a 33 years old who still lives at home with mama and papa, food & drinks provided by the latters.

If you put the effort in with any woman and listen to her and get to know well

and here is the answer to your question, if you want to know if she's interested, you have to talk to her. Wait for the right time and place and ask her if she'd consider to be more than friends with you. It's the only way.

if a woman fancies you she's gonna go into fireworks mode regardless of what she's like everyday,

maybe she fancies him but for some reason she's not sure if she wants to start something with him, so she prefers to keep the distance? Maybe it's because he's her colleague and she doesn't want to get involved with someone from work, maybe she's got someone back home, maybe it's because he's Asian, not PL, not chirstian (if it's the case)?

Anyway Zero Cool, you won't know until you ask her.
BrutalButcher - | 391  
28 Dec 2009 /  #23
it's not always the case.

The boy sounds very childish, to be honest.
Nika 2 | 507  
28 Dec 2009 /  #24
he sounds more confused than childish to me...
BrutalButcher - | 391  
28 Dec 2009 /  #25
Let's agree that he's both....but to me..asking for advice on a forum is among the silliest things you can do. I mean, ask to friends or your uncle Ronnie, but a bunch of strangers on a forum might not help you succeed in your personal life.
Nika 2 | 507  
28 Dec 2009 /  #26
asking for advice on a forum is among the silliest things you can do.

in some cases it may be silly, in some cases it may be the only place where you can ask.
I was talking about maturity in general, not about this particular guy. I don't know him so can't tell anything about him.
PlasticPole 7 | 2,649  
28 Dec 2009 /  #27
I hate to be the one to tell you...chances are she's not interested and almost cold when she realizes you might want more than a work relationship. This thought enters her mind and she doesn't like you in that way, so she wonders what she can do without hurting your feelings. She might be thinking this guy is really getting on my nerves, I don't really want to be with him outside of work. Why can't he take a hint?
noreenb 7 | 557  
28 Dec 2009 /  #28
NikaWait for the right time and place and ask her if she'd consider to be more than friends with you.

Couldn't agree more.
Right time and place + an honest talk.
Observing the situation might help you to know her better, but waiting too long might cause being more and more uncertain about her.
mephias 11 | 304  
28 Dec 2009 /  #29
The thing is i really want to become good friends with her to the point where i can i meet up with her outside of work and do stuff but

You really want to be good friend or date with her ?

but its so damm hard for me to understand her.

It can be difficult with a girl you don't understand.

age difference but after reading some posts on this forum that does not seem the case.

Only believe % 10 of the things you read in this forum. And forget this % 10 in next 48 hours (That's what doctors say).

I really want to get to know her better and maybe she will even open up to me in the future.

Generally it is not a good idea to date with someone from work. But if you really want to know her better you can already do it at work. If you want to date her don't care what will be the result and talk to her and forget everything in 48 hours if the result is negative (Again doctor's advice).

It's best practice for a man to talk to a girl he likes and acting before thinking a lot.

Wish you success

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