Is this too much to expect?
In a word..Yes!
You certainly don't suffer from low self esteem.....you really do have a high opinion of yourself....but a very low one of the people who brought the woman you married into the world
I come from a background where men are strongly encouraged to stay as far away from the wife's family after marriage to prevent them getting their muddy hands in all your private business
what culture is that?...please enlighten me
My father in law takes charge and starts decorating with his wife without my permission
Only your permission is needed then, what about your wife..does she have a say in what happens in your
house........perhaps your wife asked her father to do it,
because your too busy admiring yourself to do it
highly intellectual and highly liberal man
Haven't seen much evidence of that in your post
When my Polish parents in law visit, I often feel like I am visting someone else's house when I come home. My children don't want to spend time with me (only Baba and Jadek) and my wife is spending all her time with her parents
They live in another country, of course they are going to make the most of the time they have with them when they're here
But I must admit I find the frequent visits by her parents irritating
they pop over when we need some help with childcare.
Talk about wanting your cake and eat it..