Polish Engagement and Wedding Traditions

I am not !!! you I just ask how come you meet a polish guy there I know many people go there is a major tourist place but not a cheaper one so not many poles going there . and why you dont ask the one you love and will get marry he can find out the info for you !!! why are you on the net asking things and I am been nice to tell you once I am also a out site that marry a pole and live here now !! if is love tell us how you meet him??????

it is love .. and not telling about my private life is i think it is my choice. he has been looking for it too but we are trying to compare which way is easier to get married Mauritius or Poland..... i am grateful for your help and i excuse myself if ever i did not well understood your words. sorry.

I forgive you and good luck with all the hassle I have to do it myself once you are here is much simple invite for the party !!!

all the best

:) thanks

can someone advise me as well

What do you want to know ?

I think it goes a bit like this in Poland:

If you want to marry a girl, you send your most socially influential friend or relative to her house with a bottle of vodka to negotiate with her and her parents. If they agree to marriage, they drink a toast with your friend and send him back to you to plan the wedding. If she refuses to marry you, she sends your friend home with a watermelon. Sounds like a good deal to me - either you have a wife or a tasty watermelon to eat. :)

At least, that's how marriage works in Poland according to Reymont and Sienkiewicz. Things might have changed recently. ;)

That was really interesting and funny to read........:)

Thing is, I remember when I was small. There was always a lot of discussion around a bottle of vodka whenever my Dad had his friends round.........brings back some memories that <s>

I am newbie to this site. I live in U.S Is it usual for todays newly marrieds Poles(young people) to skip honeymoon after their wedding? Also what is best(impersonal) gift for the couple? Thanks.

Not unusual...

Polish weddings !

- the bride and groom walk into the church together ( the groom meets his bride at her house and they drive to church together )
- before entering the reception room he carries the bride through a threshhold and they break glassess for good luck !
-lots of dancing , eating and drinking at the reception mostly for 2 days !
-the newlywedds remain with the guests do not go off for a honey moon
but remain at the reception

as a guest you don not give gifts but envelopes with cash and flowers ! - not skimping there, however much you can afford.

-think that summarises the polish wedding

If I ever fall in love in Poland and have to propose I will always remember this post advice... made me laugh :)

I have also read here that divorce rate is very high in P-land so maybe many guys should have took the watermelon and ran.

Gossia ~

thanks for the tip on gift giving. I have been trying to figure out what is a typical polish wedding gift.

As an (poor) American I will have to consider how generous to be and what is appropriate for the level of friendship.