I cheated on my girlfriend (I'm British, my gf is Polish)

I think anyone, man or woman, who sleeps with others while in a committed relationship lack both maturity and integrity, and therefore can't truly love anyone, but themselves. When one thinks of themself and opts for immediate gratification with someone other than their spouse/partner, they are displaying self-centered behavior....no regard for anyone but themself.....that's not love.

Yes,it is possible to have loved you while sleeping with other women.But it is possible that he phantasized other women when he was with you.There are many concepts of love.Desire,passion or deep feeling.Maybe your husband felt a sexual desire for other women but had feelings for you.I cannot know.Men in general are aroused by the wrong type of women while they find nice girls flat and not so sexual.

Yeah I agree you messed up best thing to do is give her space, dont bug her by phoning, texting etc! You will just have to give her time, and if you love her that much? pray she might come back to you!

You dont pee on your own door step!
Good luck

i do think its possible to be in love with someone and be sleeping with someone else... men in particular can easily separate love and sex.... I agree that it is selfish self centred behaviour but it doesnt mean that they cant still be in love with the other person...love comes in many guises.

And women easily confuse the two...its a genetic/societal thing...happens...all the time

very true. is it me or you who is obsessed with sex?

...well on this occasion.....as an older guy.......(LOL)...I will bow to your chronologically enhanced obsession......:)...its always a great thing to talk about.........well...do too....:)

how can one tell how old someone is on here? I estimate you to be in your 40s and you clearly have your opinion on me..

thanks....early 70s actually......


well...then see if you are right in your assumption..........spill the beanz.......

that was a joke Sapp....yeah...40s it is.......you are always cheating.......

what? cheating how? thats just my observation .. i havent had it verified it anywhere. you should know that a lady must never reveal her true age.. I am still young enough to party, but old enough to know better.

You midlands girls are all the same..........eyeing up the board talent......going out with married men...etc...suppose you spell the word shame.....minus the "h".....

i dont really understand that last comment Frank so I shall refrain from response... but its so nice of you to take an interest in my previous posts :)

Sapp...was going off on a tangent............forgive me...you said your current Polish guy was married

and your point is???????

cheating......eeeemmmm he has a wife......opinion on you....threads linking....your comment.........not mine......

i have no idea what you are talking about with regard to my comments.. yes my bf is legally still married, but they have been separated for 18 months now and yes he left his wife for me. I havent chosen to withold this information, but nor have I bragged about it, its just a fact. My life is my business and I hate those who form judgements without knowing the full facts.

.....oooohhhhh.........soz.........just going on the facts you did supply...no judgement made here Sapphire...ok?

look buddy, go to the nearest corner and jump in front the biggest moving bus you can find... you will then realize, without fail, that you are now under the bus!! yea buddy, that's it!!

Well, are these not called prostitutes, and don't they sleep with thousands of men...
even so I don't think women cheat less. They just will not admit to it so readily and may even fool themselves.


A man who marries is mistress creates an instant vacancy...

Really forget it. There is always the reason you did it in the first place, you wanna be looking at that!

You should have been thinking with the HEAD on your shoulders, instead of the one between your legs. I don't blame her if she doesn't forgive you; fidelity is very important to most Polish women.

There you have it my friend. If it was up to these girls, they would chop your equipment off and solve your problem forever.
Luckily for you it isn't up to them. It is up to the quality of your charm!

I think people who cheat have no morals and their is a God! If u cheat ur also a liar and sleezy.........People who cheat have lower self worth and poor relationship to God and humans. They simply care about self indulgence and being cruel. I never cheated and Im 42. My british boyfriend did and he went with an ex. I am a nice girl type and he went with a ***** who knew he was mine! Love is not lust.....love is loyal and desire to make love to the soul of the other........cheaters also get cheated on because they hang with low lifes in the end......I believe love is no cheating!

Well said Meusa, cant cheat love.

hi there, i know someone who has been in a simular situation as you. what you got to understand is that she is hurt and needs time to be on her own. Tell her that you love and you want to be with all the time. do what ever it takes to get her back, even if it take a month or 2. only commnicate with her by text or the net, no phone calls of face to face. if you was to send her a message every day saying how stupid you were, she may just give you another chance. one of the reason why i say only commnicate with her by text, or the internet, is due to that she has no pressure and she can say whats on her mind. if you were to talk to her or keep seeing her at this stage, she will hate you more and more, so its important that you give her some space. let her go and let her come back in her convience time. if she comes back, shes yours, if not, she never was. hope i have helped as i am with a polish girl my self.

Daffy, your close enough.

Don't think my GF is like that. She would probably - shout, scream, through a tantrum, say how bad irish doors are compared to Polish doors, go into a big rant about how in Poland they are given classes on how to open the doors with style and the education system concerning opening doors is so much superior.

But she still wouldn't be able to get the door open :-p

If you say so!

99nat122413 Nice! You said it perfectly! I am ashamed to say that I was cheated on and stuck around. He played the daily reminder game with me and it worked (among other things) All you can do is try to earn her trust back slowly. Baby steps. You thought things were tough before you cheated... just wait if she takes you back. If you are ready for the challenge then good luck. Once your cheated on, you never forget. You can forgive but you'll always wonder. No matter what she's always going to have the right to question you. It never goes away. In many ways it makes things stronger and others it makes things worse. Be strong and confident though, don't whimper and guilt her into taking you back. Be a man, admit your faults and work your arse off for the rest of your life making it right, because it will take that long.

Send her the biggest bouquet of flowers and bombard her with sms and talk. However be prepared for her leaving you or getting even by going with another guy. if you really loved her then you wouldn't do it?

So you wouldn't then?