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Polish Catholic & Jewish Love Relationships


JMN1040 3 | 4  
31 Aug 2008 /  #1
Polish Love Relationships involving the Roman Catholic & Jewish faith - Need advice!!

Note: posted under "Poland & the Jews" & got "white supremists" comments!!

Getting back to the concern of how I'm ever going to fit in as a Catholic in a Jewish family...last night I went to another family get together thanks to the invitation of my fiance where I was the only non-jewish female. Every time I go to these "get togethers" I am always bombarded later with my facts being twisted when submitted to the parents of my fiance by mostly the women who attend. Also, when I introduce myself to them they ask me a million questions including where I live, if I attended college, what I do for a living, etc. Since I'm proud to I put myself through college to achieve a respectable position I tell them what I do for a living (but I DON'T BRAG). A part of me is wondering if they're questionning me to see if I good enough for the family. I am never introduced at the family get togethers. My own family would never let my fiance be treated this way or even listen to this nonsense. Anyways, I'm mostly afraid that my relationship is "doomed" because my fiance thinks I'm overreacting & just need to not care about his family acceptance but yet he is around them 24/7. This is not the first time I felt rejected by a Jewish family. I pride myself in getting along with any family because I value family so much (that's why I'm on this site to learn about my own ancestory). Oh, by the way, I live in South Florida (not Alabama as someone thought on my previous comment) but there is still a lot of ignorant people around even though most hail from New York. You would think the area would be use to acceptance of diversity by now but there is still a stigma about Catholics and Jewish people mingling. Is there anywhere I can move where this is more tolerated? I know my fiance would be more open to that, he wants to get out of here because he believes it's full of ruthless people. Again, any help would be greatly appreciated.
mar - | 2  
17 Sep 2008 /  #2
It all depends what you are trying to accomplish. You can't make someone/family want you because you want them. If he is cool with if you ignore, then you all need to stop hanging out with the family. If you feel bad about it, then the relationship ain't going anywhere. Straight up! Just helping, it is prolly not because of you but something in the past. I don't know if it is hate or acceptance though. keep your head up!
LAGirl 9 | 496  
17 Sep 2008 /  #3
my ex husband was Jewish and I am not and we didnt work out but this is only one it doesnt matter what religion as long as you love eachother is what counts good luck.
Dekameron 1 | 146  
17 Sep 2008 /  #4
I can move where this is more tolerated

I'm sorry no, jewish people are 'racist' and chauvinistic about their religion, you're a goi, a non-jew and everywhere Jews treat you that way.
Moonlighting 31 | 233  
18 Sep 2008 /  #5
Yes. That's what I observed as well. As far as I'm concerned, I deliberately chose to always stay on my "cultural territory" and only date women matching my ethnic, religious and social origins to reduce the causes for failure. I wouldn't like to be dumped by somebody who suddenly realizes that I'm not the appropriate partner because she is submitted to social pressure. It's naive to think that love saves everything...
away guy 10 | 343  
18 Sep 2008 /  #6
Jews are the best !!!
Moonlighting 31 | 233  
19 Sep 2008 /  #7
I prefer golabki. They don't have bones. :-)
Dekameron 1 | 146  
19 Sep 2008 /  #8
Jews are the best !!!

Tried and tested by best german made hardware :))))
southern 75 | 7,096  
19 Sep 2008 /  #9
Jews are the best !!!

I prefer Fa.

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