you will always remain who you are and no 1 can change that.
I understand what you're trying to tell the girl, but I disagree. You can learn things from others and gain new insights and perspectives. You can learn to either love or hate yourself, but also, how people personally treat you on a daily basis greatly affects your own social behaviour in the long run.
Everybody changes a little, with each day that passes by. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.
But I agree that it's not at all a good thing to pretend to be someone you're not. It doesn't help people around you, and maybe more important for the girl, it'll doesn't help yourself either.
Old post anyway. :)