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Joined: 30 Aug 2007 / Female ♀
Last Post: 11 Jun 2008
Threads: Total: 19 / In This Archive: 18
Posts: Total: 111 / In This Archive: 101
From: newcastle
Speaks Polish?: a little
Interests: music drama, poland

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Debianco   
1 Sep 2007
Love / Sending flowers to my Polish boyfriend [73]

My Polish boyfriend of 7 months is in spain working att he moment.i ammissing himso i have sent him flowers.is this cool with polish guys? we are both romantic
Debianco   
1 Sep 2007
Love / Sending flowers to my Polish boyfriend [73]

thanksforyour commentsyeah guess he would prefer a bottledidtry and findan outlet on the internet that could deliever beerbut couldnt find one if anyone knowsof any in las palmas gran canaria please let me know.so flowers it was. bet all you guys would feel special
Debianco   
3 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

so i take it polish wives are quite happy for their husbands to earn the money send it to them. they both have lovers. seems the "ideal" marriage-why get married in the first place !!??? next question what about the english kohananas who are romanced by polish men what happens to them. polish men are good at hiding their marital status and so convincing. they say nie rozimiem alot. know that their english kohannas will never meet their polish wife and vice a versa.
Debianco   
3 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

you probably guessed i am seeing a polish guy. after two months he told me he was married!! he cried. i didnt believe him . i was so angry with him . i am confused by his behaviour. we get on so well-not just sex!!!!. he has many photos of us together and some gifts he has taken to poland. i have spoken to his sister and some of his friends. he is very pround of me. he went home for a few days -back soon because of contract work. on his return he still had many things in his case letters photos etc oif him and me and some he left in poland. he has no pictures of his wife. he has taken pictures of his family and friends and videos on his phone which he has given me free access to. he says he loves me 6months on. he is in spain at the moment has been for a month. we miss each other so much. we talk most days. when we are together he gets no phones calls from the "wife" we are together for several days. i am no fool i was married to a liar and a cheat- but this just doesnt add up. if he just wants a kohanna idont fit the bill- any advice please
Debianco   
3 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

believe me i have tried so has he twice we called it off but we keep getting pulled back. the feelings are so strong. i am capable of going to poland to find out. i dont want to i dont want to hurt him-i dont know what to do. we both cant handle leaving each other. i am in the north-he was moved down to cornwall-for two months i went down as much as i could to see him. longer each time-time inbetween getting shorter-need to be with him-i would follow him to the moon. i know their is some situation he is not telling him about-i just keep telling him how i feel about him -it is killing me-
Debianco   
3 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

my gut tells me its love-the feeling are right-the situation problematic-he doesnt know when he is back in england depends on the contract somtimes only gets a fews hours notice. he says he doesnt like spain and wants to come back to england and "make big love with me" he doesnt speak english very well. i want to fly out to see him-but he works 12-15 hours a day and he is shattered and he is uoset if he cant keep me his all. he is proud and feels he is letting me down and worries about money i spend on travel. i miss him so much it would be worth it even for a few hours. i have sent him flowers to his hotel he should get them today-i am a romantic!!
Debianco   
3 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

i hear what you are all saying and i have thought all this- i have done the do it and enjoy it thing-now i need to move on with or without him-i would like to think it would be with him. i am a giver but i am not going there again-gave too much to the x-husband. i dont want to be the other women i deserve more than that-you are right-if he is cheating on someone in poland-he could be cheating on me in spain-i have asked him about this-maybe he is just using my good nature and taking what he can. i have text him today asking for love , trust and truth and i will see what happens when he gets the flowers. maybe i should just stop the texts and calls and see how long it takes him to contact me

the wife is in gdynia. a farm
Debianco   
3 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

just to give you more information . i asked him why he had no photos of the wife-he just said no-he initially said he was single and sending money to poland to build his own house-and if it got serious he would maybe like to take me back to poland-this was a biggy-and i said wait and see what happens-now i am at this stage-iasked why the wife doesnt visit him (hence this thread)-he said no passport-i find it hard to believe she could not get a passport-he seems devoted to his 18year old sister and would like her to come to england- he does pay his way-but i know he doesnt have a lot of money and i am more fluid. he insisted on knowing how many previous serious relatioships i have had. and was upset to find out i am ten years older than him-i look younger than i am-age not a problem for me-why for him if i am just a kohanna?
Debianco   
3 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

thanks for your honesty Gossia-all what you say i have thought . i have said to him to finish if my age is a probem to him-he said no- i am in no hurry to marry after 20 years of a bad marrige. i am catholic my dad was polish- i am now beyond protocol-i follow my heart- i believe in love-i maybe romantic-but not stupid. i have told him to go find another kohanna - he says no. i do not look 10 years older than him maybe five. if he stays in england this would not be a problem. i could live anywhere in the world my job allows that-i have let love go before-put my needs second-not gona let go of something this wonderful-i understand his situation and i will not pressurise him my husband forced me agaisnt my better judgement i know what i need from a man personality and qualities and he just about does it for me. it is not a rebound and i have plenty of offers. i know he is in some turmoil AND HE HAS SOME DECISIONS TO MAKE. he is working in england away for the first time amd i thing his work mates are putting pressure on him. i know he has a good heart

love is a happiness thats what i want for him-he make me very happy
Debianco   
3 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

thanks you obviously followed your heart-but reading between the lines i think you think it is doomed what happened to you-the future is impossible to tell when i got married didnt think 20 years later i would be getting divorced
Debianco   
5 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

sapphire thank -you for the positive commets. i am separated from my husband divorce not final-i am catholic and my father was polish-so i understand polish-catholic values . my parents who held these values in high esteem are sadly now both deceased. i was brought up to belive in "marrige is forever" and family is very important and that god brings two people together. my ex is not catholic though we married in a catholic church and does not hold any values!!! i am so happy that slawek has come into my life eventhough i dont speak good polish and he speaks less english i have an intuition with him communication is not a problem-yet throughout my 20 year marriage poor communication was an issue. i am a realist aswel as a romantic and i know deep in my heart that these feelings of love are real on both sides and though i am aware of age,culture,finacial,religous and family commitments-i have three beautiful children-i am not sure if he has children-i believe in following your heart at all times and being true to yourself. true love always finds a way! slawek should be back in england soon and we are both looking forward to seeing each other -no you are right its not easy- but i am half polish and do not give up on my beliefs!
Debianco   
6 Sep 2007
Love / Sending flowers to my Polish boyfriend [73]

halo guys so whats wrong with spoiling someone you care about? i did try to organise food and beer to be sent to him and his friends he is in gran canaria las palmas-i l looked on the internet-telephoned las palmas tourist office and the hotel he is staying in to organise a treat for him. the hotel wouldnt take credit cards and i had no joy with the tourist office. so interflora it was. they send champayne in england but apparently not spain-i even tried to get a food hamper sent-no sucess there either. he loved the flowers anyway!-their beauty and fragrance reminding him of me! he has been away for a month. he works long hours 12-15 per day 7 days a week so i think he deserves treats!! if anyone knows of a polish restaurant in las palmas or anything else i could syrprise him with please inform me. he maybe back in england soon. so i need to be able to organise another treat soon-question i would be grateful to receive advice on how to make him feel really special-the polish way thanks
Debianco   
6 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

hello espana- thats my point! if a married couple are apart for too long and they dont make the effort to visit each other-then love is found elsewhere?? i know this is a generalisation and i know trust is important BUT if its all too easy-well. lets put it this way if you were really thirsty you would drink dirty water. what i mean is i dont understand why alot of the wives of the polish man who leave poland to make more money dont visit thier husbands.

also is it difficult for them to get a passport these days because i dont think it is??
Debianco   
6 Sep 2007
Love / Sending flowers to my Polish boyfriend [73]

everyone likes to receive flowers. when my guy buys me flowers-he chooses carefully bouquets with flowers at different stages of blooming as he said with the first ones he sent me as each bud grows so will our love. i love talking and being together of course, but when he is away such gestures as sending flowers speak volumes. thats why i sent him some. i know most of you guys would prefer beer or food-so you prefer to eat dead plants/animals then marval at their beauty firat-think about it lol
Debianco   
6 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

again this is my point-i think when the guys/wives are making no effort to be together there MUST be some marital problem in the first place. you have confirmed this. PLEASE CAN SOME ONE TELL ME IS IT DIFFICULT FOR PEOPLE IN POLAND TO OBTAIN A PASSPORT
Debianco   
6 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

THANK YOU RONEK-I AGREE WITH WHAT YOU SAY-SO IF A POLISH GUY TELLS ME HIS WIFE CANT VISIT BECAUSE SHE HAS NO PASSPORT-WHICH MAY BE TRUE BUT IF MONEY ISNT A PROBLEM-WHAT WOULD YOU THINK?? OPINION APPRECIATED

HI ESPANA WHAT DO YOUR TWO POLISH FRIENDS DO AS A JOB-IN SPAIN?
Debianco   
6 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

RONEK DO YOU MEAN HE IS HOPING TO GET AWAY WITH F***K***G around-he just lies maybe married maybe not so he cant be trusted-if he says he has a wife but has no pictures and gets no phone calls-what would you think-please be honest. i respect your opinion

or any ones opinion-thanks
Debianco   
6 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

those are the two reasons i think. he is not f******** as we have a loving relationship. so nothing has changed there. he has given me mixed messages about the wife-hence this thread. i have intuition that ronek explanation number two is nearer the truth. i am going through a divorce and he knows this-he doesnt seem to want to discuss his situation in poland. i am being honest to myself and dont want to be the cause of some wives misery-but i have a feeling he is in the same situation as me -but has some complications-his sister and friends know about me-he will time me in his own time. if it is reason number one-i would have found out by now
Debianco   
6 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

yep you are right we have been having a relationship for 7 months now and i need to know-he knows i love him and you all know it now and i will support him- i wont judge him he says he loves me-i think he just cant offer me what he would like-i need to reassure him all i need is his trust in my love-i am not sure how to say this in polish-please help with this-i am hoping he is back soon
Debianco   
6 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

ok michael-but why lie about passport etc=the firm he works for puts them in quite good accomodation and he has never said the firm wont sllow wifes i tell you this because when he was in falmouth they were in caravans-good ones and one of his kolega's-son and girlfriend turned up and stayed in the caravan-this caused a big problem because i found out no women were allowed on the caravan-when i visited slawek we stayed in hotels-

hi ronek not a question but something like this- "whatever your personal situation is in poland my love for you is true, deep and sincere and i will not judge you. please trust in my love as i trust in yours all i ask is the truth from your heart as i give you the truth from my heart. my love grows and blooms for you every second i cannot wait for your return as you know your love clothes me in sunshine the power of our love knows no bars it will conquer and defeat any fear. what more can i say only action speaks lounder than words. love is a happiness my darling"

do you think that sounds ok-advice please-or something like that
Debianco   
6 Sep 2007
Love / WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS? [75]

he is a happy fun loving freedom seeking person-qualities i like in him- and our relationship has been like this but its now got to the stage that its becoming serious or could potentially -dont want to force anything-but i know he is struggling with something-i just want the truth

thanks for the translation ronek- yeah i know what you mean a bit poetic -but why would it confuse? have you gor any suggestions of maybe waht i should write then? i do appreciate your opininion-i think we are on the same wavelenght-please take that as a compliment!